I had to share this. I just returned from my daily walk around my beautiful neighborhood. There are many people walking their dogs and typically dogs love me. They want me to pet them, they turn to look at me if I am walking behind them. Today was different. Three dogs barked at me in a span of 45 minutes. I knew there was something unusual about me. The problem was obviously me. As the third dog was barking at me a thought popped in my head "you have absorbed you co-workers dispute from today". And when I stopped and thought about it, the entire walk I was replaying in my head the situation from work. I had to get involved between 2 people. One thought the other was rude to them and I had to resolve the issue. I still have to discuss with the one who was and I guess I was preparing for tomorrow. But It appears that I have taken this too much into my own energy field. Instead of observing in the moment, made a plan of action and left it there where it belongs until the planned action needs to be take, I absorbed the energy of the argument and it stayed with me even on my walk. I wasn't noticing the trees, or the sky, or listening to the birds. I was replaying the event and rehearsing the tomorrow's discussion. I believe the dogs were giving me a message and trying to warn me that there was something around me that didn't belong. They were barking at that.
I think it's important to practice "observe but dont absorb". It's difficult but if we practice, we can start catching ourselves in these moments, reframe our action/reaction and let it go. Trust that if resolution is still pending, it will resolve at the rite time when it's meant to. Replaying and rehearsing will only create more of what we perceive as negative about the situation.
Except to say that you, as a practice, are bringing to a conscious fore what is not ordinarily considered. In this case, it is a good lesson. I am happy you have such a lovely environment to enjoy, and that you can- proverbially speaking, dredge through the muds in order to find the springs of peace and joy. :-)
Quote from: LightBeam on June 30, 2025, 21:56:06I think it's important to practice "observe but dont absorb". It's difficult but if we practice, we can start catching ourselves in these moments, reframe our action/reaction and let it go. Trust that if resolution is still pending, it will resolve at the rite time when it's meant to. Replaying and rehearsing will only create more of what we perceive as negative about the situation.
As an "Empath", you need to be aware of the energies that make up this reality here. My wife would notice when I had accidently, I guess you could say "absorbed" some kind of bad energy at a show. She would notice the immediate change in my mood and tell me to go "shake it out". She isn't here in this realm anymore, so I must be aware of this change myself. Every morning, before a show, I put a bubble, based on the Elements, around myself, that extends out 5ft, and I invite all like-minded, good-natured people and "entities" into it. There are a number of healers and seers at these shows. Some of the Merchants at the Wellness shows that I vend at, actually remove negative energies from a person, in a number of different ways. Reiki, Quantum touch, Shamanic healing and other modalities are used quite a bit there.
Wow, Lightbeam, this thread of yours really caught my attention because I can really relate.
It was a very emotionally intense week at work and I ended up feeling really depressed. I work at a hostel/hotel and unfortunately, this type of place tends to attract all kinds of energies.
A receptionist sold a room illegally to five people in the middle of the night for them to do drugs and have an orgy. The next day, one of those guests came to reception and treated me very bad, eventually threatening to hit my manager, so we had to call the police. Later, I found out that this guy had a grudge against me from the moment I handed him a key at reception or sold him a soda, what a psychopath. I knew he had problems with drugs and the police in the past, and I was scared. That night, he came back and almost got into a fight with another receptionist. In the end, it all worked out for the best because they kicked him out. He was supposed to be a monthly guest, and if it weren't for this, I would have been living with a crazy person...
I felt terrible all week and couldn't sleep. I'm still not fully recovered emotionally. To be honest, it was hard for me to think about God, about us all being One, and about the lessons on this planet. I was in fight-or-flight mode all week and filled with anger, which I hadn't felt in a long time. In some ways, I feel like these situations serve to "measure" us and see how much we need to improve. In my case, a lot. But I feel like in the end I can always see... Only now I can understand the situation and see that this was a blessing for everyone.
Today, I went for a walk in the woods with a friend and saw squirrels jumping through the trees, and it was all so beautiful.
Thanks for reminding me about the observer mode! It's not easy not to get involved, and I really think it takes years and years of practice.
