The Girl I love

[cube]

Spending yourself into debt will probably not make her love you.

[shadowatcher]

But it will certainly confirm my belief that there is no good in the universe when I am sober.

[James S]

The best apologies come from the heart, not the wallet.

If she can see that the apology is from the heart, a $2 card will be worth just as much as $2000 worth of roses.

I also agree with Runlola. If you're going to spend money on this apology, spend it on something that lasts. My wife liked getting roses, but she loved getting a rose bush, because it would keep on flowering.

- James

[Risu no Kairu]

Just don't let htem drop the roses out of an airplane.

Especially ones with firm, pointy stalks.

If they don't stab into her and kill her that way, they could crush and/or smother her.

[Euphoric Sunrise]

I just have to echo what cube and James have said. You can't buy love. If somebody i had broken up with thought they could just spend money on me and all would be ok i would interpret that as carelessness and their idea would most likely back-fire on them.

Still, it's your life i don't want to tell you what to do. Plus you know more about the situation than any of us. So i'll just say good luck with your relationship and here's to everything working out for the best []

[Phong]

Cube and James aren't just making stuff up.

I made a grave mistake, once. I believed in movie scenes and love stories, words like "passion" and "persistence," that there was some combination of gifts and timing that would make magic, and bring back the woman I loved. I looked obsessive, manipulative, and ended up pushing her away probably forever. It was such a profound mistake of ego.

So don't let your sense of self-importance get in the way. And don't just shrug and say fine - it can be a sneaky little sense.

You might be right about there not being any good in the universe (I believe it) - but, then, it might be that good exists in a pure state outside the universe and orchestrates events through you, if you believe in it.

[manuel]

my advice is to keep that money in your wallet dood.

[Rastus]

A dozen roses and apologive from your heart (kneeling helps).

Using $$$ to buy forgiveness isn't right, it's jsut wrong on multiple levels.

[Jenadots]

Dear Shadow....

Keep most of the money.  

Send a single, yellow rose with a lavender candle, a sorry card with a handwritten letter in it.

In the letter, express your feelings and your regret at getting high and doing whatever you did.  Tell her you are going to go to a stop getting high group and want another chance to be a true gentleman and her true love.  

Tell her how much you want to be a blessing on her life because she is the treasure of yours.  

If she cares for you, she will give you another chance.  If she has sworn you off, then no gift or amount of flowers will change her mind or heart.  Sometimes, only time will do that.  If she refuses to see you, accept that and show up with some flowers in a month or so to see if she has mellowed some.  If not, move on and consider it a lesson learned.

If you are meant for each other, you will find your way to each other again.  

Jena

[pyro4571]

um ill second what jen just said. thats good advice!

[noneofyourbusiness]

huh! if your gonna waste all the money, at least do something good with it,like giving it to me[][][] besides that you shouldnt spend it all on roses (if you decide to spend it) spend like $20 on roses, maybe some chocolate, or convince her that your one of a kind and she'll never find a person like you again, basically put emotion in it





hope you dont hate me

[Kazbadan]

Maybe it could help to know the nature of your mistake....why does she broken the relation with you? This may give us some help.


I would never spend such money because of a girl.

Giving her that quantity of flower will only press her and girls dont like that. They wanna feel free to make their choices, they wana feel free to set their minds to go where they want to go, without any kind of chain or pressure (like the money spend with the flowers...that may blow up everything).

I would make another option.

Maybe i would speak with her...i dont know, we really need to know more about the reasons, or it will be hard to give any idea. Just imagine that the reason was "cheating" (you are the cheater). I think that no thing wil make her come to your arms again....so you see that we are giving ideas in a dark area because we know nothing.

Maybe you dont want to expose your ideas in public (forum) so, you could send a private message for people here in the forum that may be interested in giving some help. But i must advise that my help it worths nothing, so its better to look for more inteligent people, maybe Jenadots, Runlola and some other girls are good options because they are girls and certainly they will have some good things to say about your case.

Give us news.

Good Luck!

[shadowatcher]

To say sorry to the girl I love, I'm going to spend all of my money [2,000 odd dollars] on her. I thought over all my options and decided on sending her roses. Lots of roses. Simple, clean, elegant.

I haven't really found a company that will deliver 2,000 dollars worth of roses at one time. If you know of such a company, have a better idea, respond.

Oh, yes. Some background. Boy meets girl, Boy loves girl, Girl Loves boy , Boy gets high and ruins relationship. Er...That sums it up.

Yup. I made mistakes. I don't a sermon. Just advice.