I need some helpful insight

[AJDIN]

I have been starting too see patterns now in my mood and when i feel bad or depressed its usually releated too things that happen indirectly

For example i was at the hospital and there was a guy in the next room too me who had taken 30 zannax pills and the doctors who were helping him were approaching the situation horribly wrong, they were speaking too a man who was in a differnt mind state and using all these medical jargon terms that he couldnt understand(he was an obvious drug abuser) the whole time he would be trying too get out of his bed while the doctors were all getting angry and frustrated ... Im thinking too myself wtf - they approach him in such a forward and confronting way that they are making him scared a disoriented, then THERE getting angry when he reacts too that by trying too get out of the hospital? For some reason i took this so personal and it depressed me, even this guy i was with was laughing when the man was moaning and groaning in pain - i just went from calm too sad/depressed automatically

Another example is i am at someones place and i see one of my woman friends hugging another guy friend of mine and cudddling while watching movies, and the same girl is in a relationship with a man who is serving time in the army, and while she is cuddling up with another guy at her place while this guy is miles away from home serving his country... No disrespect and defamation intended at all for anyone... But i just seem too take this sooo personally and think very negatively on the guy who is able too do that knowing her boyfriend is in the army and miles away

When i think about these things it really effects me psychologically too the point where it could ruin my day and make me feel like sh*t for a while

Why is it i take things so personally when it is happening indirectly?


I am a confident man and not shy at all, i am pretty sensitive but i dont cry or anything around people and tend not too show anyone my down side - i know im very empathetic too people but why is it that i take things personally like the stories above?

I can't help it that i do but its been starting too happen alot recently

And i know confroting the situation would make things awkward and create un-necessary drama

Why should i care?

[Lionheart]

 You have an active "empathy" for others. That is a good thing though. You just have to realize this yourself, then you can understand why you experience the emotions so strongly.

[AJDIN]

Thank you lion,

But how could i be feeling something so indirect as a guy miles away from the house not knowing that the guy is cuddling up with her... If you get what im trying too say

[Lionheart]

 Because you are putting yourself in his shoes. You wouldn't want this happening to you, so you feel for him. The same thing with the doctor scenario. You are seeing this from the view of an "outsider" looking in. You can see the injustice, they can't.

[beansta]

hey AJDIN I have felt similar emotions in my own life. I think you're realizing something really important about a our race. humans can be really ignorant, they can also be really insecure. We're all flawed in our own ways. Seeing those flaws in a situational context seems hard to deal with for you because you seem to be coming from a more compassionate point of view. you also have to think about how you were only get a short glimpse into these peoples lives. They are whole beings and they probably feel very similar myriad of emotions as you. Everyone can get the wrong idea about someone by only seeing them act in one specific situation where they could have been feelings a large number of things. So just think about the fact that we all have flaws and sometimes they really come out and we really lose touch but also remember that we have an amazing capacity for compassion and understanding. In the end you can only control what end of the spectrum you wanna fall on and choose how you want to affect every person you ever meet, bringing out those same qualities in them. Letting yourself be brought down by others peoples actions will only hold you back from truly embodying what you believe!

[AJDIN]

Thank you for the replys guys