I was raised in a pretty average moderately conservative Protestant home. We left my first church when I was pretty young when it began to collapse internally, for reasons I'm still not sure of. In the years that followed I tried every church nearby at least once, Catholic, Methodist, Assembly of God, non-denominational, Lutheran, etc, but my experiences at the two main churches we finally setlled on were behind most of the reasons I left church for good.
My family ended up at an Assemblies of God church that I found reasonably enjoyable; I liked the music, and the pastor's preaching style. Well, that all changed when I began going through some personal issues during a dark time in my life. As I was still relatively new to this place, and an extremely private person in general, I took extra precautions that my personal information not become public; there were people there I knew from other circles that I definitely didn't want finding out in any case. At the time I didn't want random strangers praying for me or whatever; I just wanted to be left alone to get through things in my own way. In the months that followed I debated whether to go back, and decided to try getting in touch with the pastor to find out exactly what was said/printed, and who told him. He responded by making a judgmental statement about not having seen me in church lately, acted like I was completely wasting his time, and didn't actually answer any of my questions. At this point I decided I wouldn't be going back there.
Around the same time I was semi-regularly attending another church with some friends. Their worshipping style was significantly more, ah, active than I was used to; my style is much more introverted and reflective. I would've been just fine with that if they could have accepted me just as I accepted them, but that ended when their pastor started making comments, publicly putting me on the spot for these differences that were making me feel self-conscious enough as it was. I'm not a big fan of being put on the spot, so that was the last time I went there too.
After that I decided to take a break from the whole scene and evaluate my beliefs and such on my own -- this break has now lasted almost 8 years, and the one time I set foot in a church since then was a favor to someone else. This has all come as a blessing in disguise, however. A lot has happened in my absence, including falling back in love Christ and his message, yet coming to a lot of independently researched conclusions that would probably be considered rather unorthodox. As for church, I have decided it does not fulfill many, if any of the purposes for which it was instituted by Christ. I'm not just one of those people who goes sour on church because of the conduct of its people either -- I believe its very structure is what makes the modern mainstream church system inherently flawed to the core. As such, I have no use for it anymore, at least until I either find or start one that is structured and functions the way it was intended to in the 1st century.
My family ended up at an Assemblies of God church that I found reasonably enjoyable; I liked the music, and the pastor's preaching style. Well, that all changed when I began going through some personal issues during a dark time in my life. As I was still relatively new to this place, and an extremely private person in general, I took extra precautions that my personal information not become public; there were people there I knew from other circles that I definitely didn't want finding out in any case. At the time I didn't want random strangers praying for me or whatever; I just wanted to be left alone to get through things in my own way. In the months that followed I debated whether to go back, and decided to try getting in touch with the pastor to find out exactly what was said/printed, and who told him. He responded by making a judgmental statement about not having seen me in church lately, acted like I was completely wasting his time, and didn't actually answer any of my questions. At this point I decided I wouldn't be going back there.
Around the same time I was semi-regularly attending another church with some friends. Their worshipping style was significantly more, ah, active than I was used to; my style is much more introverted and reflective. I would've been just fine with that if they could have accepted me just as I accepted them, but that ended when their pastor started making comments, publicly putting me on the spot for these differences that were making me feel self-conscious enough as it was. I'm not a big fan of being put on the spot, so that was the last time I went there too.
After that I decided to take a break from the whole scene and evaluate my beliefs and such on my own -- this break has now lasted almost 8 years, and the one time I set foot in a church since then was a favor to someone else. This has all come as a blessing in disguise, however. A lot has happened in my absence, including falling back in love Christ and his message, yet coming to a lot of independently researched conclusions that would probably be considered rather unorthodox. As for church, I have decided it does not fulfill many, if any of the purposes for which it was instituted by Christ. I'm not just one of those people who goes sour on church because of the conduct of its people either -- I believe its very structure is what makes the modern mainstream church system inherently flawed to the core. As such, I have no use for it anymore, at least until I either find or start one that is structured and functions the way it was intended to in the 1st century.