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Me too, with light switches. I also have noted many times that TV was on but I could not change channels.

Going way back, light switches that didn't work were an indication I was out and about. When they did work I was awake or in a regular dream.
Read up on false awakenings. You may find more similarities.
Maybe even missing an opportunity to go further.

"Om Namah Shivaya is known as the great redeeming mantra also known as five-syllable mantra

The meaning :

It means "I bow to Shiva." Shiva is the supreme reality, the inner Self. It is the name given to consciousness that dwells in all. Shiva is the name of your true identity- your self. "

http://www.meditationiseasy.com/mCorner/techniques/Om_namah_shivaya.htm


I include that here because for some reason, as my non-physical event started last night, I found that instead of my usual pattern of trying to just get out of my body, I started chanting the above mantra which I had first learned of nearly 30 years ago. I am not entirely sure why I did this, but it prompted another first time type experience.


It started with the familiar "chill" tickle sensation which I have noticed prior to the state from which I normally achieve my OOB vibration state. This starts as a cold-chill type sensation at the lower back of my head, and goes out over my entire body in a manner of seconds. Usually, at this point, I can fall into the vibration energy, but it is not a sure thing. It takes a tricky balance of my desire to achieve it. Tonight, for some reason, instead of trying for the vibration energy, I simply started to chant internally, "Om Namah Shivaya". I had no sooner started this and the cold chill sensation abruptly switched to a low frequency rumble.


Now, in the past I had had low frequency vibrations that were extremely difficult to take, and have over time raised them to smooth them out so I could even deal with them. There was something basically different about this sensation. As low a frequency as this energy was, maintaining this state seemed like something I could have done for hours. Actually, I am not sure how long I was able to maintain this. At some point as I continued to chant, I realized that the energy I felt seemed tied directly to the chanting, almost like it was a musical backing to the chant. I do not mean to say it had any sort of a tune associated with it. Because of the chant, I had none of my usual feelings of wanting to go anyplace at all, so I just stayed put. Eventually, I tried to move my hand, and then floated just above my seeming physical form. Later I realized that what I was seeing was not really me as I was, but at the time I thought it must be truly my body there. I have a memory of someone else seeing me as I just floated aimlessly, but then I returned to my body and found that the link to this sensation had ended.


I lay there wondering about what had just happened, and the chill started again. I resumed the chant, and the same sensation started to envelope me. This time I just stayed with it as long as I could, again noticing that as low a frequency as the energy was, how easy it was to stay in the grasp of whatever it was. I just kept chanting, and it buzzed around me. As time passed, I realized that my vision had started to change a bit. I started to see more of a lightened blue tone to what I was looking towards. I remember no details of this. I think I was distracted a bit by the changes to my vision, and this caused an end to the sensations.


As far as OOBEs go, this is not much to speak of. But it may be interesting from a meditation standpoint.

I have been doing OOBE work from most of my life since it forced itself on me in my mid teens after initially occurring as a very obnoxious case of sleep paralysis at even earlier age than that, and in all of those events since then, I have never experienced what happened to me last night.

It started out with my being awake and I was tossing and turning a bit trying to get comfortable. I ended up on my right side. Within seconds, I felt that all familiar prickling sensation like a cold chill, but not really, that usually goes into vibrations if I have the correct control of it. This time, I thought about experiencing an OOBE from the point of view of the physical body. I had no idea what to do, but I thought if I tried to open my left eye in the physical realm, it might help to keep me focused on the physical. All I can say is "Wow!" First, I had to fight to keep my eye from closing, and in doing that, the sensations faded a bit. I let them start up again, and re-opened my eye. Then something odd happened.

The eye dropped closed again, and I saw a gradual opening into another world. Right in front of me, maybe ten feet away, was a woman with short dark hair staring back at me. What seemed odd is how fast this perception opened up. Also, she was making eye contact with me. This all seemed to be in very much 3-D and full color with an incredible sense of perspective.

She was talking to me, but I could not hear her and I did not seem to be able to speak myself. A couple of other people came up from the side and slightly behind her, and they made me a bit nervous since I did not seem to be able to communicate and had no idea where I was. So I did what I might think to do in real life. I raised my arm and tried to motion to them to stay back. And I felt and saw my very physical appearing full color arm rising up in front of me very much like it would be in real life. I saw it as my arm, and it was in the place a real arm would be if it were making that motion. I say it was my arm, but it looked nothing like my arm really. It seemed to me that where ever I had landed, I must be someone else than who I am here. I turned away from them, and in that instant, the scene shifted back to a bedroom and a bed.

