I need to dreamwalk

[WindSong]

My uncle is aging, and stress is killing him. I've seen him get real upset recently about things that were mere annoyances in the past. He had a stroke at age 4, and on top of that, his mother drank during pregnancy. I've tried helping him in the waking state, but he's too stubborn to listen. How do I enter his dreams and help him? His room is next to mine. What oil/s should I apply and where on my body before I go to sleep? Frankincense I assume? Also, what is the farthest I can be from him during dreamwalking? I have connected with someone on the other side of the globe once after an AP of lust, but this is serious. I figure if I can connect with his pure soul, we can work things out better as it is my understanding that physical form is a significant limitation. I imagine him being a lot more expressive in pure form. I love him.

Thank you for listening, and considering my plight.

[Xanth]

You don't need to project in order to help him.

Just be there for him and Love him unconditionally. 
THAT is how you "connect with his pure soul". 

[Bluefirephoenix]

Frankinsence and myrrh is traditionally used for angelic work. Honestly the smoldering Frankinsense has a smell aikin to gasoline. I cannot see what the attraction is except maybe it covered up the normal odors present in 15th century life. It also tends to interfere with breathing ... it burns my resp tract and eyes. Myrrh is a little better. But if your wanting to use an aboriginal technique they usually use sage. White sage is most common but garden sage can actually work quite nicely as well. I used to belong to a shamanic lodge in nova scotia. They participated in sundance during the summer. The vision quests they did were done more or less the following way. Fasting is done for 4 days no food or water are taken. I do not recommend the part with no water. It's traditional in sundancing and aboriginal practice but it's hard on the body and kidneys in particular. Sweat lodge is done daily. This is basically a sauna. It's not practical to make this by yourself. There a specific type of rock that is used for the grandfathers the rocks are heated and placed in the lodge the lodge is closed and water poured over the rocks. The water contains sage and other herbs. Drumming starts the invocation and you stay in the lodge til the rocks cool off. More rocks are bought in. This was done several times with breaks between. The experience is similar in darkened and isolated room. After the lodge then meditation sometimes dancing and drumming this goes on through the nights. The lodges are done in the morning. One day of this and that night your starting to drift off physical. It's basically 4 days and 4 nights of praying. the dancing and drumming are done periodically. I find chanting to be more effective as drumming is distracting. Isolation is important during this time. A safety person will check in once a day usually in the morning to make sure the quester is not having any serious trouble physically. There may be shamanic practitioners near you that can facilitate this if your interested. Just make sure if you do the traditional fast without the water that your in good health.And make sure you come back to eating slowly afterwards

[Stillwater]

If he is not open to speaking about his problems, you have to communicate to him non-verbally. Do it with body language. Do it with things you do for him, and things you do with him. Show him how you feel rather than telling him. This is also much easier for women to do because it is more culturally accepted, so you already have an advantage there.

You can't have a full control of a person's actions, and you just have to accept that. That said, there are many ways to communicate!

[Bert23]

Just be there for him.