How do you pick your close freinds?

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

Hi everyone I recently lost a guy good friend of mine I had for about a year. We were good friends. I think it's caused both of us a lot of stress. Nothing too bad yet though. I am wondering how do you's pick your close friends, not acquaintances? What are some disqualifiers and what are some qualifiers?

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

On the karma level I don't feel too bad for him since he is a player and cheats on women, never committing. Some of his ex's even turned lesbian because of his actions. He was a good guy to me though up until that one time when he misunderstood what I said and took it the wrong way. Anyway this is just really been on my mind.

[Phildan1]

I lost all of my friends which I got not just from childhood but but from high school and after it. Some of them were 10-15 years friendships. I tried to fight for them to get them back but you can't. Some connections did brake suddenly out of nowhere. After I got on this path I later realized that maybe our friends are like guides in the NP. While they have or you have a task with him/her/them, you are together and after that they are on their own.
I had a really good friend, who turned out to be suddenly a father with two little girls, and our connection after one year just gone suddenly. A really good guy for being a friend.
Other friendships were just pulling-pushing like, I tried to make connections stronger but always the other side was the weaker and others are just stayed on their path. Ok to tell the truth most of them were too boring after a little while and somehow our paths are just going in the opposite direction.
I had another friend for example, with whom we were together, playing PC games, having fun, or just taking hours, going here and there, for about 10 years and he's just started to be hugely egoistic! I couldn't believe it and I couldn't stay with him for a friendship anymore. It was like a joke, like a hidden force made his path to a totally different direction.

My best guess today is that our friends are there for a certain time and after that maybe they are off and continuing their journey to elsewhere. You can't fight for them because it is like you are too different now or they are. Of course there is a factor there that your friendship was some kind of exploding one.
Strong issue could be if you are the one who are trying to make your connection better and the other one is like in a bubble and not even recognize your role in that. Energy vampires could be like that lol. I had some too.
I also thought for years that maybe the disconnections were my problem but I couldn't find any issue on my side. Simply they are on their own way now and you can't turn them around anymore.

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

I lost all of my friends which I got not just from childhood but but from high school and after it. Some of them were 10-15 years friendships. I tried to fight for them to get them back but you can't. Some connections did brake suddenly out of nowhere. After I got on this path I later realized that maybe our friends are like guides in the NP. While they have or you have a task with him/her/them, you are together and after that they are on their own.
I had a really good friend, who turned out to be suddenly a father with two little girls, and our connection after one year just gone suddenly. A really good guy for being a friend.
Other friendships were just pulling-pushing like, I tried to make connections stronger but always the other side was the weaker and others are just stayed on their path. Ok to tell the truth most of them were too boring after a little while and somehow our paths are just going in the opposite direction.
I had another friend for example, with whom we were together, playing PC games, having fun, or just taking hours, going here and there, for about 10 years and he's just started to be hugely egoistic! I couldn't believe it and I couldn't stay with him for a friendship anymore. It was like a joke, like a hidden force made his path to a totally different direction.

My best guess today is that our friends are there for a certain time and after that maybe they are off and continuing their journey to elsewhere. You can't fight for them because it is like you are too different now or they are. Of course there is a factor there that your friendship was some kind of exploding one.
Strong issue could be if you are the one who are trying to make your connection better and the other one is like in a bubble and not even recognize your role in that. Energy vampires could be like that lol. I had some too.
I also thought for years that maybe the disconnections were my problem but I couldn't find any issue on my side. Simply they are on their own way now and you can't turn them around anymore.

Thanks for that informative reply. Hum I wonder what others experiences are? Like how common is that to loose all of your friends like that? I know my mom and dad lost their friends. But they were fundamentalist Christians.

Anyway since I am an introvert I think the best way to find new friends is through meetup.com and find others with similar interests that want to grow together.

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

watch out for sinners though; in my experience most people will "try something" at some point you just need to be wise.

What do you mean by that? Give an example.

[Privex]

In all honesty, I don't necessarily "Pick" my close friends. I feel closer to some than I do others. I feel like I can enjoy the company of some people more than others. I specifically say feel because I don't know how else to truly explain it. And like the first post said, you will lose a lot of very close friends along the way. That is simply an inevitable thing in life. I'm currently in a rush and I can explain more later if you need just send me a reply.

[Lumaza]

 You ask a lot of non Astral related questions here.  

I think you need to get out and "live" a little. Sorry if you find that harsh, but it's the truth. Looking back at your more recent threads, they seem to all be questions that pertain to why we are put here in this life to experience in the first place. You are meant to learn by "YOUR" experience, not by everyone elses.

It seems like you are taking shortcuts here. You can only get so much from other people's opinions. Life is about experiencing. Good, bad, ugly, they are all experiences. You can't avoid the bad and ugly, that's where your true lessons lie.