I was standing on the bed, and as I turned I started to walk off the edge and jumped to the floor. I felt this much as I would physically feel it if I went to do it right now except that gravity seemed a bet less in this place compared to here. I definitely felt it as I landed, but it seemed a bit too springy as I landed. I walked off down a short hallway that roughly corresponded to my own hallway in my house. I ended up in a room where there was a television that had been left on. I thought that this was rather out of character to have left the TV on when I went to bed, but it did not really look like my TV at all, and none of the stuff in my house seemed to correspond to this place. I noticed a digital clock on the top of the TV that said it was a bit past 1:00. I assume it was 1 am because the TV seemed to be showing an infomercial. And it ended just that fast. In my real world it was a bit after 3 am.

All I can say is that this, as short of a time as it took to get into and back out of, was one of the more odd things I have ever experienced. It was nothing like any OOBE I have ever had and I look forward to going there again.

Just like that old joke about of "how do you get to Carnegie Hall? "  Yep. Practice.  It sounds like you have had some good experiences with learning to focus the vibrations and move them around.  But do not rush it. I have found that the higher you can get your vibrations to go as far as frequency- the smoother they become.  Try to change the pitch.  When I did this, or when it was done to me (see my blog) my experiences started to get a lot easier to manage, and it was easier when I started to consider how to leave. Also, when this was happening for me, I found it best to start by getting used to having control of the experience and my emotions related to it. Start by only weaving your arms around, and then add your legs. Start slow. Get used to it.   And when it comes to the actual separation, it helped me to have a pre-set goal in mind. What I have done was to think of a person with whom I have a strong emotional tie. Just think intently on being with that person. Try not to think of any given process of how to separate. Like Yoda says (hey, it worked for me) Do not try. DO.  (Well, he did not say it exactly in that way, but you get the point.) Then witness the events. Want it to happen but try to not care too much when it does-

I know this has been asked here before, although in different ways, so I wanted to see if what I am experiencing is the same as others.

First off, a brief background history, seeing as this is my first post: When I was a child, I used to astral project all the time. So much, in fact, that it was difficult for me to separate reality from the astral realm (although I was always in my home or in areas near my home - I never experienced different planes. At least not consciously).

My problem is consciously astral projecting. I know it happens when I'm asleep and quite often, but I want to be aware of it while it is happening, not just remember bits and pieces when I awake. I want to have control. So I've been working on meditation before sleep. I can usually get to the vibrational state quite easily and I can focus this energy and control it, moving it from my lower body to my upper body and even making it go through my body in waves. After this state, when I am entirely relaxed and my body feels as if it's huge, swollen and heavy, and right when I think I can focus on exiting, I start getting this rush of very uncomfortable energy; my heart beats very quickly and my breathing becomes more rapid. I try to control this and focus on exiting my physical body, but then I just feel my limbs jerking and all this energy is almost jolting me. It becomes so uncomfortable I have to force myself to move and get up.

I've read that this is common and this is the state you are in before you actually exit - that this energy is your astral body getting ready for exit - is this true? And if so, since I'm apparently on the right track, how can I focus on actually leaving my body when I reach this uncomfortable state?

Hi born2bfree
What you speak of seems very familiar to my experiences. Vibrations, wind, electric sensations; shapes also, and very thin taller than average beings are also part of my experiences.  Without going into all of it again, I have a blog out there (see sig line) that traces my experiences from the time I first started to the first meeting with my guide and with others along the way who seemed to want to help me out.  It is easy to say "just go with it" and you will be safe. You will be safe, but you still have to make the journey to the point you can KNOW you will be safe. It can take some doing.  Good luck in your journey. 

So do spirit guides let you know they are your spirit guides?  Should I have just got up when they asked and not tried to "feel them out"?  Has anybody else seen the triangle thingy I tried to describe?  I don't really know much about projection or whatever state I was in.  I would fight leaving my body at the time because I was scared of the vibrations, I had never really experienced them like I had during that time of my life.  I literally felt like I was being electrocuted and could feel my heart beating at what seemed like 1000 bpm.  I would also feel what seemed like wind blowing around my body and could hear it whipping around me.  I was scared to be in that state.  Most of my projections happen during lucid dreams, or I would just become aware that I was already out of my body and go from there. 

