How do you define yourself

[LightBeam]

I like to give examples with my own life when I make certain realizations. Here is the latest one.
I have always said about my job that I am a problem solver, and I take pride that I am knowledgeable and capable to lead people and help them solve problems. But I never thought that by defining this part of myself this way I will actually manifest circumstances at work in which problems will always appear so I can solve them. And surely enough, this happens often at work. I am very passionate about my job and I love my teams. I feel thrill when we brainstorm and save the day, every day, but I was thinking maybe it's time to take a different direction that I now prefer to experience and replace the problems with something else. So, I have been experimenting with re-defining my work personality as a discoverer of exciting things, and I have been noticing a shift. There are less people coming to me with questions and problems and more coming from a place of lets think how to improve the processes so we never encounter problems. And so we are now starting to act as innovators.

Here is another one. Be very careful what words come out of your mouth. Literally. Even if you don't mean what you are saying, the words still carry weight. When I was leaving my country and saying goodbye at the airport to my family, my little nieces were crying, I was crying, my sister and brother in law, all crying. My little nieces didn't want me to leave and I said "I promise I will be back very soon". I get on the plane and 30 min into the flight the Capitan announces that something is malfunctioning and we need to go back. So, we land, and wait for the issue to be fixed but the time would be too long so they cancelled the flight. There was no other flight that day. I called my sister and I said " guess what, I'm baaaack, come and get me lol". My nieces were ecstatic when they saw me a few hours later aha, they were screaming out of joy and I got a bonus night at home. So, my promise that I will be back VERY soon manifested within a few hours haha.

I think it's good for everyone to examine how are we defining ourselves and what do we speak of when we communicate with ourselves and with others. Catch what is the predominant theme of our thoughts and actions, reactions to problems, etc and if we want something to change we have to understand what definition about ourselves or life is triggering something that we do not prefer. When we understand the definition (which sometimes may be hidden from conscious view), then we can re-define and trigger something that we prefer to experience. It's fun to experiment. This is how we discover ourselves from new points of view.

[tides2dust]

This was very well written and confirms something for me.

Spirit is very much Alive.

I look at your experimentation as direct interaction with the Beloved. What an amazing world we live in.

Thank you for sharing.

[Nameless]

Thank YOU LightBeam, I needed this so much. As I read your words it came to me exactly how I tend to define my own self, and it aint pretty. Self-talk is a beast and has the power to destroy us in a single word. I may need help with this but I got no worries and you my friend are a fount of wisdom. Love, Hugs and Light to You Always.

[LightBeam]

As I read your words it came to me exactly how I tend to define my own self, and it aint pretty. Self-talk is a beast and has the power to destroy us in a single word.

It's interesting how we tend to function on autopilot for so long, myself included. When awareness stays in the shadow, the root cause of our experiences escape us, but I guess this is what we have chosen on a higher level in order to test our characters how will we find the way to re-discover who we are.

And to expand on definitions that we may think serve us and paint us in a positive way, but in actuality create challenges.
-I am a hard worker (you will manifest something hard to work on)
-I am a devoted parent (you will manifest circumstances in which you will never have time for yourself)
-belief that power and money make people evil (you will prevent financial abundance because you will not want to turn evil)
-belief that bad things happen to good people (if you perceive yourself as good, this belief will manifest bad things happening to you)

[Xanth]

Oh man... it's soooooo hard to stay positive in our own heads sometimes.  :/