Donni_Joy
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« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2002, 21:35:00 » |
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Hi Robert
My three year old talks to fairies, which is delightful! Her acknowledgement of monsters, though, is hard to know how to deal with. She was ill recently, and told me in all seriousness that three monsters made her sick, and described them (in her limited speech!) She is also frightened of dark places. My other kids never showed any signs of being :fey" so this is all new to me. How do I deal with her fears, without negating her beliefs? Thanks.
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What you describe indicates that Pixie is a sensitive, probably also psychic and mediumistic as well. The latter mean that she radiates energy that provides substance for all spirit entities around her, which would otherwise remain undetected and too weak to even annoy anyone. This is difficult to handle, as its impossible to turn it off.
The standard passive countermeasures for small children will help. For example.....
First, as I am sure you are already doing, support her and believe her problem and let her know you are doing all you can to help. Andy and your other children should also support her, or at the very least keep their mouths shut. This in itself is a great help and stops any potential psychological problems from being created that would affect her development. Read pages 269 -72 of PPSD on this. Show these pages to anyone who disagrees with your approach, re its standard child psychology and supportable, eg, your own doctor could not disagree with the logic regardless of what he believes.
Give her a couple of night lights, reasonably bright, so she is not sleeping in darkness, and there are no shadows. Remove or rearrange any toys or pics that might look sinister at night. Give her a radio tuned to a classical station, or a CD player set on repeat for a nice kiddy CD, playing on low all night, or at least while she is falling asleep, and at times when she wakes and is restless.
Fumigate your house, with either sufur powder or hot chilli peppers and black mustard seeds. See PPSD for directions, re sulfur is poisonous and chilli and mustard seeds give off viscious fumes. Remove all animals.
Taking her to bed with you also helps a lot, especially if she is disturbed. If she is sleeping through the night ok, presleep is her most vulnerable time, so this should be covered so she falls to sleep in security.
Creating a ritual where she draws and colours in or paints each of the monsters, and then says some words (make up something) and ritually cuts them up into little pieces with a 'special' pair of scizzors (use them for nothing else) would help. If you have a fire, she can feed the pieces into the fire, reciting a simply positive mantra or affirmation. EG: "scizzors cut; fire burns, and monsters turn to smoke".
Affirmations would also help. Teach her a really simple one, or a prayer.
A little sliced garlic around her bed, and some rubbed into her feet, will also help.
A rosemary pot plant near her bed would also help.
Fresh flowers also help.
Teach her to visualize/imagine white light pouring into her head, and black fluid leaking out of her feet, while she showers or bathes. Tell her this fills her with white light, and that this keeps the monsters away.
Take her to church and show her bibles and crosses, and then get her some of her own, and put them near her bed for protection.
If she is having disturbing presleep imagery, teach her the unicorn method, eg, how to imagine friendly but brave white unicorns with sharp horns and flashing hoofs, charging around in her mind breaking up any scary imagery. I use this method myself and it really helps.
When this type of thing starts to manifest, its best to use only passive countermeasures, and fine tune or add to them as necessary. Explain everything to Pixie at her level in a non frightening way. This will help her feel more secure, and to know that you are 'doing' something postive to help.
I do not advise any direct or confrontational procedures, apart from water walking when necessary..
You can explain, if she asks, that the monsters come from the imaginations of other people.
Take care, Robert.
"A balance of perspective must be maintained in order to preserve reasonable logic and truth." Robert the Brute, 2002
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