So Close but yet so far!

[Upheval]

     I have been in love with this topic now for a number of years.  Since I read some of Robert Monreo's Books back in the day.  My problem is not the vibrations, its the excitement when I get them.  I have pretty good control over them.  I can start them when ever I want and usually if I wake up slowly they are there.  I have never had a OBE the way most poeple discribe them.  I did catch myself coming back from an OBE, I woke up to darkness and movement, then a slam into my body.  I immediately sat up in bed and said "that was f&#$* cool" Startled my wife.  When the vibrations get stronger I get excited because I know I am close.  I honestly think that playing with my process of falling asleep has disrupted my sleep pattern.  Now it seems that the only thing to ensure a good nights rest is alchohol.  I guess I need to practice more.  If any one has any suggestions I am will to try just about anything. 
   I read somewhere that if you have a dream that you are flying or driving then you are having an OBE.  I have these quite often. The edge of my sleep is very mentaly noisy.  I hear sounds and loud voices.  I have also heard my name spoken a couple of times.   
    I want to do this to comfirm my beliefs in several things and for the experiance.  There are other reasons but none for personal gains I assure you.