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I didn't mean people had to go and ask questions in the other thread, I posted that because peoples questions might already be answered there and simply because of the amount of info in it. I always intended to answer all questions posted here.

But there's so much, I couldn't post it all here, I didn't know what else to do, sorry.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! TEACH ME HOW! thats amazing!!! I cant even count the ways in which i could benift from that... infact I believe I this is the exact thing i've been looking for (without actually doing any looking i just knew this is what i needed) in regards to a certain hiccup im having in learning photoreading.

Well it's all there in that other thread, I'd be happy to answer any specific questions you have. Did you read it all?

Hi, recently I posted a question over at Astral Dynamics asking for information about achieving fluid movement of my eyes.

"I'd like any info and or opinions on the conscious control I have achieved over my eyes during the last few days.

Who would have thought that playing with my eyes could do so much?

I can now focus freely throughout my surroundings my eyes flowing perfectly over everything and not "getting stuck" to whats underneath anymore (achieved control of the movement). I can focus at will on empty space now and my eyes wont be "pulled" to what's behind. I have conscious control of the focus of my eyes.

I can also open and close my iris's at will, not only that but if I widen the focus of my eyes enough it activates my brow centre (and makes the lights flicker).

The way I see has changed, I have a much wider field of focus, I don't flinch as much and can catch things thrown at me without even flinching my pupils.

My eyes also now adapt to different levels of light instantly, coming out of a dark room into the light doesn't hurt anymore at all, also my eyes adapt to darkness instantly as well.

Achieving this (I've only scratched the surface so far) involved much balancing of my brain hemispheres which I also now have full conscious control over. Now my mind is totally focused at all times naturally (and before this I couldn't sit through ten minutes of breath awareness) and it has CURED my A.D.D. And there is soooo many more wierd and wonderful things!

Thank you Universe!

I have never heard of anything like this and I can't find any info on the net. Who else has achieved this or has any info? I basically am just trying to expand my awareness of this amazing this that I have unwittingly begun.

Thank You"

The thread however becomes me teaching people how to achieve this (and I love teaching this)!

Comments? Questions? Let me know.

Awake-and-Aware

I don't believe a man content with himself would believe in higher status or superiority. You'd expect him to lead toward the contrary, unity.

Does a baby smile in submission or because it's happy?

I'd agree that some people lose themselves trying to be somthing they are not. I don't agree with setting boundries to how the person must walk and smile or act toward others for them to be a self content person.

-AM

I use the terms "higher status" and "superior" very loosely, I don't mean "better than" in any way, just totally unnaffected by certain things (such as peoples opinions of you). A better description would be "unthreatened" or "not lower than you in status in anyway". I'm just using these words to convey the inner attitude of security and contentment.

What you said about unity is absoluetly true, understanding all of this has lead me to understand how we are all one, we are all the same person, each of us doing the exact same thing constantly despite what it looks like. No matter what anyone else ever does just know that if you were that person you would do precisely what they did, for exactly the same reasons in the very same way despite what you feel about what they did.

I'm not setting boundries about how people must walk and talk in order for them to be self confident, I'm pointing out what effects certain states of mind have on a persons mannerisms.

A baby smiles purely because he is happy, he has no idea of the concept of submission at this stage of his life, but his natural insticts will fill him in as he grows. Try going about your day without smiling at all, look people in the eye, never smile, but carry on acting like you. Watch how people react to you. They'll see you as being dominent, because you have shown no submission at all. (This is all subconscious).

ultimately the programs our brain picks up are learnt from our life experiences growing up. Its the world around us that shapes us when we're young. When we're older we can think more freely for oursevles but still most of those programs we picked up from our childhood still just run in the background automatically forming our personality.

in short... humans are not machines but when given the chance they will behave like one!!!

That is somewhat true, the environment will effect the "personality" of a child growing up, but children are the ones with the free-est thought, they haven't had time for all the illusions to become a part of who they are, the biggest being time.

A childs life is nothing but the "here" and "now" and what it contains, no timeline, no yesterday or tomorrow unless he brings it into the here and now inside his mind, something that he will do increasingly as he gets older until the here and now is diluted and weak. At the center of his here and now he will become a point on a timeline (ageline) in his own mind, with an amount of time "lived" and a vague amount of time left to live, an amount the the day gone and a certain amount of time remaining, every year along with the rest of the world he advances himself one step closer to old age along his internal illusion.

Why did time pass so slowly when we were young? As opposed to how fast it seems to pass now in comparison?

Because the only time that exists to a child is now, as adults we have in our heads the whole day, week maybe even month or year, we need to always know the time or we feel lost, we need to know that point where we are between waking up and going to bed.

