I can't remember where I read this from but the concept is that if you believe in reincarnation, our 'soul ' picks our lives to be reincarnated into in accord with the life lessons it have to learn, why you ask alot of ppl suffer in and go through all the negative life experiences? why would anyone want to pick that for themselves? it compared our life to a tv drama/movie etc.., we want action and drama etcc.. we don't want to be stuck in a boring life one where you'ld be bored out of your body.!