Venus,
I will offer my .2 on the matter since I have been at this for sometime now..
The question your friend asks "is it a dream or is it real?". These questions are asked by every single human being here on earth, no one is different and we are all in the same boat of arriving at our own validation.
I have taken a FAQ from my web-site and will include this for you to review and communicate back to your friend.
This faq will be based on a skeptical view, validation, and comparison between dream and obe.
Please consider that this is not the final word, or can even come close to the research, work, time, patience, and experience involved to theorize. One just has to educate themselves and experience the OBE in it's truest, rawest nature.
Enjoy, and hope this helps!
Tvos
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What are your thoughts about skeptics and their views? I totally respect the views of skeptics—trying to prove that the out-of-body experience is false memories, hallucinatory, and generated in the brain. It’s always good to be objective towards this field of study. However, we should keep an open mind and not be quick to judge either.
What motivates a person to be passionate about ones work, research, study, and helping the community through spirituality, shouldn’t be judged. The skeptic is all about judgment, negativity, and proving the person’s ability false when it’s based on personal experience. I do agree that, if there is a false spiritualist who is taking advantage of people and their hard earned money, that individual should be exposed as fraud. But one should not capitalize on one moment where the spiritualist was inaccurate with information or personal experience.
This is an area that is based on personal experience for each and every one of us. I, personally, can document, narrate and validate all of my experiences and ‘preach to the choir’, but it comes down to the one person: you—actually taking the initiative to experience the OBE. If the medical or scientific community can’t explain the out-of-body or near- death experience, but can only ‘attempt’ to theorize, how can the skeptic even begin? Here are a few examples of the NDE/OBE to seriously think about:
Example 1: How do you explain the near-death experience of Pam Reynolds? During an operation to remove a tumor, she was able to accurately describe external events while she was in an out-of-body state. During her operation, Pam had no brain wave activity or other vital signs for over an hour.
Example 2: How do you explain a woman, who has been blind since birth, who has a near-death experience and is able to see? Not only is she able to view her body, she can see shapes, size, color, light, darkness, faces, and is also able to give accurate testimony that provides validation.
You can view the PDF files of Pam Reynolds and Vicky Noratuk in the APFaqs folder.
The skeptics do not have the multitude of OBEs, validations, static consistency of coincidence or synchronicities, and precognitive experiences. I’ve firsthand experience and taken the time to educate myself about faith, spirituality and world religions. How can you claim that this is all generated in the brain when you have never had a full wide awaked induced out-of-body or near-death experience?
Statistically speaking, the majority of religious and spiritual belief systems throughout the world are based on the faith and conviction that there is a spiritual rebirth after physical death. If the majority of the world believes in a divine creator—by whatever name one may call it—what credibility does the skeptic have in this? Why would I want to listen to a skeptic speaking in negative denials when I can be open, enhance my life, learn to love others and help the global community?
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Does the OBE prove that there is life after death?Personally, I’d say yes! For the person who has taken the time, gone through the process to validate, has had field experience, and has faith in God, there is no question. It’s plain and simple; go the distance and do the work!
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How can you tell an OBE from a lucid dream?One can tell by the level of awareness, the mechanics of the exit during the projection, validation, precognitive experience, etc. The OBE state reality is static and not dynamic. There’s a sparkle, magical, beauty to the astral world during the OBE. The memory is clear as to specific details—being able to recall the beginning, middle and end points of the experience that last for years. This also provides a clear distinction between an OBE and hallucinations, which fade quickly over time and which are not clear and coherent as an OBE is.
Being witness to seeing your physical body, while in the OBE state, is a good sign. Another key factor is the amount of time to enter the trance state and have the OBE. On record, I’ve been able to enter the trance state within 15-30 minutes and then project. In REM sleep, dreaming begins in sleep cycle 4 and 5—about 1.5 hours after the body has been asleep.
In a few OBEs, I noticed that at the time I was completely alert, conscious, and aware. I started to *daydream* which caught flight and when I momentarily snapped out of that daydream, I still found myself in the same environment,time,space etc. So I tested indepth daydreaming during the OBE and found it just like physical day dream. One moment you can be in a conversation with a friend via phone, and a few seconds later day dreaming of a vacation in the cayman islands but still in the conversation. The principle still remains on the other-side while in the OBE.