Quarrel ( 2012-10-30 )
I found myself arguing over dinner with some people, amongst one of them was an old friend of mine. We argued about how I made the dinner. They questioned my cooking and I said that I only did what the teacher told me (apparently there was a teacher) so they should just shut up. I was very angry. I walked away and my old friend followed and we had a small fight, a kind of harmless one where I tripped him in some way. He started to complain about some pain he got from the fight. And I noticed that I also had this pain/desease around my nose. I told my friend not to worry as I had something much worse. I started trying to blow the desease out with my nose. I also coughed alot. Out came various brown/green substances that I didnt find very disgusting in the dream but I do now in waking reality. It just kept on comming and the dream ended when it settled somewhat.
Keywords:
- Dinner: a gathering of people socializing, time for contemplation, relaxing and winding down, last meal of the day
- Teacher: tutor, a person with knowledge of what to do in a certain proffession, guide
- Nose: sense of smell, sensitivity, air passage
It feels as if Im arguing with guides or with other aspects of me over something that I'v done. And I can't accept them beeing angry at me as I just did what the teacher told me to do. I think that both the people and the teacher are guides helping me with some realization. And this realization I think is that I should be aware of my temper and not loose my cool in a pressed situation. In this case I walk away and my olrd friend (guide) follows and nags me anyway. I guess they insisted that I stayed and dealt with the problem or something. When I trip my friend I kind of hurt him and he complains about some pain, but I say that I also have something bad around my nose. Then I proceed to get rid of this thing/desease/negative thing. What that was I dont know but I know that when the dream ended I had gotten rid of most of it. I guess when I think of what it was a thought of a negative attitude or that I am beeing too sensitive regarding certain things comes to mind. I find this dream very hard to interpret but to conclude I think my guides were trying to help me realize something about myself and to get rid of it. I think that they were successfull in the dream. If this sensitivity is gone in waking reality I don't know but at least now I'm more aware of it.
The dinner was a gathering of all the influential people in your life to symbolize the personality u have gained little by little from them being that they were ur family, and family is always inside of us, we carry some traits from Family that we keep for the rest of our lives and they become "US"
Your teacher is the Internal Inlfuence u have over yourself, as in u are your own teacher, u made the dinner actually according to what u already know, and in doing so u were presenting the notion that this inner teacher was a master in which u learn from"Supposedly" actaully u learn from yourself, but ur family(which is also YOU) sees u speak of yourself as some already justifiable image that cant mess up on something simple like a dinner...then comes ur friend/guide
He is the external influence you have that actually symbolizes the truth and that truth is that what u did or what u said was actually not valid and there is an ERROR... which brings me to the disease
the disease is what you fall back on as an excuse to deflect the connflict from yourself or the blame
see your friend was hurt by an external force which is u and that is a real reason to be upset, because he trusted u wouldnt do that
and your disease is an internal force that is making u upset because in reality the only one who is at fault is u for not taking better care of yourself
which brings me to the final conclusion
There are many people who really love you including yourself(hopefully u love urself), and im not trying to assume but it seems that u play the victim or try to be the victim at times in your confrontations and conflicts with those loved ones, like friends, family, lovers, etc, and actaully even conflicts u have within yourself
and in reality u must open ur eyes and be open minded to just sit and be able to have a simple lecture, explaination, or conversation coming from them on something like how to cook a meal, ha ya know family moments, stop deflecting your own self critiziscm with excuses and falsehoods, the disease is ur own ignorance towards the issues of others, and the fuel of your excuse
other than that its good u had this dream, but now than never
QuoteThe dinner was a gathering of all the influential people in your life to symbolize the personality u have gained little by little from them being that they were ur family, and family is always inside of us, we carry some traits from Family that we keep for the rest of our lives and they become "US"
Perhaps. But thats the way you interpret it. At least I interpret them as they are parts of me, or guides wanting to help me. The guides can, offcource, be parts of me as a whole.
QuoteYour teacher is the Internal Inlfuence u have over yourself, as in u are your own teacher, u made the dinner actually according to what u already know, and in doing so u were presenting the notion that this inner teacher was a master in which u learn from"Supposedly" actaully u learn from yourself, but ur family(which is also YOU) sees u speak of yourself as some already justifiable image that cant mess up on something simple like a dinner...then comes ur friend/guide
I like this way of thinking, it can actually be this way as i had a hard time interpreting the whole incident at the table. Why it happened etc. I can aggree with this.
QuoteHe is the external influence you have that actually symbolizes the truth and that truth is that what u did or what u said was actually not valid and there is an ERROR... which brings me to the disease
I can aggree to this as when I read this sentance I think of that in the dream I actually made a misstake during the dinner. Before I read this I could only see that I made the misstake but it was not my own fault.
Having read the rest of your text I find that what I should learn from this dream is this:
In both physical waking reaility and when trying to obtain spiritual knowledge I need to be able to sit down and listen without judgment. In physical waking reality I need to learn tio listen to what people have to say without judging them before they have finished their sentance, or listening in non critical kind of way. I know that I already think of this but sometimes I cant help to cut them off in the middle of their sentances or getting irritated because I already know what they are going to say. I need to understand that listening is important to me because it gives me lessons of patience.
In spiritual practices I have gotten the notion and suggestion several times that I should listen. I have always wondered about what I should listen for. It could be dreams where I saw a key in my ear, or questions during meditation that got answered that said I should listen. I think that it means that I should listen to myself. Both listen to what I want, and listen inside. Listen in this case also means to be aware and observe without judgment (as in phasing).
And listening will hopefully let me know when it is me that has done something wrong. So that I dont get angry with someone because they are critisizing me of something that I cannot see is my fault.
Thank you for the advice! Much appreciated. This was in fact a lesson in of itself (I think that's how you write it).
Hi,
One thing you may have missed from your dream in your interpretation is you should listen to your own needs not wants. Also listen to the others around you hold dearly, they too have needs and it may be that you only hear their wants and switch off before their needs become apparent.
Its in the interpretation, if it applies and heeded, you'll be respected more.
Quote from: AteBits on October 31, 2012, 08:02:38
Having read the rest of your text I find that what I should learn from this dream is this:
In both physical waking reaility and when trying to obtain spiritual knowledge I need to be able to sit down and listen without judgment. In physical waking reality I need to learn tio listen to what people have to say without judging them before they have finished their sentance, or listening in non critical kind of way. I know that I already think of this but sometimes I cant help to cut them off in the middle of their sentances or getting irritated because I already know what they are going to say. I need to understand that listening is important to me because it gives me lessons of patience.
Exactly! right on the money
The hardest thing to do in a QUARREL is to let the other state their point and finish their statements because at times (especially if u already know ur right) you want to hurry up and end the lecture, because of no PATIENCE. what your really doing is being stubborn and IGNORANT towards any other Knowledge and Opinion, and honestly that doesnt make u look smart it makes u look like a
CHILD or a SWORE LOSERPATIENCE is the key to understanding the lesson
Remember it does not matter if you win the race first, what matters is that you need to know how to finish the RACEyou need to learn how to listen and be open minded towards others it does not necesarally(typo) mean to agree or accept their opinion its means..
YOU HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE WHAT THEY SAY, BCUZ WHO KNOWS THEY MIGHT SAY SOMETHING TOTALLY OFF THE SUBJECCT YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN DEBATING ABOUT, BUT IT COULD BE AN ANSWER TO A QUESTION YOU HAVE HAD YOUR WHOLE LIFE ;)