What happens is I don't get a negative though, I don't fear rejection, it is just shyness by itself! An intense feeling inside that makes me stay away from the girl. It would be great if I could find out the source of this. My shyness is so bad when I had to ring a person I almost rang the number a number of times, putting down the phone at the last number, then eventually getting to courage to ring. I can't stare at a girl for more than 1 second straight.

I need to meet new people alright. Here is my story (for Kazbadan):

I am not sure why I am shy, maybe cos of lack of experience with girls? I still haven't had my first kiss yet. I lost my mother to breast cancer when I was 3 and my Dad said I wasn't able to speak for months on end, and up to a year later I was asking where my mom was.

Anyway not speaking out obviously affected communications, and thus my development. I can remember being in Nursery (pre-school, around age 4) and I was always by myself. The other children used to play, but I was always by myself. I wasn't weird like. I can remember when I was 5 aswell and 2 boys that I played with, one of them whispered into the others ear saying for them to run away from me, and they did. That hurt a bit. When I wanted to play soccer (Futebol) the boys used to say no, we are playing 1V1, then another boy would come along and they'd play 1V1 and a goalie, and they'd say it's goalie and 1V1 now to me, they would never let me play.

Anyway for my education I was a bit overweight growing up, and this skinny dude used to always mock me, and I got in fights inside school aswell, even though I wasn't a trouble maker. The same happened in secondary school (junior high for americans), I used to get called names and people used to pick on me. I had some friends though, nice people, ones who wouldn't not pick on me. I was sociable to people I knew, I wasn't some loner in the corner, I was a happy child.

I dropped out of school in 5th year (1st year of high school for americans) after getting bullied, and continously harassed. I was offered multiple times a chance to fight fellas. The bullying hurt alright, I even carried a knife into school once cos I got affected so much. I didn't intend to use it, just for safety, but the school confiscated it and sent me home. When I left school I did nothing for 3 years straight. I'd be in home for weeks straight at the time, same 4 walls 24/7, only leaving to use the toilet and eat my dinner. Playing video games all the time. I went up to 18 and a half stone (13 and a half ATM) and was completely depressed. I moved out of home last year and am on the prozac and they revolutioned my way of thinking, it was like I was blind before, and I didn't notice it. I am starting to live my life again. From 15-18 was completely wasted. Maybe this story offers suggestions for why I am so shy?

I hope this post offers some info

No progress as of yet, definitely gonna try out the techniques in this thread though.

Also, my cousin gave me a technique, think it is good?:

1st off, lay your hands down by your side, eyes closed or open. When you are shy. feel the feeling in your brain, then move it down your neck, then your arms ,then down to your hands. Make a ball between your 2 hands and put all the shyness in this. Now put the ball in one hand and throw it far away as you can, away into the sky out to space, like Zeus throwing a star.

It will take 20 or 30 times to work first, but eventually you will be able to work it in seconds. He said it has helped really. I am 19, he is 29 and said it helps him talking to ladies, he feels less shy definitely.

Yes it IS a problem.

4 people I have met in the past week have said I am very shy.

Guys i'm serious, I can get really anxious when talking to gals, even over the phone.

Are there any exercises that can calm this down/get rid of it?

Hi, does the altered states that binaural beats (ie Boxed Nirvana II) help you into help your creative side a lot more?

Because I am songwriting and want to make sure I can be as original as possible, make better rhymes and express what I feel inside more. People say that you "have the talent or don't have it", but I am not so sure about that.

Do you think binaural beats help? (This also count for meditation on it's own aswell)

Stilnoct tablets.

I may be able to do it when meditating, but if I open my eyes I am back to waking awareness!

Hi MisterJingo, you seem like the forum skeptic on here    so i'd thought i'd ask a question:

People argue that evidence suggests suggests the brain is only associated with consciousness, and that scientists have not proved that the brain creates consciousnes. What is your point of view on this matter?

Actually physically. I was really tired and took some sleeping pills, but couldn't sleep still.

I felt I was "high" after a while, an altered state of consciousness. But normally if your eyes are open the altered state stops immediately, but not this time. I concentrated on a pen and was able to move it while in this state. My phone was next to it and it hit it and caused a noise, adding more validity.   It is real though, I am still properly conscious, not out of my mind, just in a slighty more relaxed state.

Light stuff like clothes are easier to move, I have not tried with heavier stuff yet. I think I am realising that this world is an illusion.  

Hi. I sometimes get very shy when thinking about approaching a girl in a night club. I am fine when talking (most of the time) but it is the approaching and striking a good conversation which is the hardest.

What techniques would you recommend for decreasing shyness? Think I should get to a deep state (like focus 10) and create a positive suggestions mp3?

Sometimes when I am in an altered state I can concentrate on a object, like a top and I can make it move by itself!

Gonna keep trying this

I was born in the republic of Ireland. Would I be able to live in London if I get a job over there? (without a british passport)

Hi. I hold an irish passport but am thinking of getting a british one aswell. My Mother was born in London and held a full british passport. Only thing is she died in 1990.

Would I be entitled to a full british passport cos my Mother had one?

We all know that they can produce a high. though the drug high can get active (ie moving about) but with meditation your making your body to go to sleep and calming your mind. If you move about during medittation you won't project, while you can do that with illeggal drugs, Cannabis, reefer, ectasy and the like.

What do you think is the difference between the two. And People say that drugs produce hallucinations, but are they real or not?

What do you think would be good specific suggestions?