Wierd dream, I almost feel bad for having it.

[General-Army]

Before I start, its sort of been a stressful week because ive been wanting to go out wit a girl ive been work friends with for a while but its been like a back and forth thing and i dont want to get her number until im sure, she went on a date with some other guy(she said it wasnt), but i asked her how it went and she said it didnt go too well so im thinking i might still have a chance, but im too shy to ask.

Last night for some reason i felt this dream had some relevence to this situation,  i just dont know how.  

     I went to this girls house, ive never seen her before in my life, but for some reason, she lived out in front of her house in a very large black suv. Like her parents didnt want her in the house or something. Its like a Limo-trailer home thing only its maybe twice the size of an suv inside and you can stand up in it, but just barely. I felt bad for her and she almost never talked. She stayed basicly quiet the whole time. She awnsered with 1 or 2 word awnsers when i talked to her. Some how, i dont remmeber how, but we went on a date. Slowly and slowly, i was getting her to talk more, she would say more to me and for some reason my friends were there in the restaurant hiding behind a booth. They were like half mockin me and half tellin me to go on. but then i woke up.

Now when i woke up, the thought of it sorta makes me feel bad about it and for some reason it feels like it has some relevance to my situation.
the girl in my dream lives in an SUV with like a bed in the backseat, she was much more shy then i ever was, 1 or 2 words at most, but then when we went on the date she started talking more and more.

[You]

Cling to the memory, maybe draw a picture or something in case she's real and you find her.

[Logic]

Hmm, I can offer my interpretation of this:

I think because you didnt know this girl in the dream, might have tried to show you that you still dont know the girl in real life.

Her living in the SUV seems to show that there is a lot of potential for something to happen (especially because it is big) and maybe you might be undecided when it comes to how far you want to go.

Because she wasnt talking a lot could mean that you're somewhat aware of the little communiation between you two.

I think the restaraunt part might indicate that maybe if it becomes serious that you dont know how your friends would feel about you (maybe because you wouldn't be able to spend as much time with them).

Just some thoughts here, after all its your dream. But, I think you should make a move anyways. The first step is the hardest one.

[Leo Volont]

I think your Dream Studio is trying to warn you.  

It is showing you a girl who is alienated from her own 'house', and whose present situation is limiting (you can't stand up).  And on your dream date you had to nurse her along.

When dating, one should always be impressed by the superiority of the girl one is with -- it should always seem like one is reaching up, not stooping down.  You aren't a charity service, are you?

So be careful.  Dating can get quickly out of hand.  What is it, nowadays, after 3 dates or 7 dates you must make the decision whether you should begin to be exclusive, and then it becomes so much harder to bail out when you find you have gotten yourself into a disaster.  

So I recommend you have as many Non-dates as possible -- 'Lunches', 'Coffees', 'Walks' so that you can properly evaluate this girl without the number of dates adding up to an amount that will begin to lock you in.

Remember that one can be Happy while being along, but there is NO MISERY ON EARTH equal to the sufferings imposed by a BAD RELATIONSHIP.  Open arguments are horrible, and then there is the passive aggressive or the silent treatments.  Keep in mind that you must always be in a position where you can simply WALK OUT.  Women are never worth the aggravation.  The only thing that can hinder you is 'making a committment', so, for your own protection, you must ever drag your feet until you are entirely certain you are not opening the door to trouble.  But can you ever be certain?  Not really.  Women can be exasperatingly patient in dissimulating themselves.  Before you have made 'a committment' they will pretend to be sweet and companionable -- they will present themselves as the Perfect Woman.  

My rule of thumb has always been to ask for six month extensions on your 'committment' after every 'fight'.  When they ask about whether or not it is time to 'take the next steop' you can remind them that it has not yet been six months 'since that last big rowl'.  And then make sure you pick a fight before the six months are over.  But ordinarily, you can tire out their patience and they will let their True Shrews show through, and you can break up with them with a clear conscience.  Ah! Freedom.  And the next Young Thing will be waiting around the corner.  If you work it right, you can always be dating women while they are pretending to be Perfect... and then they nearly are, no?

[Paradox]

Leo

I dont know you at all, so i could very well be wrong. But judging from most of your post regarding relationships with women, I think you deffintly have some major issues with women and commitment. Some of the things you write are just so jaw dropping. I just want to say that dispite anything that may or may not have happened to you personally, that love and healthy loving commited relationships CAN and DO exist.