Okay......I want/need some input from some people. I can put this up here because the other person in question will never see it.
So I have this friend that I hadn't talk to for some time. I moved a couple of times, lost her number, and I don't think she knew mine. Anyhow....I was under the impression that she had already gotten married this last October to the person she started seeing just before we lost contact. Well I ran across her on MySpace.com earlier in January and we have talked a couple of times since then. I found out that she didn't get married and things may not be going as well as they were before. She says she still loves him and all that. However she questions whether or not they will actually get married now because of a couple of the problems that they have been having.
My part of the problem is this. I feel guilty talking to her. It is probably due to the fact that she "was" going to get married, they are having problems, and them blam-o enter Dave. (that's me) It honestly would not break my heart if they did not get married. I still have very deep feelings for her but at the same time I don't want to inadvertently drive a wedge between them just by being around. She has only mentioned once that her fiance was "curious" about who I was and what our past relationship was. Which is that she is a very good friend, I still very deeply for her, we did have sex once, but we never "dated".
So what should I do? Keep talking to her and not worry about it. You know kinda let things happen as they will. Tell her what I feel and what I am worried about. Or should I just stop talking to her and let her figure her life out. I just don't know. So far I haven't called her in like a week and a half, I'm kinda seeing if she will call me.
If you love her, go get her!
If you are not sure, just tell her to listen to her guy feelings about the other man. If it is not going well now, it will go even worse after marriage.
Let her know you are interested and that if she does break it off with him you would like to explore a deeper relationship with her - not just a quick tumble, but a nice, leisurely get to know each other thing.