Off topic: One of my favorite projections, I had a dream once I was riding a four-wheeler in the mountains with two of my friends. We were in the middle of nowhere and I was taking them to this Massive hole in the ground that I knew about.  We arrived at the hole, it was a bottomless pit and pitch black inside.  I said watch this and then leaped into the pit. I then shot out of my body on the couch and into the astral!

Using "coincidence" in the same sentence as OOBE usually does not work for me anyway. But I do wonder at times if the perception of this type of thing is correct in that I caused it by my attempt at OOBE. Maybe I just picked up on a vibe that the person was thinking about contacting me, and that caused my experience. Not that my having the OOBE caused the person to contact me. 

There is a person I knew ages ago and have only kept in touch with irregularly since then. In all cases since we have known each other, I have been the one to reestablish contact after a period of absence.  I had currently not talked to this person in almost four years.  Maybe that is why I chose them for the target person to contact in my OOBE of a couple of days ago.  I was going to write about the OOBE right when it happened, but thinking back on it, standing alone, it was not really a remarkable event. And I am not sure I remembered enough details about it to even make it one I chose to include here.  That was not until what happened two days later.  This person contacted me.

It was not a remarkable OOBE as they go for me.  I swung out and seemed to travel in ever increasing spirals as I went where ever I was going.  I started to think of my target person, someone from the past more than a current thought in my mind. I was not really sure why I thought of them at this particular time.   

After a time of traveling, I found myself flying down towards a sail boat of some sort.  Off to one side I saw my target person standing.  I continued down to them and made some sort of contact.  Thinking back, I am not as sure I recognized them as they appeared to me then, or that I recognized the energy I had associated with them in the past.  But, I knew I had the right person. 

Overall, the contact was brief and I am not able to remember any one detail of it.  That is one reason I was not about to write this one anywhere. What was the point?

Then I heard from them in real life not two days later.  Initially, I did not think of the OOBE I had as possibly being related.  But, this is the first time since we met almost 40 years ago that they have been the one to approach me after a long time of no contact.  Why have they contacted me now?  I am not sure.  I have never discussed my "hobby" with them and I doubt they would understand.  Maybe I am reading more into this than is really there.  It is probably just an odd coincidence. 

This is one from my blog. This was at least ten years ago, if not more.

Not all of my experiences involve communication with another being. Sometimes, I ask for such communication if
I do not feel as if anyone is there, and nothing happens. Other times, I know right away there is something with
me, and that it is not going to "tell" me anything. And then there are times that the being with me seems to talk
unendingly, and I wish they would just keep quite for a minute once in a while. In one trip that had no
communication at all, I traveled "out" the furthest I have ever been. I am not sure where this would have been. It
did not seem like any place I have seen, or dreamed of before.

When this experience started, I first flew out attempting to go to what ever target I had had in mind. It would not
work. I just returned. I then re-initiated the vibrations, pushing them a bit- raising them in frequency, and
strength. I changed my target to go to someplace that I could learn the truth about existence. Immediately, I was
traveling faster than I had ever remembered going previously. I traveled on, wondering what I was doing,
and where I was going to end up. But, thoughts like this normally can disrupt the experience, so I kept my growing
anxiety under control, and returned to concentrating on the truth. I hit a pause.

I am not sure how to describe this. It was a pause in the sensation of motion, almost like I hit an eddy in a flowing
stream, but as the pause happened, I sensed an increase in energy into me, and that energy was then instantaneously
transferred to more movement, this time at an even greater speed. This second "jump" then hit a pause, and more
energy flowed into me, and I was off again, and even a new greater speed. The third jump in energy and
acceleration finally stopped, and I was adrift momentarily in darkness. As I got accustomed to having stopped, I
gradually began to see details in the darkness. There was energy all around me, pulsating, and moving in whatever
unknown purpose it might have had. I had no clue what any of this was, but it also seemed vaguely familiar on a
certain level.

Suddenly, whoever I was in whatever this place was, reached out and grabbed some sort of hand sized disc-like
structure, and placed it in front of my forehead. This thing must have been some sort of energy focus devise, because I
sensed a flow into me that seemed to start when it was in front of my head. Then, it was over, and I was instantly
back. I am still not sure about this one. It was pretty intense, but I am not sure what about it had anything to do
with truth that would help me currently. 

