I've never really put much thought into my dreams as I seldom have them (or remember them). My little brother died about 4 years ago, and as far back as I can remember I've always had dreams about him dying. I never gave it much thought as it always seemed benign and general (and frequent). Recently (this week) I had a much more intense experience, and it has unsettled me to a certain degree. I'd like to share with you this dream (and the context) if I may, and would like to welcome any and all comments.
Years ago I was engaged to be married. Without going into detail, it did not work out. It was a 4-year relationship, and to this day, there are some things that were not settled and remain without closure. After much thought (and deliberation with my wife) I decided that it would be emotionally healthy for me to try to seek out the ex-fiancee to contact her and try to reach closure. Over the months it has been nigh impossible to find the ex, though about 6 weeks ago I did manage to track down a number for her folks. For 6 weeks I'd occasionally contemplate dialing their number, but I never did follow through. Yesterday morning I woke up from an extremely vivid dream. The wedding was that of my ex-fiancee, and it was being held on the beach in Cancun, Mexico. In the dream I was very upset that she was getting married. I cried almost constantly, pleading with her not to get married. I even went so far as to kiss her which is something I would never consciously entertain. During the day yesterday, I was unable to shake the feeling that this was something that had actually happened, and that I was there. She was on my mind all day. Toward the end of the day, I picked up the phone and called the number for her folks (I didn't know if it was a valid number). I got through right away and had a half-hour conversation with the ex's mother. During the course of the conversation I learned that the ex got married a few weeks ago, on the beach, in Cancun. Since then, the ex has left behind her own home, car, her garden, as well as her career (PhD in child psychology) to move into a very small apartment in New York. Her mother indicated the ex was having a difficult time. Her mother also indicated that she was not sure she would pass along my contact information due to this situation (which I completely understand and respect).
I do not know how to explain the accuracy and lucidity of my dream, other than the possibility that we will remain connected in some manner until we do reach closure. Whether we are able to do so remains to be seen.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to ask any questions and I will do my best to answer them promptly. I feel awkward asking for so much as a new member; I truly feel unsettled and would like to reach out.
Years ago I was engaged to be married. Without going into detail, it did not work out. It was a 4-year relationship, and to this day, there are some things that were not settled and remain without closure. After much thought (and deliberation with my wife) I decided that it would be emotionally healthy for me to try to seek out the ex-fiancee to contact her and try to reach closure. Over the months it has been nigh impossible to find the ex, though about 6 weeks ago I did manage to track down a number for her folks. For 6 weeks I'd occasionally contemplate dialing their number, but I never did follow through. Yesterday morning I woke up from an extremely vivid dream. The wedding was that of my ex-fiancee, and it was being held on the beach in Cancun, Mexico. In the dream I was very upset that she was getting married. I cried almost constantly, pleading with her not to get married. I even went so far as to kiss her which is something I would never consciously entertain. During the day yesterday, I was unable to shake the feeling that this was something that had actually happened, and that I was there. She was on my mind all day. Toward the end of the day, I picked up the phone and called the number for her folks (I didn't know if it was a valid number). I got through right away and had a half-hour conversation with the ex's mother. During the course of the conversation I learned that the ex got married a few weeks ago, on the beach, in Cancun. Since then, the ex has left behind her own home, car, her garden, as well as her career (PhD in child psychology) to move into a very small apartment in New York. Her mother indicated the ex was having a difficult time. Her mother also indicated that she was not sure she would pass along my contact information due to this situation (which I completely understand and respect).
I do not know how to explain the accuracy and lucidity of my dream, other than the possibility that we will remain connected in some manner until we do reach closure. Whether we are able to do so remains to be seen.
Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Please feel free to ask any questions and I will do my best to answer them promptly. I feel awkward asking for so much as a new member; I truly feel unsettled and would like to reach out.