You make friends, not all the time is it going to be "peaches and cream". But learn you from it.

If someone does you wrong, you are twice as leery the next time around. Unless of course you like life to "slap" you in the head many times before you can actually see the meaning. Some people have to be taught the same thing repeatedly until they finally understand the reason behind things.

Sorry again, I was "channeling" you there and I guess this is what you needed to hear on some level.

Good Luck!  

[Rakkso]

As you grow and develop, new ideas and views of what's important in life arise, you and everyone else picks one picture or the other or another, but you will never stop the universe for having potential people around you to be friends with, if that's what you want. But don't sit around quietly, I've lost friends too, but I've gained some other friends and just one could be worth 10regulars or more, from different dimensions you could say. lol
Or try like me whenever you feel bored or alone, I have two girlfriends, both are aware of the other, when I'm not with one, I'm definitely with he other, and the same way around. They are called Science and Physical Gf, and let me tell you something, even if I had Science alone, which I've had, you STILL have to go after her, see what I mean there? (Science could be anything, besides, crowds digg a man with passions, follow yours my friend)
A day in life is only boring if you think it to be so.

[Positive3]

Lumazas, comment contained most truth u need to know like where to start, maybe i liked it because it identified me and my life anyways in these last weeks i started to go out more often and often out of comfort zone oh man strugle is real but in the end when you lay down in your bed and think about day that has already passed you are happy tha u stepped from your sweety cuttie comfortable bubble and gained experiences maybe bad/good/interesting it doesnt really matter, matters what you learn from them and indeed i speak from personal experience life will continue slapping you until you realise what u need to realise : D but this is my experience as lumaza said go have your own experience, i have same problems i always came here for help and questions and forcing my self not to have my own experiences, because doesnt it feel safer when u can know something without exprincing it?go out have fun, cry , laugh , play : D.


We all like to hear interesting stories but isnt it more excited when you have your own?

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

You ask a lot of non Astral related questions here.  

I think you need to get out and "live" a little. Sorry if you find that harsh, but it's the truth. Looking back at your more recent threads, they seem to all be questions that pertain to why we are put here in this life to experience in the first place. You are meant to learn by "YOUR" experience, not by everyone elses.

It seems like you are taking shortcuts here. You can only get so much from other people's opinions. Life is about experiencing. Good, bad, ugly, they are all experiences. You can't avoid the bad and ugly, that's where your true lessons lie.

You make friends, not all the time is it going to be "peaches and cream". But learn you from it.

If someone does you wrong, you are twice as leery the next time around. Unless of course you like life to "slap" you in the head many times before you can actually see the meaning. Some people have to be taught the same thing repeatedly until they finally understand the reason behind things.

Sorry again, I was "channeling" you there and I guess this is what you needed to hear on some level.

Good Luck!  

Two things. One damn I think you might have read me very well there. I've been a very hard learner in the past. Repeating the same mistakes over and over. Now though I don't do that. At least I don't think I do. Now I am a pretty fast learner once I mess up.

Also I agree with the part about experiencing. But I find that I learn much faster learning from others. But obviously learning from first hand experience is better and leaves a more lasting impression. But both types of learning are good. I love to research and analyze things so.

[Positive3]

Plasma i agree with your second part of post but i think the difference between learning from others and learning by your mistakes have different impacts on you, so for example : Don't fear sleep paralysis it's just your mind and you get sleep paralysis but still fear covers you, you had knowledge that there is nothing to be afraid of but it still happens but when you take over fear by your own experiences the impact form this is larger then impact form just basic knowledge about sleep paralysis

I gave some made in china exampel but hope i still cleared a little bit what i wanted to say :d

[PlasmaAstralProjection]

Plasma i agree with your second part of post but i think the difference between learning from others and learning by your mistakes have different impacts on you, so for example : Don't fear sleep paralysis it's just your mind and you get sleep paralysis but still fear covers you, you had knowledge that there is nothing to be afraid of but it still happens but when you take over fear by your own experiences the impact form this is larger then impact form just basic knowledge about sleep paralysis

I gave some made in china exampel but hope i still cleared a little bit what i wanted to say :d

Yeah I agree both are important.

BTW I posted this here since I like to get an idea of what spiritual people think.

[FuzzyQuills]

in the astral... create a friend

like I did, she was pretty/cool when I met her in person.

You created a friend... but then met her in person.
Perhaps you could explain this? It doesn't seem to make much sense.

@PlasmaAstralProjection I just lost someone like you did, but in a different way. Most of the time, you just move on. If somehow, they make a comeback... so be it.

[Xanth]

I find that "good friends" usually end up picking you.