Jerri255

Well, I am not sure I would suggest totally giving up control in order to combat the fear. It may be more a thing of WHAT type of control you apply and what control you try to give up.  I do not want to be confusing here, but it is a confusing topic.  I am starting to feel like an American Idol judge, suggesting to a contestant what type of song to sing to be the type of singer you already want and know yourself to be on the outside away from the contest.  They are poor judges to try to suggest what the singer contestant probably already knows on a certain level.  And the contestants who try to please the judges by taking their advice end up being criticized because they are not being true to their inner singer when they take the advice.  Those who do well already know the songs to sing that are natural for them, and they would not take the advice of the judges even if it were offered.    

I guess it is about learning to get in contact with that part of you that knows the naturalness of the experience, and allowing that part to have control instead of the part of you that is more in tune to the present physical awareness.  I am not sure how to do that other than to have the experiences and learn to adjust to them as they are happening.  In my blog someplace I talk about getting used to being in the water in a swimming pool before you can learn to swim and before you can just take a plunge into a lake. Maybe it is like that- or it was in a way for me.  I tried by maintaining OOBE awareness through a period of vibrations.  I tried to raise the frequency of the vibrations proving to myself I had that level of control.  I moved an arm out.  Later I moved the other. I moved my legs out. Gradually over time and many experiences I got used to being in the OOBE awareness and maintaining that awareness and control.  It became natural to feel that type of control without the fear I had once associated with the experiences.  Then it became an easy step to tell myself it was OK for me to separate and feel that part of it.

This site has a good resource as well in case you have not found it yet, here is the link.
http://www.astralpulse.com/frankkepple.html  

Hi, sorry I haven't replied, my computer was sent away for repairs.. I just couldn't wait to get back in here... it really is the most interesting , responsive site I have even been to.
Great replies by the way! There is so much to learn, more than I thought!
I had 2 experiences just the night before and 2 nights before that, both never got far but it confirms that it is fear on my part.. 
My first experience was this ungodly whistle that blew in my ear, it peirced! I managed to get through it for it was brief but loud enough to wake the universe, lol.. I was aware that I was leaving my body because of the tingling sensation I get everytime so I decided to roll over.. I rolled opposite of the way intended and my body started sinking through the bed.. I said  " the hell with this!" and woke up.
My second experience was very brief.. that stupid whistle blew again, it woke me this time.

I seem to be going backwards ... I started so much different.. at least I flew through the universe and ended up on different plaines! Once I landed in a hospital, I glided, (flew) down the white corridor and seen an old lady sitting at  a table.. I made a right turn and then wondered what I looked like and what I could do... so I started fliping in midair in slow motion , enjoying the sensation.. I looked at my body and then boom I was awake! too bad , I wanted to explore so much more.

So I wonder why I am doing it opposite of everyone in here, at least from everything I have read so far... I started out astral travelling and the more I questioned it , the worse I got at it, lol  I guess fear sneaked in there... man I have to stop this fear thing , it is getting annoying especially if you don't even know what the fear is..  I welcome all replies and thanks for the invites to other readings...
 

Jerri255

Fear and going backwards. . .
Even now at times I feel I am going backwards in all of this.  I think on a certain level of awareness, going OOB and being in that awareness is the most natural feeling sensation there is.  Maybe early on in your experiences you realized that, but at the time you were just going with the flow in a natural way, aware of it but not really conscious of what you may be able to do "out there".  Now that you are trying to control the experience, you have triggered a fear response in another level of your awareness that is trying to tell you to knock it off already.  There is a difference in being aware and being aware of it enough to consciously exist on that level.  When I had my experience in which I confronted my fear, I made a conscious effort to make the switch in how my experiences would continue from that point.  I still back-slide on occasion.  Sometimes it catches me by surprise, and the fear is still there to take over.  At the end of those sessions, I am always a bit perturbed that I lost a chance to experience something other than the fear. 

Whistling noises
And others actually. . . I used to fear in my earlier days that these noises would make me lose my hearing.  And related to that, I used to wonder why no one else could hear that I was in trouble and come to get me away from this noise. 