Time becomes our biggest illusion and society our second. No child can comprehend the concept of money and working to earn it until hes lived around it long enough to pick it up.

What do people wish for their children, what do people look at in someone to see if their life is "wasted" or not? A good job that will earn them lot's of money. Let's face it, in our society the meaning of life is a Job and dependence on money, without this you die.

A few years after being born every single child is placed into school and they are forced against their will (if neseccary) to prepare for over a decade for the most important thing in life, a job.

But before any of this is understood and accepted as the way of the world a child intuitively exists free of these illusions (that are difficult to regain). Children are more in touch with the "spiritual planes" intuition and such. Why? Because they aren't as locked into illusion as adults are. A child is here, now, not a point on a timeline, not standing amidst a stream of time flowing into the past, he is right here right now living his life because he was born to live not to work.

Well you have to understand the definition of the word machine = a mechanical or electrical device that performs or assists in the performance of human tasks, or is used for amusement (like a pinball machine).

ELECTRICAL, or MECHANICAL device to do human tasks.

We aren't machines, that's a fact.
But, we are auto-matic.
We are programmed to do exactly what evolution needs to progress and we do this auto-maticly.
We have no connection to any other entity like pc's connected to electricity.
We aren't connected to anything but we have an auto-matic system in our brains.

We are self-working independant entities, and we have a reason for existing.

But beside that, we also have absolutely no choice.
It may seem like that just like everything "seems" to us, an illusion.
We have no choice, because we aren't even here.
"Me" As a free entity, do not exist.
What I do and will do will be auto-maticly chosen depending on my brains subconscious / time / space

Oh no no no! Recognising that is not the end of it, you do have choice if only you can uncover it, you do exist even though you are an illusion, illusions exist too! If our reality is an illusion and ourbodies are an illusion and our minds are an illusion then reality is an illusion meaning that the illusions surrounding us ARE REAL!

Reality being an illusion doesn't mean that our reality doesn't exist or is fake, reality is always 100% real no matter what illusions we create for ourselves to live in.

It's like being in one of those mazes that are made of mirrors. You can see yourself everywhere, you can't tell what is a real path and what isn't, you are lost trying to find your way out of the illusion, but you can't simply walk through the mirrors as though they aren't real, because they are real, even though they aren't.

Our illusions are made of "reality" making them real to us. When searching for answers regarding our illusions it's best to forget about reality and illusion, real and not real, simply become aware of nature, and what happens naturally of it's own accord with no conscious effort on anyones part. Because "real" and "not real" are two opposites within existence of duality which is also illusion. Things like "good"/"bad", me/you, light/dark, alive/dead.

What we define as real and not real are two opposites, they simply are not and can not be each other and is a fundamental fact of our consciousness in an existence of duality, and plays a large part in our illusions and their maintainence.

"Real" and "not real" are not actually two separate things or opposite things , it is just one thing that our existence divides into two opposites. We have "real" and "not real" but in reality (in triality) there is only "Real" because "not real" doesn't exist, it's not real, never was and never can be. But it consists of our two opposites together as one, and this is the same for every single two opposites in our existence.

Anyway I'm rambling, and the keys on my keyboard are melting, so best to say bye for now.

Bye
Awake-and-Aware

I don't get why people keep telling this kid that he hasn't got a problem, it's up to him if he's got a problem or not isn't it?

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"Do you know that by achieving total contentment with oneself and rising above any and all need for the approval of others they instictively recognise you as higher status? Only someone of the highest status doesn't concern himself with how others think of him."

Awake-and-Aware

Explain.

Well, it's a little bit beyond getting rid of a need for attention, but the phrase "total contentment" was just a quick grab at a few words to quickly label it, meaning that it's not a very good name for it:)

It's beyond not needing or wanting attention, its not needing or wanting anyones approval (unless you want to want it of course). When someone needs your approval it's obvious and annoying as hell to everyone (unless you like the power!). Basically everything he does or says screams "I need you to approve of me!"
Things like following you around, agreeing with everything you say or do, getting right next to your ear screaming "I NEED YOUR APPROVAL!!"
Of course this depends on how needy he his and his personality. Someone could be very quiet and shy due to worrying about everyones approval of him.

My point is this: You are ALWAYS, 100% of the time expressing your need for approval through everything you do, and so is everyone who you have ever met or will meet, every second of everyones life. There's no hiding it (unless you try to pretend, in which case it can either make it better or worse I suppose).

