Can anyone help me?

[jilola]

Don't really know how to help as such but I usually try to look for a lesson to be learned when something weird starts to happpen on a regular basis.
It seems obvious that you have a deep connection with her. Also it seems that while she seems to have a similar connection she also tends not to choose you.
Maybe the esson is that love on the physical doesn't necessarily translate to being together? I went through that particular three time before I got it.

I'd suggest that you think about why and how you have formed this connection and if the phemomena are related to either your feeling toward her or to the (possibly ignored) lesson.

Scepticism, like fear, is a useful servant but a bad master. The world and life are stranger than most people allow for.

2cents & L&L
jouni

[Slavo]

The problem is that I don't live in my homeland (where she is), but EVERYTIME when I have a new relationship (I do not force myself into new relationships - it just come), something happens that I meet her (I do nothing for it!) and my former relationship is simply gone away.
I am pretty frustrated about this situation  - I see only 2 escapes from this -
first is to cut the connection (but I don't know how to do it- since I was persued - I am happy if she is happy - a lot of times that it's gone but it isn't)
- the second one is to somehow try to attract her or what (but i also don't know how  - I have usually no problems with women, but this is very special case)
but anyway thank you

[Adam]

Well, what are your feelings towards her? Your post seems very dry, very lacking in emotion. I am wondering, are there feelings you have towards her, maybe you do not want to feel?

I haven't really been in any relationships of this nature before, so I don't think I can be of much help with that side of it. But - I don't think anyone here will or can give you the answer. It's inside yourself; we are only here for you to 'bounce' things off us and vicea versa. Even if someone DID write the answer down, if you weren't willing to see it, it wouldn't matter

It sounds as if there is a deep connection between the two of you. I think it is important to keep that in mind. What are your feelings? How do you feel about her, about the past mistakes, about the relationship? Ask yourself how you really feel about things, explore - it's about getting to know yourself a bit better

Adam

[Anonymous]

Slavo,

I'm sure she will always be a part of your life somehow. I went through a similar situation and I'm still going through it. I know how to deal with my situation though, much better than I did before. The girl I was seeing does not live near me. She lives about 900 miles away. But if she were around I know I would be experiencing some of the same symptoms you have described. Do not be swayed too much one way or the other. That is, she told you she loved you. I am sure she meant it but do not expect her to return; instead, realize that anything can happen, and prepare for all situations. She may marry someone else, or she may come back to you. She may or may not be your friend. If you can feel that your energies do not live in harmony with each other, disconnect from her and move on. I understand the difficulty of your situation. Also, so you know, there are crystals that can help you. I have a strange crystal I found in a psychic's shop, and the woman just gave it to me. I noticed energy coming from it which is why I was curious about it. I touched it to my heart and went from feeling very sad to feeling normal and regular. This happened in just a few seconds. I don't know the name of the crystal I have. I've been trying to find out. If I do, I will tell you. I do not use the crystal much because I don't want to depend on it. But I use it when I think I really need to.

[Anonymous]

I have one more question. Does your girlfriend feel your presence the way you feel hers?

[Slavo]

EnderWiggin,

the reply is I don't know, but as I alredy mentioned EVERYTIME when I start something with other girl she suddenly return back into my life, so probably she feels something.
Thanx to all for your comments.
Slavo

[Anonymous]

It sounds like trouble to me, if it happens every time you start something with a new girl. Break off the bond, or reduce it to friendship. (I recommend fully breaking it off, because friendships usually don't work out). If she found someone else, then let her stay with that person. If she really wants to be with you, then she needs to make up her mind. If she has chosen to stay with this other person, then make sure that you break off all ties with her. Don't be friends (but don't be enemies either). There is a way you can make yourelf stealth like a ninja. Undetectable. I can't really explain it to you, you just need to use your imagination and pretend there's a great wall (like in China) between you both that she can't go past or around. Shield yourself. She may not know anything about psycic ability, so she may unknowingly attack you at a low level. When I broke up with my girlfriend, a neg impersonated her energies and made me think she thought I was lower than her. I got mad at her and told her how I felt. And she was like "What are you talking about?" I have banished the neg recently. She must have thought I was crazy. So be careful of negs too. They will try to take advantage of this situation, however they can. I am still friends with my ex-girlfriend but we don't talk to each other much. She seemed like she was without emotion. Her tone in her emails was flat, neutral. Not lately though. I was annoyed by this and stopped talking to her for vast amounts of time. Months even. Once I got rid of the neg, I was able to be her friend.

[jilola]

quote:relationships - it just come), something happens that I meet her (I do nothing for it!) and my former relationship is simply gone away.

Do you mean that you intentionally break off the new relationship or that you just stop feeling strongly for the new girlfriend?
I thought about your predicament earlier and it seems to me it is similar to what I define soulmates. Two people who've had many previous lifetimes and have grown very close to each other.
In your case this bond is manifesting itself more strongly than it normally would.

I think it's important for you to realize that your previous girlfriend is an important part of not only your life but of you as well. The same goes for her. Maybe it would help if you talked the situation over, I'm betting she has a similar problem.
Also you both should understand (and for us science guys it's sometimes hard) that we indeed are more than what we appear and that those around us have been around us for countless of lifetimes and will do so for countless more. Sometimes they are with us to help us learn in a positive manner and sometimes in a moreor less negative manner, as witnessed by your current situation.

If you have good relations with her don't try to drive her away. Instead seek ways to make your relationship less physical and more spiritual. Like it or not, I think you two will share a lot of your lives. Make it count, you have an excellent opportunity.

Also remember that we all are one, each individually and all together. We are so much one that the apparent physical illusion of individuality is absurd.

2cents & L&L
jouni

[Slavo]

I broke the relationship cause I stop feeling for my new girlfriend.

the point is that I think it's better not to talk about love with her

I'm trying to do something with my mind to "call" her

- for last 3 years I've been doin' nothin' hoping that it will pass, but as I already mentioned above, it seems like "something" doesn't want it

[jilola]

I see.
So the  question becomes "What do you want?"

I'm reluctant to offer advise in relationship issues but I think you need to discuss this with her. After you've found an answer to the above question.

2cent & L&L
jouni

[Slavo]

Okay,
thx I will try to do something

[kakkarot]

if you want it, give it your all. let nothing stand in the way of what you feel for her. if a mountain rises up to block you, tear it down and keep going. if an ocean opens up before you to prevent your passing, build a bridge right over it. let nothing get between you and her. make her the first priority of your life: drop jobs for her, drop potential gains for her, drop your entire life for her if you have to.

if you really want to be with her that much, then do it, and let nothing stop you.

(on the other hand, if she is into magic and is casting some sort of spell on you, proceed with caution.)

~kakkarot

[Slavo]

I don't know if I can ask about these things here, but at least I'll give it a try.
My problem is that 3 years ago I split up with my former girlfriend - we've been together for a long time.
I know it sounds strange, but I CAN FEEL HER PRESENCE (my pulse is about 2 times higher) if she is somewhere near, even without seeing her - it happened me a lot of times that I felt she is somewhere around and after few minutes I met her.
Also it looked 2 times that we will be again together - she met me and told me that he loves me (I DID NOTHING to meet her)
- but it's like I am cursed, because then happened that she found somebody else.

I will never write about this things, but this Feelings about her presence convinced me to do so.
Actually I am very skeptic bout that (I am scientist, so anyone can imagine how hard was it for me to accept that such things can exist)

Can anyone help me with that?
Thanx
Slavo