Ask for help. . .
Your guides may be there to help you.   Once I contacted my own guides, a lot of the more disturbing sounds and sensations started to go away.  It was so much easier after that, and in most experiences I was aware that I was not alone.  And also looking back, I am also aware that these same guides were with me before the confrontation.  I was just choosing to ignore them, or I was not capable of responding prior to the time I did. 

Jerri
Fear is the main thing to deal with about any of these experiences.  Other beings have been part of my experiences since the beginning.  I think most of my fear was abated though once I started to regularly see and have contact with the others- whoever they are.  Check out the earlier entries of my blog (see signature line) to see the evolution of my experiences once real contact was made.  Not to say I am always at peace with the encounters, but it is usually more to do with feeling bad about them in the same way a child who has done something wrong would fear a being scolded by a parent.   But, I have not seen everything out there, so it is still a good idea to look deeply at each experience before giving in to whoever has happened upon you.  If it turns out you are running from a well meaning entity, they will be patient. If you are running from one of bad intent- you can usually just force the experience to end. 

So, I've been seeing the number eleven everywhere. It seems like every time I look at a clock, 11 is the ending half. 11:11, 7:11,4:11,2:11, and 3:11 have been comming up even more frequently than others. Then, today my mom went to the library with my brothers. I asked her to pick up my reservations, and when she comes home with my book on Astral Projection, she says, "I used to be really into this stuff when I was your age". Is this just a coincidence or something else? I've heard that seeing 11 a lot means that your spiritual teacher is trying to contact you. Does this have anything to do with my mom?

Thanks!!!

IMO, seeing the numbers like this is a coincidence.  When my "teacher" was attempting to contact me, he/it would not have messed around with such trivial matters. If they want you they will be able to get through, and you will know it without having to ask. 

See earlier sections of my blog for more on how my teacher tried to contact me. . .

Has anyone ever heard a word or a sentence before they woke up. Or a word that they never heard of, but when looked it up it was actually real? Are these just something from the subconscious or something else?
A while back (I can look up the dates if anyone wants) I heard a word one day upon waking and then another day I heard a sentence.
It sounded as it had been spoken to me but idk
It was:
This is a high energy church.
and
Shamballa
any imput?

I have heard radio from cities I did not know existed. I have heard times shouted at me that were the correct time when I woke up to see the time. . .

Never anything more meaningful than that. . .

Some of you may remember me from when I posted here a while back and I was just starting to try to AP and I was having some of the pre-AP experiences (I was feeling the vibrations and it felt like my bed was shaking). After I started practicing I read a few terrifying experiences some other people had and it scared me a lot so I stopped practicing.

I still really want to AP so I was wondering if it is common to have scary experiences when you AP?

Hi Pyro

I am not sure just how common it is to be scared in the beginnings- but you are- I was too.  If you go to my blog starting at the link below and read the first 4 entries or so, you will see that our experiences are similar in the beginnings and how I finally had a breakthrough dealing with my fear.  I was so scared when I started, I thought I was either dying or going crazy.  I, or anyone else for that matter, can tell you the fear is a needless impediment to success. But that does you no good.  You still have to deal with your own fear.   

http://otherrealityblog.blogspot.com/2009/01/beginnings-of-strangeness_29.html

I have had this happen a few times, but this is the most memorable for me.  It was not something I sought out- It just happened when my old friend interrupted a dream I had been having. I had been impacted greatly by her death. After this experience, it has become easier.  Excerpt follows, and the rest is at the link.

http://otherrealityblog.blogspot.com/2009/02/do-we-go-on-after-death.html

"After CH died, I had dreams at times that involved her.
Mostly, I would dream I was visiting at her house. Her
husband was there in the dreams, but not CH. It was not
like I knew she was dead in those dreams. She just was not
at home.

Then, one time she interrupted a dream I had been having
of my days back in college. I was about to leave the main
building for my major, and there she was walking towards
me, coming up the stairs, opening the main doors as I was
headed out. I sort of did a double take, in the dream.
Suddenly I was very aware of things, where I was, who
she was. None of it jived in my head, since I knew two
things. If I was really in college, she should not be there
because I did not know her back then. And the big kicker;
I knew that she had died. Sometimes things in dreams do
not jive, and you just go on knowing that it is only a
dream, and then it all changes. This time, it occurred to
me that this must be a dream, but when I realized that, the
only thing that changed was the outward setting. The
building, the outside- it all faded into nothingness. But,
CH was still there and still walking towards me. There I
was, stammering, 'why are you here, how are you here,
are you really here?' She came up face to face with me,
grabbed my arms just below my shoulders, and said
firmly, 'I want you to know that am OK. There is
something I have wanted to do for you.' And then,
without saying anything else that I remember anyway, she
pulled me towards her. We were already about as close as
we could be, but she pulled me closer, and then we
merged together. What followed was warmth, tingling,
swirling flashes of light, a feeling of floating, of being- me,
her, us together as one. Then it was over."

