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i don't know the cause of my loneliness.  I am only lonely when I am around certain people, like my mom.  Is that strange?  I am at a coffee shop right now, and I definitely feel lonely. 

Not really sure where it's coming from.

Question: What do you guys do when you're having a lonely day?  I usually don't feel lonely, but today I just felt this overwhelming sense of loneliness....how do I snap out of it? I'm sure tomorrow I will feel fine, I usually just get this feeling once in a while, as I'm sure we all do.  So what do you guys do to overcome loneliness?

Okay, well, I'm pretty sure that this is going to sound immature and very silly to many people.  In fact it's very silly to me as well, because I suppose it's not even a real problem compared to many.  Actually, I know it's not.  But indulge me, people, indulge me.


Last fall, my boyfriend of five years cheated on me whilst living with me.  No qualms, worries, or cares.  Just brought a girl (who was a mutual friend) home one night while i was out of town and...well, you know.  I moved away on an internship for 16 weeks and he continued to sleep with her and myself, both of us not knowing about each other.  Anyways, the long of the short is, he ended up emotionally messing with me, telling me he loved me and then pushing me away and constantly lying to me to the point where I seeked counselling, lest I hurt myself.  The girl he was cheating with is now living with him, and they've been together since.  However, a couple months back, he begged me back, told me he didn't love this other woman and that he regrets living with her, yada yada yada. 

Obviously I said no.  I've evolved past the point where I have any desire to be with him at all, or even have anything to do with him.   However, part of me seriously wants to message his girlfriend and tell her.  And I don't know why I care so much about it.  I mean, i'm still hurt and angry about the whole situation, and a large part of me tells me to not even worry about it, and just let them be.  Then another part of me simply wants revenge for what they put me through.  Any advice on how to move past this?? Revenge is a dark road to travel, even though it would feel sooo good. 

Should I just let go and let Karma do it's work?

Or do I tell her?  She may be just stupid enough to stay with him anyway. Who knows.

  Yes, we are still talking.  The funny thing is, when we are together, even though we're not a couple, we are totally fine.  We talk like always and get along superbly as friends would.  We dated for five years, and he is my best friend in the whole world, so yes, of course we're talking. It's just really hard not to want to kiss him or hold him, you know?   And I know that he did not break up with me because of anything I did.  He broke up with me because he doesn't want to drag me down with him, and right now, he says he can't see a future with me, that he doesn't see it ever working out.  I know that it is because he loves me that he doesn't want to drag me down with him, although it hurts that he doesn't see us working out. 
     I've mentioned the idea of a psychologist or counseller to him, but he just brushes it off. The thing is, as much as I want to do everything in my power to help him, he's the only one that can fix his problems, and like you said, it's an attitude adjustment.  But he is the one that needs to to that, and I'm worried that he will never be willing to do so.  Like, he says things all the time like "I don't need anybody," or  I love him so very much, and it hurts to not be his girlfriend anymore.  But all I want for him is to be happy, so if I can't support him as a girlfriend, I'll do what I can to be there for him as a friend. 
    And it's also really sucky, because he is so apathetic towards everything, that while I'm crying and pouring my heart out, he just sits there.  And while anyone else would see that as moron-ish, I know that it's not because he doesn't love me, he just can't feel anything.  When we first met, he wasn't unhappy, and I guess I've just been with him as he became so apathetic and depressed that I just accepted that. And the thing is, I see his depression, but others don't, and I asked him why he is always miserable around me but not other people, he said it's because he just pretends to be happy around them so that they don't think anything is wrong so that they will leave him alone. 
   In terms of us as friends, it's really hard...I wrote a letter to him that I also read to him because I needed to say the words...but basically it said that I understand that we are broken up and I understand why and that I need to let go, and that I will do whatever I can to be a part of his life and support him.. I said that even though he says he doesn't need anyone, I'm there for him regardless.   He's leaving for British Columbia for a month so I won't see him until he gets back, which will probably be good for the both of us to have some space and to think, even though i just want to spend every minute with him.  And the more I beg for him back or try to convince him that we belong together, or tell him to get help, the more I am pushing him away, so I told him I wouldn't do that to him, because it doesn't make it easier for either of us.

   I am very concerned for him, but I'm also having the hardest time with it...I know that only I can get over this grief, but it's so hard.  I wonder what sort of meditations or excercised might be able to help me with my grief. 
   

