I would like a bit of OOB advice, but before that I would like to briefly explain my situation and my experience level.
My 18 year old son was killed in an auto accident in December. Since that time I have been doing lots of reading, looking for answers, looking for confirmation that he still exisits etc. I have read a number of books for bereaved parents and a number of books by or about mediums etc. but had not found the confirmation that I was looking for. I have always been a good dreamer and have been lucid dreaming since I was a child, so I thought I would read a book or dreams to try to spend some time with my son at least in a dream. I purchased a book from amazon (for $1.03) by Rosemary Guiley called Dreamwork for the Soul. I am currently reading this book. One of the early chapters in the book is titled "Out of Body Dream Travel," though I never had really had much belief in this or felt I would be able to do this if it really did exist, I thought I would give it a try since I was already a resonably good lucid dreamer. So, on Friday night/Saturday morning when I was laying awake I decided to give the roll out technique a try. Much to my suprise and delight I was successful. I felt and heard the rumbling and sensations, they increased in intensity and I knew it was happening and then I was up in the sky. I only saw in front of me and beside me. The sky was a color similar to this background of this page, maybe a bit darker, there were scattered clouds and lots of stars or lights in the sky. I hovered there and then I was off, moving through the clouds so swiftly that I was only able to know that I was moving, but could not make our much of anything. I do not know if I had a body, it occured to me that I had no idea where to go or what to do now that I was out and then I felt coldness of my arms and was back in my body completely awake. I looked at the clock and it was 0557 in the morning, I went over and opened my blinds to look outside, and the sky looked fery similar to what I had seen, but maybe not quite as sparkling or clear. I immediately spoke out loud and told my son that I was comming to find him. I was of course so excited that I could not go back to sleep.
On Saturday night I decided to give it a try again. Twice, very close together, I got to the rumbling and vibrating state, I was very aware of the sensation, how long it lasted, where I felt it etc. It was not as loud though and I was not able to maintain it long enough to exit my body again. So I spent all day Sunday on the net reading up on OOB. I stayed up late on Suday and had to work or Monday, so I could not give it much effort on Sunday night. On Monday night I was so tired from staying up to late on Sunday and working 15 hours on Monday to be aware enough to give it a shot. So last night, after sleeping much of yesterday I gave it a try again.
What I find is that it trying is physically exausting. I need to stay alert while I sleep to remain lucid to give it a try when I am in the correct state, so I don't sleep well. I can tell when I am close, and this often makes me too aware and brings me to a higher level of conciousness which is counter productive. I did manage one long rumbling last night, at 1257, which I thought was going to be successful, but then thought I heard someone, that sounded a bit like my father but in a errie sort of way, call my name three times. I wondered if this was a warning of some sort so I then woke up and never made it OOB. My father lives 2000 miles away, and has some heart problems, so I then worried about him, but have not heard any bad news, so guess he is OK.
So anyway, I guess what I need is: adive on how to relax enough to get out and how to relax when I am out to stay out, information or instruction that will help me build my traveling skills, instructions or a map of some sort that tells me where to go look for my son and how to get there, and if possible perhaps some suggestions that might make this a less exhausting expereince so that I can actually get some sleep while attempting to exit.
I have really two goals, the first is to see my son and the second is to become more enlightened and develop a better understanding. I know this is going to take practice patience and time to build the skills that I need to be successful in my quests. I am totally motivated and willing to do whatever it takes but thought some adive from those who are expereinced might help decrease my learning curve. I appreciate all comments or suggestions.
Thank you
My 18 year old son was killed in an auto accident in December. Since that time I have been doing lots of reading, looking for answers, looking for confirmation that he still exisits etc. I have read a number of books for bereaved parents and a number of books by or about mediums etc. but had not found the confirmation that I was looking for. I have always been a good dreamer and have been lucid dreaming since I was a child, so I thought I would read a book or dreams to try to spend some time with my son at least in a dream. I purchased a book from amazon (for $1.03) by Rosemary Guiley called Dreamwork for the Soul. I am currently reading this book. One of the early chapters in the book is titled "Out of Body Dream Travel," though I never had really had much belief in this or felt I would be able to do this if it really did exist, I thought I would give it a try since I was already a resonably good lucid dreamer. So, on Friday night/Saturday morning when I was laying awake I decided to give the roll out technique a try. Much to my suprise and delight I was successful. I felt and heard the rumbling and sensations, they increased in intensity and I knew it was happening and then I was up in the sky. I only saw in front of me and beside me. The sky was a color similar to this background of this page, maybe a bit darker, there were scattered clouds and lots of stars or lights in the sky. I hovered there and then I was off, moving through the clouds so swiftly that I was only able to know that I was moving, but could not make our much of anything. I do not know if I had a body, it occured to me that I had no idea where to go or what to do now that I was out and then I felt coldness of my arms and was back in my body completely awake. I looked at the clock and it was 0557 in the morning, I went over and opened my blinds to look outside, and the sky looked fery similar to what I had seen, but maybe not quite as sparkling or clear. I immediately spoke out loud and told my son that I was comming to find him. I was of course so excited that I could not go back to sleep.
On Saturday night I decided to give it a try again. Twice, very close together, I got to the rumbling and vibrating state, I was very aware of the sensation, how long it lasted, where I felt it etc. It was not as loud though and I was not able to maintain it long enough to exit my body again. So I spent all day Sunday on the net reading up on OOB. I stayed up late on Suday and had to work or Monday, so I could not give it much effort on Sunday night. On Monday night I was so tired from staying up to late on Sunday and working 15 hours on Monday to be aware enough to give it a shot. So last night, after sleeping much of yesterday I gave it a try again.
What I find is that it trying is physically exausting. I need to stay alert while I sleep to remain lucid to give it a try when I am in the correct state, so I don't sleep well. I can tell when I am close, and this often makes me too aware and brings me to a higher level of conciousness which is counter productive. I did manage one long rumbling last night, at 1257, which I thought was going to be successful, but then thought I heard someone, that sounded a bit like my father but in a errie sort of way, call my name three times. I wondered if this was a warning of some sort so I then woke up and never made it OOB. My father lives 2000 miles away, and has some heart problems, so I then worried about him, but have not heard any bad news, so guess he is OK.
So anyway, I guess what I need is: adive on how to relax enough to get out and how to relax when I am out to stay out, information or instruction that will help me build my traveling skills, instructions or a map of some sort that tells me where to go look for my son and how to get there, and if possible perhaps some suggestions that might make this a less exhausting expereince so that I can actually get some sleep while attempting to exit.
I have really two goals, the first is to see my son and the second is to become more enlightened and develop a better understanding. I know this is going to take practice patience and time to build the skills that I need to be successful in my quests. I am totally motivated and willing to do whatever it takes but thought some adive from those who are expereinced might help decrease my learning curve. I appreciate all comments or suggestions.
Thank you