I guess I'm looking for inspiration, hehe! :smile: You see, I'm beginning to think about dating again and... I feel so clueless!
I've tried various online dating sites--that is how I originally met Patrick. It's not nearly as fun or as effective as it was the first time around. I'm finding it a waste of time and energy. I did find one guy I saw a few times, and he was a good guy, but we had no chemistry.
So... I think I'll try to meet someone the "old-fashioned" way. The hard part is making myself get out of my apartment! Still being relatively new to this area doesn't help. I don't know where to go or what to do. *sigh* And then, say I do meet someone who interests me... how do I let him know I'm single, available, interested? And how do I determine if the same is true for him (aside from whether he's in a woman's company, has a wedding ring, etc.?)
Ugh, I'm so inexperienced!!! :sad: I'm trying to just stay optimistic, give serendipity a chance, be open-minded, not have too many expectations, etc., but... it's not easy.
LOL!! By your nic alone I thought you were about to be married!
Perhaps you are a little over enthusiastic? That can turn a lot of guys off. The minute I resigned to live out the rest of my life in a un-happy marriage, was the minute I found my knight in shining white armor! Seriously...I truly had, in my soul, resigned that I would make the best of my situation to only have my situation turn for the better and it hasn't stopped. :grin:
One thing I think about though, is I seemed to have never lived for myself or by myself. I say take time off to just live with yourself! Enjoy having your own space...You go girl! :peace:
Take Care,
Nay
Thanks, Nay! :thumbsup:
I hear a lot that love and happiness often show up when we least expect them--I am so glad that happened for you! :smile: And that is why I am trying to not have too many expectations. In reality, though, I am probably too anxious. So, I probably should relax and just enjoy my "single" life while I still have it, hehe! :cool:
About the nic, it refers to my nearly getting to marry my late fiance, Patrick.
Which reminds me that I could really use a new nic, if that is possible (or would I have to start a new account?)... At the time, when my loss was so fresh, I felt like I would always, for all my life, identify myself with him, you know? But that has changed a lot over the months, in ways I never could have imagined!
:sunny:
You can PM Adrian about the name change, he'll do it for you. :grin:
I totally understand, and it's so great that you are shining so brightly after such an emotional situation, wtg!
Make new friends and have a blast, then PM me with all the details..hehehe..
Nay
Hello!
I just went through a year of HELL getting over a guy. The moment I let him go and looked around at what I did have, I was like "Holy Sh*t!!! What a dumbass I've been!" I looked with new eyes at what I DO have and what I have is far better than any fantasy I have about a dude from the past. I realized that all I had to do was open my eyes and what I had been looking for all along has what I had in my best friend.
Kerri
Kerri, thank you for sharing your story--excellent advice for others! :smile:
Nay, thanks for the info and advice! I'll let you know how things go! :mrgreen: