you must be desperate since you've posted this all over the place.
i'm sure you'll get a lot of direct advice, but if i could for one moment get you to turn around and look at the situation from another point of view. several points of view actually. first you can't help your friend...and i think you already know this. second...what if this isn't really about him, but you instead?!? what lesson resides in this relationship for YOU? the obvious ones being that a) you would feel really good (about yourself) if you could change his function. b) you feel bad about yourself bcuz you can't help him, etc. lessons in sticking around even though someone else is bringing you down. and it goes round in a circle. you can't rescue your friend. you can rescue yourself. would be nice if there were no expectations involved. if you could accept him for who he is. if you could change the dynamics of the friendship. maybe you are challenging yourself in the wrong area? you could of course be enabling him to continue in this manner. where he would be feeding of your need to fix him, and you could be feeding off his weakness. seems you are genuinely concerned, but it's true that if you can't accept someone as they are...it would probably be best to move on.
also look at what might be an addiction on your part. you could be putting up with it only bcuz it's a challenge or quest of some sort, and not even really be concerned about the person at all. the fixing being more important then the individual.
just thoughts
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i'm sure you'll get a lot of direct advice, but if i could for one moment get you to turn around and look at the situation from another point of view. several points of view actually. first you can't help your friend...and i think you already know this. second...what if this isn't really about him, but you instead?!? what lesson resides in this relationship for YOU? the obvious ones being that a) you would feel really good (about yourself) if you could change his function. b) you feel bad about yourself bcuz you can't help him, etc. lessons in sticking around even though someone else is bringing you down. and it goes round in a circle. you can't rescue your friend. you can rescue yourself. would be nice if there were no expectations involved. if you could accept him for who he is. if you could change the dynamics of the friendship. maybe you are challenging yourself in the wrong area? you could of course be enabling him to continue in this manner. where he would be feeding of your need to fix him, and you could be feeding off his weakness. seems you are genuinely concerned, but it's true that if you can't accept someone as they are...it would probably be best to move on.
also look at what might be an addiction on your part. you could be putting up with it only bcuz it's a challenge or quest of some sort, and not even really be concerned about the person at all. the fixing being more important then the individual.
just thoughts
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