need some help/advice from an experienced ap'er

[Sixx]

Hi,
recently my mother of 73 took ill, a bad case of diverticlosis, was in  a lot of pain and doesn't really want to be here anymore,
she may go and have another operation and has told me she doesn't think she will survive it if that happens, and doesn't want to go through that pain again.

if she does transition over to the np  in the near future I don't want her to be stuck anywhere, she has her fears and still clings to societies ways
if she needs to be retrieved can someone here do that?  or check  she has left safely?

Thankyou.

[Bluefirephoenix]

My guide is one of many healers who work with people when they pass over.  The people that do this work there are skilled and connected to God and will make every effort to help her. It is not unsual as a person starts to face their inevitable change and accept to it experience what your mother is experiencing. It is part of the developmental process to go through that. I have been with many people as they passed as a health care professional
and I want to ease your mind. What people see sometimes are shadows rather than real spirits of humans. Because they want to help and believe they can they generate spirits who need their help. It's not always what it seems. In any case, be assured that those working on the other side are competent and well  able to handle the clinging to the familiar. They are very loving and gentle with their charges.
WHile she is making this transition your love and support mean a lot to her even at times when she is not very lovable or doesn't seem to care about your being there. Be patient and loving with her.

[Xanth]

Hi,
recently my mother of 73 took ill, a bad case of diverticlosis, was in  a lot of pain and doesn't really want to be here anymore,
she may go and have another operation and has told me she doesn't think she will survive it if that happens, and doesn't want to go through that pain again.

if she does transition over to the np  in the near future I don't want her to be stuck anywhere, she has her fears and still clings to societies ways
if she needs to be retrieved can someone here do that?  or check  she has left safely?

Thankyou.

She sounds very lucid in her decision. 

As Blue said, I don't think she'll have any issues. 

[Sixx]

thanks for your replies,
yea shes had enough,old age can be cruel sometimes can't it

[Xanth]

thanks for your replies,
yea shes had enough,old age can be cruel sometimes can't it

I can honestly understand. 
I'd like to think that when life gave me enough signs... I'd probably decide the same.

I wish the best to you and your family. 

[Sixx]

thankyou blue  and Xanth  its comforting to hear 

[Bluefirephoenix]

The challenges at the end of life are the greatest ones that have to be faced in somones lifetime. Illness, loss of freedom, loss of close family members and friends. It is a time when the bonds that tie us to the earth during our lifetime are sometimes forcibly cut. If you understand  a little some of the challenges of the early part of the afterlife, you understand why these focible detachments are needed. The last and most difficult is loosing the physical body which has been used for a century in some cases.  Yes it's very difficult and emotionally hard.