Apparently, we're all very sensitive!
That's tough, Tak! Would you be open to try putting out to the universe to attract a job for you which will give you abundance and joy, and feed it with good feel energy. Don't put deadlines, just feel it. As I am typing this a thought popped in my mind since you had mentioned before traveling. I am watching on youtube those people who travel and film their adventures, tasting street foods, talking to the locals, showing the culture, etc. Most of them make their living with these videos and they have loads of views. I can totally see you doing that. You can try with something in your area. I would totally enjoy watching travel videos of Argentina, especially rural areas, street food, how people live. There is one guy who travels to poor areas around the world and always gives a lot of extra tips to every vendor. for him this is just a few dollars, but for them is a fortune. It melts my heart when I see these people's reactions and gratitude. He often tells these super old people selling stuff on the streets "I'll buy everything on your cart, you go home and rest" haha. Because they have to work every day from dawn to dusk just to put food on the family table.
Tak - Not much I can add to the excellent observations LB has already offered.
I will just add that working, as you do, in a public facing position, you will inevitably be confronted with the entire spectrum of people from the highest to lowest vibration, and sometimes very low. While this can be considered to be an excellent opportunity to advance Spiritually, by rising above any negative emotions invoked - observing, not engaging - and only seeing everyone as they truly are - Expressions of God, and to Love them as God Loves them. "Love thy neighbour as thyself" - it can be challenging at times..
That said, it is also very wise to extricate ones-self from negative people and situations that can weigh heavily on the Soul. LB's suggestion of a YT channel documenting life around Argentina, or Buenos Aires, sounds wonderful - I am sure it is very varied and interesting culture. To supplement your income, especially while building a YT following, you could find a part time job that you really enjoy. But ultimately, we all create, or project, our own reality, our own experience, and are free to chose any experience the Heart desires - if you can imagine it, you can experience it, without limitation. So first meditate on what situation will bring you the greatest joy, and then, especially just before sleep, imagine, with as much feeling, emotions etc. as you can, that your are doing this right now, and Believe it. This will be impressed upon your Subconscious Mind, which must and will bring it into your experience, in due course. Patience is key and never engaging any contradictory thoughts.
Tak, I have had my share of run-ins with awful and dangerous people. When these types of interactions occur and add up, usually a change is coming so watch for it (and as LB and Adrian state, think positively of where you want to be and what you want to be doing). In the meantime, be safe and take all precautions necessary to keep yourself out of harms way.
Quote from: Tak on July 01, 2025, 20:46:28I felt terrible all week and couldn't sleep. I'm still not fully recovered emotionally. To be honest, it was hard for me to think about God, about us all being One, and about the lessons on this planet. I was in fight-or-flight mode all week and filled with anger, which I hadn't felt in a long time. In some ways, I feel like these situations serve to "measure" us and see how much we need to improve. In my case, a lot. But I feel like in the end I can always see... Only now I can understand the situation and see that this was a blessing for everyone.
Today, I went for a walk in the woods with a friend and saw squirrels jumping through the trees, and it was all so beautiful.
Thanks for reminding me about the observer mode! It's not easy not to get involved, and I really think it takes years and years of practice.
Apparently, we're all very sensitive!
Good morning Carla,
I hope you're feeling better on this day. Whether it was you standing behind the desk, or someone else, this man carries his problems with him. It was nothing you did- and I am glad you're OK.
Your post is point in case we can all improve ourselves, that we truly are working with and towards something greater. I say this because of what you've said here,
QuoteI feel like these situations serve to "measure" us and see how much we need to improve. In my case, a lot.
But I would rather not have said it- because I am talking to all of us here reading this, not just you. I would rather you not have to worry yourself about how you or others "measure up." None of us should. Instead, just recognize we all have work to do- and we are all doing the work. This means at times, we move through these unsavory experiences.
We both live in the city, so I understand the fight or flight. I have had an uncanny ability to bring out the absolute worse, nonsensical rage in passerbys for saying good morning or even just making eye contact. I think I've shared with you some of the really crazy stories.
