Coping with Bullying!

[Nay]

*crosses arms over chest*

Sheesh, Stephen ya could have just PM'ed me with the link..[]

Nay []

[Lighthouse]

Hey Nay!!!

I thought that was directed to me []

Here's another EXCELLENT link... I have great experience with Bullies and understanding what makes people tick... that's a great deal of my work.  Lynne Namka has a great website dealing with Bullies, http://www.angriesout.com/

One think to keep in mind, whenever one is the target of bullying, the person doing the bullying sees in the victim something about themselves that they do not like (their weakness.)  There is much bully blame around and we need to recognize that the victim is not the only one hurting.  The Bully is hurting too... only they hide it better because they have been bullied themselves so much that they have built protective armor and a combative attitude to lash out at people before they themselves can be hurt again.  Sort of a "I'll get you before you can get me attitude."  And through their attack, they only make themselves feel worse (although they don't know it.)

Kerri

[Nick]

That's a very good website resource Stephen! [^] In fact, the schoolyard bully, unfortunately, can become the oppressive foreman, supervisor or bad co-worker in adult life. It's good to see that there are specific online resources for this problem.


All the best,
Nick

[Eol007]

All,

It is always sad when one sees people behaving badly towards one another... Sometimes it is difficult to see the source of ones fears and stress, and attribute it all sorts of sources!

One of the most insidious forms of this bad behaviour is Bullying, and often occurs not only in childhood, but also between adults! Something I have experienced as a victim myself – until I saw the wood for the trees!

This UK based website may provide some insight towards understanding, and finding means to coping with this often debilitating (to put it mildly) problem...

See: http://www.bullyonline.org/

Kind wishes,



Stephen []