When death is a good thing

[Stookie]

I had a very close person in my life pass-away this week. It's not the first time, but this time was much different. He suffered for several days in a hospital bed on a ventalator, and it was awful to see. He seemed to be in a lot of pain just trying to breath. And when they were supposed to take him off, the only 2 doctors allowed to do it wouldn't be there for an extra day, hospital politics. An extra day of suffering was very hard for everyone to watch.

But when he finally passed, it didn't take long for the mood to change. At the viewing, everyone was in a very good mood. We were all very happy to see he doesn't have to go through anymore of that miserable condition he was in. There seemed to be a general understanding with everone that he still exists and is with us. I've spent the last several days with his family talking and thinking about his life, and we all feel very much at peace with what has happened.

I share this because in my life I've never experience the death of another person in this light before. It's hard to explain, but the feeling of loss isn't even the same. He truly did leave something that's with everyone who knew him. There is sadness, but also a kind of joy surrounding what he did here on earth.

[Nay]

I can very much relate with you.  At first I felt almost guilty for not being utterly torn up inside.  I  know better now and I have and will continue to teach my family that when I die they should not be overwhelmed by sadness.

May I ask, did you feel his presense at anytime?

Thanks for sharing this Stookie. 

[AndrewTheSinger]

It's hard for us to help from feeling powerless when death occurs, sometimes it can be relieving when we know that the person was in pain and agony, and now is not. Sorry to hear about your friend, that gift he gave you might be his way of assuring his friends that he is alright now and thankful for your concern.

[Stookie]

May I ask, did you feel his presense at anytime?

Mostly when I was with his family and we were talking about him and the things he did. I think everyone felt him there. I can only assume, but I feel that by us laughing and sharing happy memories we help him as he transitions.

Thanks guys.

[nwb]

ive only seen one dead body in my life and i knew the guy before he died, i always saw a blue color all over the guy, not his aura but his color, it was very strong, and when he died and i went to his funeral, i looked at his body and said "thats not him" all i could see was a shell, a lifeless body with no color whatsoever, it was not him at all ..so it was not sad to me at all because i could tell that the body was not him, and his soul was probably in a better place