think iv found where I lose focus when phasing

[astralee]

its right on the exit its all black but there is a screen it is  in front of me not yet fully phased but theres some one walking past and looking in at me, thats the point I lose focus is there any way to regain focus again at that point.

[Xanth]

Nope.  This is probably the hardest part...

You have to learn to ALLOW yourself to fall off the cliff of Projection.
You can't force this part.

You just regain the focus, somehow.

[CFTraveler]

its right on the exit its all black but there is a screen it is  in front of me not yet fully phased but theres some one walking past and looking in at me, thats the point I lose focus is there any way to regain focus again at that point.

Stare at him even if it scares the bejesus out of you.  Consider it your next mission.  After you get over this, the rest is easy.

[astralee]

cool thanks ill keep trying to focus more

[Astralzombie]

I recently had an experience where I gained my awareness and I saw a skinny old man lying down next to me.

This did not scare me but there are several reasons why this bothered me.

I tried to push him off the bed and he weighed a ton, I wasn't even sure I got his attention until he yelled "Hey, you need to take it easy, this is my bed."

I looked around and realized that I had no idea where I was. I tried to apologize and I felt even worse when I noticed that he was nurturing some injuries.

Then he said something about expecting more from me.

I woke up feeling terrible.

[soarin12]

I tried to push him off the bed and he weighed a ton

Felt sad about the rest of your story but this sentence made me rofl!  Sometimes I wonder what makes us handle a situation in the way we do.  I'm sitting here thinking about all the things you could of done.  You could have jumped out of bed and stared, talked to him, punched him, ignored him, annihilated him, pondered how to handle him...but you decided to try to push him off the bed.  he-he.

[Lookedynamixhales]

I would attempt CFTtavellers advice it worked well for me at other times.

[Astralzombie]

Felt sad about the rest of your story but this sentence made me rofl!  Sometimes I wonder what makes us handle a situation in the way we do.  I'm sitting here thinking about all the things you could of done.  You could have jumped out of bed and stared, talked to him, punched him, ignored him, annihilated him, pondered how to handle him...but you decided to try to push him off the bed.  he-he.

I know what you are saying and I think I know why I reacted that way.

If it was a regular dream, I might have cut him to pieces with a machete but since I have no violent streak in me and I had my full awareness, I just reacted with as much violent force as I could manage under the circumstances. When you know that you are up in your own bed and someone isn't supposed to be there, it is startling. That's all I focused on until he told me to take notice of where I was at.

I'm no pushover but I just don't see the point in hurting people.