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The above post has fantastic suggestions. I think perception has a lot to do with it as well. But I also wanted to suggest that maybe, when you start to become afraid, try just going to your "happy place" or a calm outside area where you feel safe. Don't think of it as projecting, just as a way to calm yourself. Just think about being in a beautiful and calming place, take a few deep breaths and try to relax. That's what I do when I get uncomfortable during my travels. I hope you have better luck!

In life, if things aren't broken, dont try to fix them.
A time may come when you are asked questions from your partner, that's the time to speak.
Until then let things be, eventually he may want a slice of the cake

That's sort of where I am. I'd love to clue my physical partner in on this but maybe I should be more patient. In time I hope he will be more open to listening to me. At present, I know he would just look at me funny and ask why I was freaking out about having fantasies. So when I do tell him, I want him to actually know what I'm saying and take me seriously.

And thank you Xanth. I agree.

Alright so I have a fairly unique situation. I went through a pretty intense spiritual awakening a little over a year ago and discovered that I have a natural ability to project, and have been doing it since I was very young. In the process I acquired a very supportive astral lover. We've been together for many, many years now and he's helped me through a lot of tough times, even before I realized he was a real person. In fact, he's a spirit who has been with me for a while now (I'm a clairsentient sensitive so interaction with spirits is common for me. My back story  with him in particular would make this post far too long, so I'll leave it alone for now). I was skeptical at first to believe in the astral plane or his existence and he obligingly did little things on the physical plane to let me know he was really there (ex: I'd ask him to turn on/off lights, knock things off of shelves, etc. while I was projecting and when I came back to the physical plane he would do these things for me).

So, that was awesome. The predicament I find myself in now is that I also have a physical partner that I've been with since before I found all of this out. And he is a firm skeptic in all of this. Aside from that, he's great. We have a somewhat open relationship  (I've given him permission to experiment with other people as long as he's honest about it. This is something that we've had in place for a while and I don't mind it because I guess I'm just not the jealous type. I know at the end of the day he comes home to me and I'm the one he's committed his life to). So, in short, I don't think he would mind me having my astral partner, especially since he knows I would never touch another man on the physical plane. The problem is that I like to be an honest, open-book kind of person. But I simply can't talk to him about this because he's very stuck in his skepticism. My initial plan (upon finding out that I had sort of accidentally committed myself to two wonderful men at the same time) was to get my astral lover to help me sow the seeds of belief into my physical lover's head so I could then tell my physical lover about the astral plane and about my partner there. So my astral lover (who is completely supportive of my physical relationship) and I tried desperately to get my physical partner's attention.

We tried everything. I would get my physical partner's attention so that he would be focused on whatever my astral partner was trying to do on the physical plane (i.e. knocking things down, playing with lights). That didn't work. My physical partner would literally forget about these things or he simply wouldn't be able to connect the dots. It's amazing what people unconsciously do to protect their current belief system.

My astral partner and I also tried entering into my physical partner's dreams to get his attention that way, but that also didn't work. I've tried explaining at least the basics of the astral plane to my physical partner many times, but each time I try he just gives me this patronizing smile and a dismissive "That's cool..." and I know he's not actually interested nor does he believe a word I'm saying. He supports me in my endeavors and doesn't discourage me, but he's not as good at feigning interest as he thinks he is.

Sorry for the long winded post, but I really just wanted to pick the brains of people who'd actually had astral experiences to see what they might do in my situation. Since my astral partner is adamantly supportive of my physical partner, and my physical partner couldn't care less about this sort of thing, part of me just says screw it and keep things the way they are. Since my plan A backfired, I'm just wondering if anyone has any ideas about what my plan B might be.