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Originally posted by kamil
Do You thing that because i think about her almost all the time which i have she cannot go "elsewhere"?
Wherever she is and whatever she is doing and why, it is HER choice and not "caused" by you. Your thoughts or actions cannot determine her actions unless she CHOOSES to allow herself to be influenced by you, in which case it is still her own responsibility. You are not responsible for what she did in life or what she chooses to do now on the other side. You are only responsible for your OWN decisions.
It's wonderful if you have loving thoughts about your wife or want to help her or tell her some things, but please be careful not to let your OWN life slip away in the meantime. Your life and what you choose to do with it now are what you are responsible for. There is plenty of help available to you, both from people here on this forum and from sources you may be less consciously aware of, but it IS there for you. God bless...
--Soulfire