How Do You Find The Will?

[G3MM4]

Look, different methods work for different people OK?

[Jenia_San]

quote:Originally posted by G3MM4

Look, different methods work for different people OK?

Exacly!
also,now that I remember...

quote:at least you can exert control over it, and show it the proper way - stop craving, demanding, fearing etc.
i managed that and IT IS BETTER than final fantasy, neverwinter nights or any illusion you wish to dive in

both games yo mentioned were typical [B)] not really worth wasting time on...more as patty diversions.

quote:i don't say - stop playing (well, it's ultimately the best solution, but hey, i've been there), i say - solve your problems when you build up your confidence

bah,sometimes the only problems are OTHER PEOPLE.
and you usually can't change other people.
just like you,I'v been there,but we seem to think in completely different ways [B)]
how come? if it's just the difference between us than the solution depends soley on the person,however if I am alone with that thought...[xx(]

[daem0n]

since when other people are our problem, we let them become our problem,and we can solve this problem, you have 3 choices

1) accept the situation
2)change  the situation
3)remove yourself from the situation

the choice is yours [xx(]

and what are better games , worth spending time on ??

chess ??, go ?? although the stimulate the mind, they won't solve our problems (well you can always live off them, but that requires a lot of income at the beggining)

knowlege on it's own is not enough

the name of this thread is How do you find the will, suggesting deppresion, and when you can't deal with other people, the problem is in you ..., reality check []

[Jenadots]

Sounds like you are in the dark night of the soul....a place where everything seems hopeless and pointless.  Been there many times.

When it was at its worst - and I mean totally suicidal -- I got through it every day by telling myself:  I don't have to do that today.  I can always do it tomorrow.  

I knew, even then, that it was the one thing I could never undo.  The day came when I no longer wanted to do it.  

Might work for you, to get you through each day.  I now realize that I was trying to solve temporary circumstances with a permanent solution.  

Most theories of depression now say that it is anger turned on oneself.  You nickname = fists of fury - may offer a clue as to the source of it.  And yes, emotional upheavals can certainly affect the body with pains and disease.  They are connected.

You cannot control the emotions or reactions or lack of affection others in your life may have for you.  You can only control your reactions to the circumstances and the people around you.  As a young man, there are certainly things you can do to remove yourself from a non-supportive environment. And perhaps, you are misreading those around you, who may actually love you but cannot show it - or don't know how to react to what you are going through.  

All life has value.  Yours does.  You are here and your existence is its own reason for being. Sometimes just getting out of bed and putting one foot in front of the other is a huge personal victory.  

And do get some counseling or treatments, medical or alternative ones, whatever you are comfortable for with.   Don't just suffer in silence or alone.  

Another thing that worked for me was to think of something I really, really wanted to do sometime in my life and I focused on that, knowing that if I died, I would never be able to do it.

Music was also a source of comfort as was figuring out who and what I so angry with.  And then I worked on letting it all go.  

Just let it all go and focus on yourself, on what you want for yourself.  Just because that sounds a bit selfish, doesn't mean it is.  You are the person inhabiting your body and you are the one who must live your life.  

It takes some time to work out of a major depression, but you can do it.  Some of the other suggestions people gave you are very good.  Try anything, start anywhere.  And if you think you have no reason to live, remind yourself that the person inside you is reason enough.  

Years ago, I also had a dear friend kill herself.  It shocked me out of any inclination I ever had to do that to myself.  I saw how it devastated her family and friends.  

There is always some other way out of the problems you might be having.  Always.  Doing anything else is better than doing that.

I hope you find the will within yourself to just go on, a day at a time, minute by minute until you are able to make some decisions that will be better for you.

[Kazbadan]

Ok, here is an anti-depressive idea: go and talk to a Deity like Michelle Pfeifer[][][], Catherine Blanchette[][], Live Tylor[][], Monica Belluci[][][][], etc, and ask them if you can do sex with her.

Well, its 100% guarantee that depressions will go out []

[daem0n]

live taylor ... LOL []

[Kazbadan]

Thats not fun! You are making fun of a guy that doesnt know nothig about english [].

Well, ok, if it is not Live Tylor, maybe it is Liv Taylor or Lyv Tilor...ok stop!! I dont know!

[Jenia_San]

OK,people,you just made me sick. VERY sick.[xx(]

quote:Originally posted by runlola


yeah, the problem is you not video games! []

it never was a problem []

[FistOfFury]

I sometimes don't think that I can continue. It's not the same as it used to be. People that I used to know are gone and have killed themselves. No one in my family cares about me. I often feel like I'm stuck and can't go on. I'm often depressed and my health is deteriorating, I have this pain that wont go away in many places. I feel like my life has no meaning and I don't have the courage or will anymore like I used to. How Do You Find The Will?