Free Love!! Get it while it's hot!!

[Kodemaster]

quote:Originally posted by Reality

Oh that's so true! A true smile supported by happy/funny feelings works like a charm! (every girl will notice I tell ya! )

Now if will work on boys, that would be great!!! []

[Kodemaster]

quote:Originally posted by BlackTalon
I duno, guess theres nothing wrong if he thinks you like him..

I second that...unless he's some creepy guy that won't leave ya alone []

[boydster]

quote:Originally posted by runlola




What about when you smile at a guy & the nutball thinks you want him. [8D]

Something makes me think that you know how to handle this situation.....

Here's a question; I've met certain people during my life and I felt "helplesss, but to love them". The feeling was involuntary, the other person had done nothing for me at all and yet I felt closer and more kindly to them than I feel even for my own relatives. The other person isn't even attractive in a "relationship" type of way, and gender has nothing to do with it. It seems to be at a soul level.

What is this? I have my opinions, but I'm curious as to what others think.

[boydster]

I see people as musical notes. And sometimes you run into someone who makes a relatively harmonious musical chord with your note. I think it takes this, as well as (perhaps) past life recognition and affinity.

Otherwise, you get these relationships where people hit it off really hot in one dimension, but they annoy each other the rest of the time.

Has anyone else ever experienced one of these (the one dimensional) types of relationships? I know that I'm on my second marriage....[:I]

[Reality]

quote:Originally posted by runlola




What about when you smile at a guy & the nutball thinks you want him. [8D]

Yeah I once read it goes like this.

When a guy smiles at a girl, she'il rather think: hey you look friendly.

While when a girl smiles at a guy, he rather interpret it like: she wants to have sex with me.

lol!!! []

Reality[8D]

[jilola]

Boydster:

quote:What is this? I have my opinions, but I'm curious as to what others think.

That would be Love(tm), the original feeling not the commodity love we are used to accepting as a substitute.

The cohesive force between souls.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[jilola]

Well, some souls have a closer relation as indivual reflections of the totality of existence than others. The ones we feel the spontaneous and inexplicable affinity and love are closer to our reality perspective and our existence than others.

They are, like you said, vibrating on or near the same frequency or something to that effect. The intuitive connection between you and the other person is more via the raw reality level than via the intellectual level where the commodity love comes into picture. To put in in frequency terms you both share a resonant frequency/overtone and thus it's easier to perceive the connection.


2cents & L&L
Jouni

[jilola]

To paraphrase the bald kid form Matrix:

"There is no special long-distance frequency detector"

I had to get that off my brain. Too funny but probably not universal comedy.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[jilola]

Just to pass a seriousarysm. A brainstone?

Love is what we are imprinted not to perceive and when we acidentally do penetrate the conditioning we are left steamrolled and crocheted with pink and green daffodils by the sheer enormity of the realization.
We then promptly resort to fleeing the scene of love and reason like bugger to explain it away without having to admit there is something more to love beyond mere hydraulics and prenuptial agreements.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[kiauma]

I am the lover
openly trusting you,
Fear,
faithfully accepting your Self,
Intolerant.

I am the lover
drinking the burning sand
of your narrow perspectives
and making love
to the consuming darkness
of your egoistic needs.

I am the lover
dancing in the pastoral softness
of the meadow of the winds of harmony
under the sun of illumination
through the grasses of affection
and the waters of understanding
- where we grow.

I am the lover
lightheartedly making music
from his flute
as the wolves
try to tear him to bits
to feed their hunger.

Thus is the nature of love
Thus is the nature of the wolf

If only beasts could dance...

[jilola]

Kiauma: Nice one. Original or borrowed?

Runlola: Yep, that's what I meant. But is the mind pulling back you or something you've been imprinted with?

Love is a frightening proposition.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[kiauma]

Original, though several years old.

I thought it appropriate.

[jilola]

An interesting rendering of the topic. There seems to be more between the lines than on the lines.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[jilola]

Runlola: Oh yeah, babby yeah. You are the one who decides what love is and (w)ho(w) to love!
Not the society, not other people.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[kiauma]

Doesn't there.  []

I think I'll add a line...

[Lighthouse]

quote:Originally posted by jilola

Well, some souls have a closer relation as indivual reflections of the totality of existence than others. The ones we feel the spontaneous and inexplicable affinity and love are closer to our reality perspective and our existence than others.