Hello, all.  I have been a member of this forum for years, although I rarely post anything...I think I have like 3 posts, maybe.  Anyhow, I am a fan of this forum and read it all the time, and have learned so much about astral projection here.  Here I am posting again.

Anyways, I am very confused and would like some advice.  My boyfriend of five years just broke up with me a week ago.  After getting over feeling sorry for myself, I began to take stock of why this happened.  The reason he ended it was because he's had an awful year, (can't work due to an injury, dad was killed in a car accident, can't do anything he loves like biking due to his injury, everything just seems to go wrong with his car, etc...A LOT of stuff like that), and at one point, he said very sincerely: "I hate my life so much."  I am really concerned as he is very depressed, and not just about this past year, but about his past (he was abused as a child) and all that;  this last year seems to have trapped him in this negative space, where he dwells on everything bad that has happened to him in his life, and can't let ANYTHING go...I am afraid that he will try to do something stupid to hurt himself...

I know that there is nothing I can do, and that I am not responsible for his actions, and only he can take charge of his healing, but I am so terrified for him and worried that he is in a downward spiral...and all he can say to me is "it's easier to not care"

Does anyone have any advice as to what I can do? I know I can't help him or make him get help; only he can begin to heal himself when he chooses to do so, but if anyone has advice on how I might be able to cope better, because I'm crying myself to sleep every night.  Any advice is welcomed, and any excercises or meditations....anything. 

what is the life review concept?

I've generally found that most people tend to brush it off.  Like many others on this board, I generally consider my experiences and practices as personal, and generally do not share them with others, mostly because I know it will be disregarded as crap.  I tried to tell my boyfriend about my beliefs, and him being a complete athiest, well...it didn't really go anywhere   So yeah, it does kind of suck, and I wish that I could find more open minded people.   But hey, that's why I come here!!

Hey everyone!

     So, I don't know if it is just me or not, but a lot of the time when I'm trying to relax myself before I try to project, I find my back gets really sore, in any position that I sleep in.  That's just me I guess, I carry a lot of tension in my back sometimes.  Anyways, my drama prof. showed me a really great way to release the tension in one's back.  All you need is two tennis balls, and a floor to lie down on.

   Take the two balls and put them together and lay on top of them so that they are at the base of your back (where your butt ends )  Just lay on them and let your weight sink onto them, and feel your muscles "melt" into the balls...after a minute or two, slide down so that the balls are now a little bit higher up on your back....I like to think of it as going vertebrae by vertebrae.  Keep doing so until you are at the top of your shoulders, and then sit up and notice the difference!  It will hurt like a B in certain areas where you have a lot of tension.  For me it's the shoulders...but you'll feel sooooo great after! I have found that I am able to relax much more easily now because of this excercise.  Anyways, I don't know if that really helps anyone, but it helps me, and hey, it's a great way to relax regardless!!

I've had something sort of like that happen to me too...I'm sleeping, then the next thing I know, I feel totally awake, and my body is vibrating like crazy, and my heart is racing, and I think "oh man, could this be what I think it is?" and then I try to exit, but then just wake up instead.

So, I've never projected before, but I'm psyched up for when I do.  I've read quite a bit on the subject for a few years now, but I was wondering....Are there any so called "side effects" of projecting?? I know there can't be any bad ones, but are there good ones? Like heightened senses, better perception? Anything like that? I would be very interested to know..

wow, excuse me for posting a question. A friend of mine had asked me about whether or not humans could be human without a God because he had a paper due on it.  It got me pondering, so I thought I would ask you guys, to see what you thought about the matter.  So please don't say that my questions are useless, it's not even my question. If you didn't like it, then why bother even answering it.  Anyways, sorry, that just bugged me.

Oh my goodness, I tried this method, and got vibrations for the first time ever!  I've never actually made it to the vibrational bit before, so I was mighty excited! I ended up falling asleep, which was really too bad, but I definitely made progress.  I'm totally trying again tonight!

Hey guys, I have a question.  My brother just passed away on Christmas day, and it sucks the big onion.  I want to know if it's possible to find him in the astral at all?  I've never AP'd, but I want to so badly if it means that I can find him...am I just being silly? Or can it be done?

Well? Can we be human without a God? Or any conception of religion for that matter? What is it to be human? And is religion a human invention, and if so, how could we be human without it? These are questions that plague me. What do you guys think??

Everything I say is a lie....except that...and that....and that. and that....and that...................and that.

Well I've never posted on here, so I can't say that I've lied....yet

Josephine