I've been placed in a similar state as you for months, made uneasy around people in the city until one day a lady walked up to me and gave me a hug. It helped restore my Faith even in the lower places. It felt as if God himself/herself was helping release the tension/upset. Rest assured, your encounter with that man was not normal- and was more about his instability and lack than anything else.
We would do well to pray for him, but please know that I pray for you too. I believe you are protected, but I pray for your continued protection. Not that you don't know this. But that God guides and allows you to feel it even in your work place. I pray for your quick recovery, the restoration of your Faith in Love as the driving force behind all things. I am happy to see you find comfort and peace so readily after this upsetting experience. ***HUGS***
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I think there are things that happen, "behind the scenes" that may never make sense to us. I've been wondering lately if Jesus dying on the cross had a greater spiritual reality - where a thousand of years is but a day to God. Sorry to divert the train of thought here, you're my friend and we've been showing an interest in Jesus lately. I can't believe we, as humans, ever entertained the thought of skinning other humans alive. We've come a long way since those dark and detestable displays of human personality. We still have a long way to go- but I wonder if Jesus dying on the cross helped elevate our understanding and evolution towards God.
I also wonder what work, "behind the scenes" has occurred for us to have encountered or even pull out the negativity in a person like poison being extracted from the body. In these moments, time will heal and continued Faith in Love will find ways to manifest itself in your life.
Love to you sweet Sister <3
Thank you all so much for your responses, and I appreciate the encouragement and advice!!
Lightbeam, your idea is excellent! I've thought about it before, since I love to travel. Doing something like that sounds wonderful, and Argentina is very rich culturally. I really enjoyed exploring the northwest of my country and learning more about the native culture. There are amazing places and breathtaking beauty, with very kind people.
Thanks for showing interest in my country's culture! ❤
To be honest, I shared this because I want to express how I feel, which is that it's very easy for me to think about God while enjoying a delicious cup of hot chocolate while watching an amazing sunset... But it's so hard when things get tough, when we encounter aggressive and complicated people. It's hard for me to think that "the darkness" is also an expression of God and His will to experiment. Or it's hard to see the learning when we're in fight-or-flight mode and feel threatened. Only when the storm passes do I feel like I can see clearly, but while the winds are raging, my interior is just as turbulent. I feel like this is an aspect I need to improve on, just observing without getting involved or looking at everything like a movie, as Adrian wisely advised once. That doesn't mean not taking action, but not letting oneself get discouraged. I know that things happen for a reason and to learn a lesson, in my case, I feel like it was to measure myself, to see if I'm more on the side of consciousness or ego. Did I let myself get offended or did I act with wisdom?
As Adrian says, customer service is a lottery, you never know who's going to walk in! It's part of the job. I'm not dissatisfied with my work, but it has its challenges, four receptionists quit in one month LOL. And I was wondering why. But my bosses have defended me, given me coffee and chocolates, and every day people compliment me on my kindness and treatment, my mind is at peace, and I feel good.
Thanks Tides for your sweet words! I also always pray for all of us. I appreciate everything you say, dear friend! I know we're protected. I know you understand me because your job is similar to mine, and we know the craziness of people lol. There are also wonderful people who brighten our day, and I'm grateful to each of those souls for crossing my path and making my life a unique experience.
Thanks for mentioning Jesus and, as you say, there's a greater reality to discover, and a lot of things happen behind the scenes that we may never fully understand while we're on Earth.
We'll apply Lumaza's bubble technique! I used to do something similar when I was ten, before sleeping, I would mentally build a golden energy bubble around myself that was "impenetrable" and invoke my protectors. I always did it instinctively, but then I stopped doing it.
Thanks to everyone! I want to tell you that you're all very dear to me, and I appreciate the space to express myself in this community.
Every advice I receive is greatly appreciated :-) :-)
It's a process, Tak. The measurement is how long does it take us to catch ourselves and let it go. Because in the midst of a fire, you have to be almost non-human to not initially react by instinct and survival mechanism. The more we shorten the "aftermath" processing time, the less we will manifest the need to experience these types of challenges in the first place.