Jouni,

I think the more I'm growing, the greater my personal experience of Love is wanting to be expressed.  There are a few men in my life who I have a great affinity for.  Each of them has very similar qualities that I admire and expresses themselves in a similar manner, from similar points of view or seemingly similar observations of reality.  I love each of them tremendously and would love to say we are on the same wavelength, yet, I feel that in a way, they are each more in touch with who they really are than I am.  I am striving to know who I really am, yet do not feel I have much to offer any of them.  However, each of them willingly and joyfully gives their affection to me in their own way, through feelings or words and makes me feel as if I am also gifting them something in return.  

Today, I caught myself off guard as during fellowship after church (eating) my minister came up behind me and placing his hand on my back, leaned over my shoulder to see what was on the food table.  I spontaneously gave him a kiss on the cheek and kind of caught myself off guard.  It was so quick but such an authentic and natural response.  I have a great affinity for him, yet this is just a feeling and has never been expressed or acknowledged between the two of us and I feel it was just my soul seeking expression and the opportunity presented itself and it happened before I had time to think.  

Now back to Runlola I think the Unconditional portion of love is that ultimately if we were living as authentic unconditional expressions of love, these types of things would not take us off guard.  They would be natural and expressed regularly.  However, because we have imposed so many limitations and conditions on our love, how to express it, to whom, under what circumstance, when, etc, etc... we shame ourselves when we authentically express love by  kissing someone on the cheek.   We are afraid of "impropriety" and protocol and what people will think and will they take it the wrong way and I've commited myself to this one and you've commited yourself to that one, etc, etc.   We've placed so many "conditions" on our love that we make ourselves feel unsafe because we're so worried about what others will think of us. (as you've already stated in far fewer words)  

I don't really remember what my original point was so I'll stop now []

Kerri

[Lighthouse]

Love is Love and seeks expression in whatever form that expression feels most natural.  It really has nothing to do with "physical" love... you can be physical with someone, have a "great sex life" even and not feel Love for them.  If one is not a "touchy feely" person, there's nothing wrong with that as long as that person is expressing themselves in their most natural form.  If on the other hand, one is trying to restrain their natural form of expression because of some preconceived notions about propriety and has an urge to express themselves by giving someone a hug or kiss but are merely practicing self restraint, then they are then not living true to themselves.

Jouni I remembered my point in the last post.  Are you saying that the "affinity and love that is closer to our reality perspective." is a person who is basically at the same level of evolution?  Like I said before, I feel I have a great connection with many yet, I feel they have much to show me so I would say they resonate at a slightly higher "reality perspective" than I do.  Is this then where I'm heading and not where I am?  Or am I slightly blinded from my own contribution and we resonate at basically the same "reality perspective"... perhaps I just don't know my own gifts to them?

Kerri

[Lighthouse]

quote:

I don't think you can have a great sex life without love but that's just my opinion.

I personally agree with your assessment but it depends upon your definition of great sex life... which is why it was in quotes.  To many, having lots of sex is considered a "great sex life" but it again, depends upon your perception.  I'm talking about when it's purely physical... then there may be lots of sex, but no real sharing and intimacy.  If one is not in touch with their emotional/spiritual side, lots of sex can be the equivalent to a great sex life... but the physical may be the only part that is valued in circumstances like these (the conquest so to speak.)  In which case, the person(s) would not know what great sex is so you are of course right.

Kerri

[jilola]

Lighthouse:
I think you mean this:

quote:The ones we feel the spontaneous and inexplicable affinity and love are closer to our reality perspective and our existence than others.

What I mean is that those we have what some call a life contract (an agreement to provide and receive something to/form each ther during a shared lifetime) trigger a spontaneous feeling of Love and affection. The feeling just is there.

2cents & L&L
Jouni

[jilola]

Here's a thought that came to me the other day.
It sprung from thinking about the hippie movement and  the idea of free love.
True to myself I initially I cast the idea as a slogan "Love is free, it's sex that costs."

After a moment of introspection and a lot of meditation something I feel is profound came to me. You can't deserve or earn love. There's nothing you can do to earn it. You can only receive it when it's freely given. Conversely you should give your love freely and without the expectation of a reward.  Trite huh?

But when you think about love earned there's always the notion of obligation. "I did this and that and now you gotta love me."
Along the same train of thought, separating love from any exchange of favours or obligation frees it from any constraint of time, place or physical proximity. Love goes on even when you're not with the one you love or even if you can't stahd to be with the one you love.

There is, after all, only one ind of love but several ways of expressing it.

2cents & L&L
jouni