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Thank you, Kerri. I might check out the book. hehe I think those titles are meant to be funny. [] I have studied the Taoism practice but not Tantric. I would like to see the differences between them, though clearly the goal is the same.

You should definitely share with your girlfriend so you can both practice. The book I suggested is about women and couples too, it is just more focused on male sexuality. The authors have a book for couples as well.

Yes the practices are invigorating. It can really give you a lot of energy which can improve your life in many ways.

Ki, chi, body energy, it is all the same thing just different labels.

I am merely trying to help you. Maybe some day you will understand what I am trying to point you to.

You don't have to be in deep meditation or hours of routine to practice. You can do it throughout the day as suggested. A little here, a little there. The more you do it, the better you get at it. This is true of any energy work, or really anything.

I know. [] Did I sound too serious[?] Sorry []

I do not see a public message board a private place. It is not like someone is trying to keep the message private, or someone is going out of their way to discover a secret. It is kind of like being in a crowded room and instead of whispering to someone something private you talk in a voice so everyone can hear but tell them not to listen.

Maybe so but if you cultivate anger it will grow and you will become more angry, likewise with any emotion. It would be more productive to explore why you feel this way and deal with it. Maybe what you are feeling is not anger, but anger is how you are reacting to it. Look within and see what this really is.

Cultivating anger breeds more anger. Do you really want to be such an angry person?

Stilling your mind and keeping it focused and not wondering is a big step and an important one. If you cannot control your mind then how do you expect to be skilled at controlling energy? No, it is not easy at first, but you need to practice. Once you can do this you will have much better results with your practices.

Why worry about the future? Now is all that we have.

I think there might be some truth to this as I notice when I am doing a lot of energy work I am not as hungry as the times that I am not doing it so much or at all. Thinking about it, since doing energy work I do desire more healthy foods than just sugary sweets. In fact I do not like sugary foods or drinks much at all. But I would not suggest going days without food, unless you are fasting and just sitting around meditating. I think you should still eat throughout the day, maybe just not as much. But if you are not going to be eating as much then it is important to be sure that what little you do eat is something you need and not just junk food.

When I refer to sexual energy I am merely talking about where the energy came from. You are correct. You are transforming the energy as you pull it up. Sexual energy is hot and volatile. Pulling it up transforms it into more stable energy. But energy is energy. It is all the same, just in different states I guess.

And just as you are transforming the energy, so you are transforming the pleasure. As the sexual energy is explosive, so is the pleasure if kept in the groin area. Moving the energy up transforms the energy into something more refined as well as the pleasure. So the pleasure you experience is more spiritual than sexual, or that is how I see it but words are just labels that are hard to describe such things.

To answer some of your questions:

1) Whatever works best for you really.

2) Whatever works for you.

5) It is kind of hard to say. You have to know for yourself as there is no general time table. When you can do all the exercise with no problems and feel the energy easily as a whole. Like when you can feel the energy as a whole in the whole hand, foot, etc with no problems then you do not really need to continue doing all the work on each joint but can start working with just the larger area.

You need to change your view. It is only boring because you see it as such. Stop viewing it as boring. Practice relaxing, stilling yourself, and being at peace with everything you do during the day, especially at times like this.

I know this book is available on Amazon.com, so possibly it is on their European site(s). I believe they also have it available in a downloadable verson. If that is better for you, then you might want to check it out. This book is usually available in most bookstores here in the US. I have seen it almost every time I go into one. Maybe you will get lucky and it will be like that where you live as well.

The main focus is energy for this practice, but I find it very difficult to separate energy and pleasure as you have implied. They go hand in hand when it comes to working with sexual energy. It is probably just a different kind of pleasure than you are thinking about.

I think that NEW is very good for beginners to energy work. But NEW is merely a stepping stone into this field. As all roads lead to Rome, so all body energy methods lead to the same thing. Once you learn the basics then your practice can and most likely will be very personalized. It is very important (atleast in my opinion) to listen to yourself and do what is right for you and not get caught up in ritual of any system.

quote:Originally posted by shedt


protected ? from negs i guess, or just bad evil stuff. But I'm not even sure if there is such a thing. Part of me might believe so but......... hmmm

I would personally suggest not worrying about things you are not even sure exist or not. I have never been baptised or had any other protection ritual and I have never experienced anything that would lead me to believe such things exist.

But what does it matter if she is or is not baptised? If it gives your wife peace of mind then why not give her that? It is not saying that your child will be Christian and nothing else forever and ever. Your child will choose what she wants to believe in reguardless of what you do. Maybe your child will decide to follow Christianity, Islam, Paganism, etc. It is her choice and being baptised at such a young age will have no baring on their decision later. I was raised Christian most of my life, but I no longer am. It was my choice. The burden I have is not from the religion but from my parents who are Christians and have the dogmatic expectations. Christainity does have insight to offer if one looks. Instead of trying to censor what your daughter experiences, give her access to Christianity as well as all religious and spiritual ideas so that she can find what is best for her. If you want to keep her from Christianity, then how are you any different that someone who wants to keep her exclusively in it? You just have to trust that your daughter will know what is best for her and follow that path. As a parent you can help her follow her own path as she sees it right for her.

quote:Originally posted by shedt



I want my child protected,

Protected from what?

I see no reason why you could not do it this way. Good Luck!

I would like to point out that orgasm and ejaculation are two different things that can occur at different times. There is no reason why you can't have an orgasm (or any number or orgasms) without ejaculating. You can even have an orgasm while sitting at your desk reading this, if you know how. This being the case, orgasms are infinite. You can have as many as you want. Ejaculation on the other hand is finite, as you can only do it as much as you have supplied at the time. It is also possible to ejaculate and not lose energy, or atleast very much. Keeping the orgasmic energies within your body can be very helpful, energizing, and healthy.

As was suggested, I highly recommend reading The Multi-Orgasmic Man for anyone who is interested in this. It will answer about all your questions and give you a wealth of information on this subject. If you have a significant other then it is a good idea to read it together.

So true, ego can stand in the way of many things, especially happiness. But men are not the only ones with egos.

Congratulations!

I love you! []

Only you can make yourself happy, Smiley. You just choose not to be happy.

quote:Originally posted by SmileySpirit14

my head is too jumbled at the moment

This is probably a big part of the problem. You let your mind go off and think about whatever it likes. It usually picks a negative outlook. Still your mind, silence all that noise. Behind the constant babble of the mind is a peaceful silence. Find it.

It depends on what I am doing. If I pull energy up my spine then am bringing it down the front (working with the mircocosmic orbit) I will touch my tongue to the roof of my mouth. While it does not seem necessary to do this to bring the energy down, I find it helps a lot and I feel a lot more energy moving down than if I don't. If you are working with energy this way I would suggest atleast trying it and see what works for you.

I usually use my bed for all my metaphysical and spiritual needs. I do not usually have any problems. You got to work with what you got.