What helps me in challenging situations is to immediately start thinking "This is juts an illusion. I am pure energy and I am untouchable and indestructible no matter what this projection is playing out. I am that I am". Then I take deep breaths with a few seconds holding breath between inhale and exhale to calm my nervous system. Then I analyze what is the purpose of this specific scene, the players involved and what could be the lessons for each player. Sometimes we agree to serve as examples to others and agree to be placed in these situations to help them realize something specific.
QuoteI feel like this is an aspect I need to improve on... I know that things happen for a reason and to learn a lesson, in my case, I feel like it was to measure myself, to see if I'm more on the side of consciousness or ego. Did I let myself get offended or did I act with wisdom?
Tak, I think this is why I am drawn to you as far as our relatability is concerned. I feel very similar with regards to what you've said quoted above. I feel a burning desire to be MORE conscious/aware.
I wish to improve this aspect in all areas of my life. From what I watch, what I think, what I eat, what I speak...
That there is this desire to do things, "better." It's completely fine, maybe because we recognize being the master of ones life means freedom- rather than being a slave to our whims or impulses.
I'm just thinking out loud with you and the others here- I think there is a need for balance. Sometimes this desire to be MORE can be too much, and suddenly we are rebelling against our best interest. Other times, we are really our worse enemy when we constantly weigh ourselves in this manner.
There is also another route, to give Faith in God that we are being Loved and Guided. This guidance is where I question those behind the scene, immaterial realities.
Was this man interacting with you, because behind the scenes you were exactly the right person to trigger important events in his life?
And even with the smaller things in life... If we ask, do things happen for a reason? We may even consider when hesitation may serve a greater purpose, like- you aren't sure if you should drive somewhere and waiting just a little bit meant avoiding a potential car accident.
We can't be expected to know all of the reasons, when we are so identified with these bodies and the linear experience. We especially can't be expected to know all of the reasons for *other persons, total strangers. That's between them and God. But Faith in God, Faith that we are so dearly loved and being guided- this allows for that semblance of balance and surrender. This allows grace for our shortcomings and the shortcomings of others. When we are moved by that, we are provided understanding... And even our perception- the need to be better, changes. Maybe things become more lax as we discover the rhymes and the reasons, and all the meanwhile, our ability to live consciously becomes even greater.
I'm certain you've experienced exactly this kind of clarity. So, allow yourself some grace. I must do the same as I am constantly beating myself up. Remember above all things how precious you are to the one guiding you. And, even when we don't understand it- how precious all life is to that One, who guides ALL.
We will get, "there" sister. I believe "there" comes when we are in that sweet spot of acceptance and surrender to Divine Love.
Quote from: Tak on July 04, 2025, 19:30:43As Adrian says, customer service is a lottery, you never know who's going to walk in! It's part of the job. I'm not dissatisfied with my work, but it has its challenges, four receptionists quit in one month LOL. And I was wondering why. But my bosses have defended me, given me coffee and chocolates, and every day people compliment me on my kindness and treatment, my mind is at peace, and I feel good.
Well it might be helpful to think of every person walking through the door of the hotel as having been sent by the Universe, God, as an opportunity for you to progress Spiritually, in accordance with your own perception, thoughts, feelings and actions. Therefore, I would suggest welcoming each each stranger equally, which I am sure you do already, with Love and Gratitude to God for sending them to you, no matter how they outwardly behave - they are still expressions of God. And yes, observe as a movie without engaging, but always with Love.
It seems to me that you are exactly where you need to be in this moment. The fact you are still working there and appreciated, while others simply leave, really says it all. Embrace the entirety of the experience
Quote from: Adrian on July 06, 2025, 02:26:01Well it might be helpful to think of every person walking through the door of the hotel as having been sent by the Universe, God, as an opportunity for you to progress Spiritually, in accordance with your own perception, thoughts, feelings and actions.
Thank you for the reminder of thinking of challenges as opportunities to learn/grow. Reading that on here awhile back has helped me immensely coping with intense stress.