This is obvious of course. The rule applies even if you don't have any need for approval, because that's exactly what you'll be expressing, through your body language (relaxed, you don't orient yourself towards the other person), voice tone and words (no signs of nervousness or need), and personality. Some personality examples:
You walk at your own pace, no matter how far ahead or behind everyone else ends up, that never happens though, they always adopt your pace, especially when they see how totally unaffected you are about them walking at a different speed. Of course if there's a genuine hurry and you're walking slowly expect to be told to hurry up.
People will be able to tell instantly (or near enough) that you are "genuine", because you can never stop expressing it to everyone in every direction. As to what I mean by "genuine", every action, word and expression is showing that you don't need anyones approval (this all happens subconsciously btw, you don't need to consciously recognize anything). It is subconsciously also that you are recognize to be "genuine". Think of this hidden (subconscious) part of what "no-need-for-approval" means. If you have no need for someones approval then you have no need to lie or be dishonest, because their approval means nothing to you. And if you always (or usually) are honest people will value and respect your opinions, praise and criticisms much more, knowing that your words are honest.
People's opinions won't effect you, you'll listen to whatever music you like no matter how much everyone else moans about it or makes fun of it. You make fun back, you say "Oh don't you like it? That means one of us has got bad taste, and since I'm immune to all forms of bad taste, it must be you " Then turn it up. (In a playful cocky kinda way, not like an**hole).
One other thing is that you smile a lot less, smiling is a submission signal. You don't smile, you don't submit yourself to their approval and this is recognized subconsciously by everyone. Most people react to this by trying to get your approval, because all that smiling and laughing isn't there to relieve the tension anymore, you are totally unaffected by it, completely comfortable and in control of yourself, this makes the tension twice as tense for the other person (a person who doesn't care either way about your approval won't feel this tension.)
The other person squirming under the tension will be smiling and laughing pretty much constantly, trying to make you do the same to break the tension. But someone who has no need for this persons approval will be totally oblivious to that tension and therefore will never break it.

People will recognize you as either equal (people who don't need your approval) or as slightly superior/higher status (showing no submission, concern) by everyone else.

Just imagine being or being with this kind of person, their control, confidence, and congruity is never less then obvious.

It's only a very slight superiority though, enough for you to be comfortable and relaxed, be confident in and be in control of yourself, you won't be submissive but you won't be aggressive either. You can show this by having fun, being playful or making jokes. Your security and comfort shine through.

If you get too superior you become Mr. A**hole

Awake-and-Aware

Don't believe that guy, status is more important.
Don't lose touch with reality.

Do you know that by achieving total contentment with oneself and rising above any and all need for the approval of others they instictively recognise you as higher status? Only someone of the highest status doesn't concern himself with how others think of him.

Awake-and-Aware

Ok, you can't change your subconscious that easily if you're over 15 to be honest...

Yes you can, you can change your subconscious mind instantly, it's isolating the right thing to change that can be difficult.

So basically what you're saying to the original poster is how he feels is wrong? That he shouldn't want to be free of this problem he asked for help with? That he should learn to live with it? Get over it?

You're putting too much emphasis on other people, you lost focus of the question. He stated a problem, and asked how to achieve a desired solution. He didn't ask if he was allowed to have this problem.

I don't mean to sound like I'm telling you off, if it came across that way.

And you will get their approval.

Or you could become whole, so you are content (or at least comfortable) with yourself and your ability to remain focused and in control of your own life and mind and other people will seek your approval.

Awake-and-Aware

I think that due to your lonely childhood you have developed an unconscious instinctive reaction to seek attention constantly to prevent everyone from leaving you alone again. Subconsciously you are clinging to everyone and your grip is very loose, they could all slip away at any second so you need to put all you've got into holding on forever. This (your subconscious mind's) view of the situation is wrong, it doesn't match reality (or more specifically, it doesn't match your will) and this is where both the problem and the solution will be found.

In a nutshell your subconscious needs to be trained. You can't simply decide to believe something else in your subconscious, you have to change it's mind.

Now, you'll probably be able to do a much better job of getting to the specific roots and causes than me but I'll give you a start.

First, know that it is possible for you to heal yourself, no tools or anything, just your self.

Then I recommend you examining your thoughts while you are seeking attention. Just keep in mind that your subconscious is holding on to everyone not wanting to be left alone. And just look, and feel, and notice all you can within yourself at this time. Get to know your enemy.

Second, you need to teach your subconscious that being alone and/or not have people's attention is OK. It needs to be shown that it won't be alone if it doesn't have attention.

Be alone, but don't force it, find something you can do, something you enjoy, and spend some time enjoying be alone.

Always pay attention to what's happening inside you, that's where you'll find clues and answers that will guide you to recovery.

