Ok the truth about me

Ivaldi · July 03, 2006, 13:46:16

OK the truth is I'm male but never liked being male so over the years I've become an angry young person. I honestly am lost and don't know what to do. There is NO WAY I'm telling my family I'm like this. I never asked for this so don't make fun of me.

Sorry for my other topics.

Kazbadan · July 03, 2006, 13:52:39

Why u dont like to be a man? whats wrong with that?

Ivaldi · July 03, 2006, 13:57:45

Quote from: KazbadanWhy u dont like to be a man? whats wrong with that?

Just never really liked being male.

cainam_nazier · July 03, 2006, 17:30:58

Are you sure it's you don't like being a male or is it you don't like being a teenager (or didn't, depending on how old you are now.) Of course preferences being what they are I will not encourage one type of behavior over another. However it is often that younger people get angry and are also often confused as they are growing up. They don't really realize the source of various problems that they may be having and often focus on one single aspect, usually because of some thing that has happened.

Not to make light of your situation, but every one goes through a period where they just don't like who they are. Some times this lasts well into the young adult years. I know that me personally I didn't really start becoming comfortable with myself until I was 25.

GANAMOHA · July 03, 2006, 18:51:42

do you not like to be a guy or do you have gender disphoria (sp?) at last a break through.

blade5x · July 03, 2006, 23:04:31

Did you try to look at the advantages of being Male?

GANAMOHA · July 04, 2006, 00:41:38

well he could but as you could probably imagine there are just as many pros and cons to both sexes so whichever was found more apealling (which is usually ones own sex is more appealing but sometimes that is not the case) but in this case it could also be both sexes do not sound appealing but you never know I suppose.

WalkerInTheWoods · July 05, 2006, 07:11:20

Well it is only temporary so why not just relax and enjoy the experience while you are here. Accepting it and learning from it will make you much happier than fighting something you have no control over.

Ivaldi · July 06, 2006, 10:32:19

No, I mean I always have to put on a fake manly act which is driving me crazy. I actually was born looking a bit female but I was a guy so it made school life even harder back then. Only thing school taught me was hide my true self. Not many understand what it feels like being born in the wrong body so how can you say just go with it. I can't tell any of my loved ones about this. I can't even make friends because of this. Now can you people see why I'm a hateful person?

Nay · July 06, 2006, 10:38:59

No. You alone make the choice to be that 'hateful' person. Stop blaming those around you and take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions.

Now, if you are putting on this tough talk/act to appear more manly.. well, it only makes you look more scared and ignorant... so, you can stop that anytime.

I'm sure if you just talk from truth and your heart, you will find many people willing to listen.

Ivaldi · July 06, 2006, 11:01:27

Quote from: NayNo. You alone make the choice to be that 'hateful' person. Stop blaming those around you and take responsibility for your own thoughts and actions.

Now, if you are putting on this tough talk/act to appear more manly.. well, it only makes you look more scared and ignorant... so, you can stop that anytime.

I'm sure if you just talk from truth and your heart, you will find many people willing to listen.

When you're tormented most of you childhood hate is the only thing that keeps you going. I don't like being fake but we live on a planet that doesn't like different. If I give people the truth they'll only hurt me more.

Nay · July 06, 2006, 11:05:38

I was tormented most of my childhood.. hate was the last thing I felt from myself... I was too busy feeling it from others and telling myself I would never be like that, ever.

Ivaldi · July 06, 2006, 11:24:56

Quote from: NayI was tormented most of my childhood.. hate was the last thing I felt from myself... I was too busy feeling it from others and telling myself I would never be like that, ever.

Is there anything I could do to better myself? I don't want this hate anymore. I wish I could be honest with my family but what if they don't like me after I tell them.

Nay · July 06, 2006, 16:02:10

I can't even pretend to know the first thing about you, so I certainly can't go about telling you how to better yourself. I will say that surrounding yourself in positive thoughts is a good start.

Selski · July 06, 2006, 16:16:34

Ivaldi

It might be worth thinking about going to see a counsellor/doctor/professional. These issues such as you are going through are complex and the Internet isn't really the ideal place to find help.

We can offer sympathy and support, but we are merely "virtual" beings. You need a big dose of reality to deal with your reality. Without taking offence, can I suggest you go and see a "real" helper, face-to-face and see how things go from there?

Sarah

Squirrelly · July 06, 2006, 18:16:46

Ivaldi, we have a lot in common :confused:

cainam_nazier · July 09, 2006, 03:07:45

I will chime in just once more with two things.

Yes definitely go see a professional you can talk to. I am not saying it so they can try and "fix" your mental gender orientation. But I say it because you do have some very real problems that need to be dealt with. It is simply not healthy to be angry at the world. You need a real world outlet for your emotions.

Secondly, read and think about Nay's tag line.

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