That is really not very much to go on. Any other details? Sensations? feelings? Sounds?

I once had an encounter with a ball of blue light (http://otherrealityblog.blogspot.com/2009/01/confrontation.html) which I interpreted as my guide at the time. How did I know?  For one thing, it communicated with me for one thing. And at the time it happened, it seemed very familiar in some ways- as if I recognized it because it was connected to me.  At the time this experience started, I would have sworn that I sat up in bed to see it first, before it got to me.  But when I truly woke up later, the covers were very tight around me, and I realized that there really was no way that I had been physically sitting up, no matter how awake I seemed to believe I was at the time.

How did you feel about this at the time?  Did you ever feel that you wanted to communicate with it?   

I remember seeing Jerry Gross post years ago on the old use-net group alt.out-of-body.  He always had claims he made that he could do these things and that he could teach everyone to do them.  We always asked for specifics about his experiences, and proof he could do these things. He said he had proof, but he would not share it. He would usually just leave a thread before giving any real information. Most of his posts were not that helpful.  For example, a member would post their experiences with OOBE and pose a question to the group, He would answer that he had had thousands of OOBE experiences over the years, and could help with those questions, and he just happened to be having a seminar in your area. . . blah blah. . . His posts all seemed to have a similar feel. He had answers, but there was a cost.  No one liked him or trusted him- at least that is my perception and memory. 

I have never felt or seen the chord you speak of in all of my experiences, but I do share a similar "ah-ha" type moment after reading "Journeys out of the Body".   I had these experiences for years, not really knowing what they were, or if they were at all an indicator of healthiness or my being crazy.  I just happened to see a copy of the newly released Journeys Out of the Body in a bookstore window as I was walking by.  I went in, found a copy of it and opened at random to a description of one of Monroe's OOBEs.  It was exactly what I had been experiencing.  I started to shake right there in the store- and not pre OOBE vibrations- This was really the first time I had seen anything close to a description of what happened to me, and at that moment I knew I was not alone.   

This is not easy to deal with when you do not have anything to compare it to, or anyone to discuss it with.  I was also afraid when I was a child.  I discuss this from the beginnings of my blog that you can visit - see my signature line.  I never wanted this when I was younger, but gradually, I accepted it, and now in later years, it has faded away a bit.

Welcome, and good luck in your travels. 

For a slip second you dont feel your body and your body breathes by itself. It might be a trance that you get into for a split second then it comes again and again.

So, it is a bit like a pulsating mini vibration- not the continuous one? I think I have experienced something like that.  There was a guy on old use-net alt.out-of-body who described this as "skimming"- because you are just on the surface of the actual OOB experience, but not quite there.   

Vibes arent vibrations.

OK, what are they then? 

Sounds interesting.
How do i that? By visualising the other side or something like that? And if so, what do i do when i don't know how the other side of the wall looks like?

My thought is that even doing something as you say "teleporting" the wall implies too much of a limitation. Just think beyond the wall.  If you have a goal in mind, concentrate on that goal, and you will not even perceive the wall. 

Had anyone had any kind of similar experience? Like ask for  something they DONT know and actually FIND it?

Sure. I had one experience where I was someone known as Father Bo who died in 1919. A member here googled it and found that someone known as "Father Bo" had died in 1919. 

Also once I had a "radio in my head" experience where I heard music from The Japanese Saxophone played on a station in Andersonville, Ohio. There actually is an Andersonville in Ohio (actually there seem to be two of them? ) and there really is a CD called The Japanese Saxaphone.  Both of those things I had not known or consciously thought of before that experience.

One thing about getting lost on the way to Buffalo. . . I have usually found that it is easier to go to a person than a particular location since you have a stronger link to a person. So next time try just thinking about the personal qualities of your ex instead of the location since your ex is your intended target person anyway.  That way, you will go to them no matter what or where they may be.