After this you should consciously "not" attract attention from anyone. Keep totally focused on that alone. Do it for as long as you can, as often as you can.

You're taking your subconscious mind by the hand, and showing it that there are no monsters in that dark corner. And everntually it will believe you.

Awake-and-Aware

Wow, there's a lot 'try's there, too many I think.

If you try to be liked, they will try to like you... and fail.

How people act towards you comes from you, not them.

Trying to be liked = "No one likes me" (and your reality is born).

Examine yourself, try to find where morality ends and "trying to liked" begins.

Morality = an act of kindness

Trying to be liked = an act of kindness expecting something in return

Trying is emotionally reaching out and pulling people towards you, to fill the hole you feel inside. When people are being pulled the natural reaction is to resist capture.

You never critisize or say anything bad about people? Do you know what that screams to everyone? "No one likes me, please like me". Morality and neediness must be separated.
Critisize if the critisism is true (and warrants mention), otherwise you are hiding in fear. Critisize in a helpful manner, don't just let them know of the critisism, that just makes you sound like prick. Let them know that it's not really a bad thing, show that you understand why they are this way and that is based on real reasons, good reasons (because they are good to them). Then offer them your reasons for why you see it as bad. Basically this way you aren't critisizing, you are starting a conversation about that person, a nonthreatening conversation that they may learn from.
You can make critisisms up to be funny (basically just being playful, not making fun of them).
Your projected message now changes from "No one likes me, please like me" to "I don't NEED you to like me, therefore I comfortably tell it how it is, but I'm not a jerk. What I say is thought-out and/or funny and never said in order to insult." This is a much more "attractive" and respectable projection.

"You suffer to learn".  All of the things that have happened to me has made me a better person no doubt.

There is a difference between a "better person" and an overly nice person living in fear of rejection. It's a fine line that you must find.

I knew someone that would help me sell a car of mine.  He said if he got a large amount of money for it could he get a high percentage.  I said yes thinking he wouldn't be able to sell it for that. Turns out he did.

Sticking by your morals is important, but don't let them blind you. Whatever amount of money you got for your car was profit, yes, but so was whatever "you allowed him to have". You were the one in charge of the situation at all times (how much he gets was ALWAYS up to you). Letting him know that you aren't going to be ripped off, that you didn't believe he could get that price and you agreed just to shut him up isn't immoral. You aren't being nasty or untruthful in anyway (and if someone makes you give them your word, thats a big clue he knew he could get that price). At this point he will accept (and be grateful for) whatever you give him. He wont dislike you for this (he will dislike the situation, because he's lost an opportunity to screw someone over), he will likely respect you for it.

I just said I didn't care what he or anyone else thought of me.

But you do care, that's where your problem lies.

I gave my word and I will stick by that.  Besides it's just money.

Yeah it's just money, so why bother selling your car in the first place? Why not just give it away? Recognise how your word can become your enemy, this is never moral.

Morals are one thing, but allowing yourself to be taken advantage of just because you were tricked into saying "I promise" is NOT moral in any way. He was trying to get as much money (undeserved) out of you as he possibly could. Your morals aren't there to help people milk you for what they can get. The moral thing would be to prevent this "moral crime", allowing it is immoral, do you see?

Analyse yourself, morality and neediness are blended together inside you, find them, define them, and separate them. The morality is what you see, the neediness is what others see.

You have a defeatist attitude, almost like you are blaming (condemning?) your morals for how people treat you. When people complain or make fun don't say things like "I don't care what you think" turn it around onto them in totally unaffected tone of voice as though their opinion of your morals effects you in no way at all. Say things like "Stop trying to corrupt me, your just jealous"  or "well thats why you love me".

Project the fact that you DON'T NEED them and your not clinging on to them and  that you are fine without them (playful and/or genuine critisism shows this). Don't constantly try to please, it makes you look weak, find the balance, look for the point where morally doing something for someone else becomes immoral against you. You are who you are and anyone whoever doesn't like it will just be wasting their breath complaing.

Become someone who doesn't need, never cling to people, dont be scared of accidentally upsetting them, if it happens simply apologize. dont hang around them for unnecassry amounts of time. Just act like you would act if the world was being clingy with you and you wanted some space.

Recognise what you are projecting, how others see your 'kindness', but not as 'kindness'. Why be kind if it isn't percieved as kindness?

Then alter what you are projecting.

You can find the answers in yourself. You simply need to ponder all related aspects (why people act the way they do, what would cause you to act that way), it all comes from a simple lack of understanding of yourself and those around you.

I hope you find this useful.
Awake-and-Aware

Excuse my ignorance, but what are all these waves? And who do they affect?