How Do You Channel Your 😡

[Via Dolorosa]

Ok, so I had a falling out the other day, and I lashed out at someone. They said they thought what I said was horrible and blocked me. I'm usually placid and submissive but I was livid. Thats the end of the relationship but I have angry energy that is not releasing, and I don't know what to do with it...

I am also struggling to project which I would have thought the wrath  would be quite helpful, but instead I am just dreaming of the trauma...and I am also conflicted in my feelings as I had a false awakening the other day of him making love to me which does not help releasing the trauma. I have not been so angry before.

I work full time and its a very physical job, but I am wondering if any of you have used your anger energy in a exercise and which ones work for you

Thanks,



 

[Tak]

Hi Vía, the topic of anger, anxiety, depression, and all that is vast.
First and foremost, I think the most important thing is not to judge ourselves for feeling that way, but rather to accept ourselves completely. We are the entire spectrum, light and darkness. It's our consciousness and energy management that allows us to navigate the human labyrinth with more balance.

I believe emotions like anger are flags that indicate there's something we're not seeing, and we need to start working on it. There's something bothering, saddening, or angering us, and it's being cultivated like a bad weed until it explodes one day. It's simply a wake-up call to start paying attention to things we're sweeping under the rug and start cleaning our emotional closet.
I don't think it's good to repress anger; there are many ways to release it, such as intense exercise, boxing, or hitting a pillow, lol. But that would be superficial.

What I do is write a lot about my emotions; I've never had therapy in my life, but I do write a lot, and it makes me feel better. Put your thoughts in order, make lists or concept maps, connect the dots until you reach the root. You can write a list of possible solutions. It's essential to write and not just think, so your subconscious can assimilate it better.

On the other hand, when an anger attack is about to come, try to breathe deeply and observe; don't get mixed up in the situation, observe from outside, as if you were watching a movie and just being a spectator. That can be quite a challenge with all that cortisol running through your body, but it's possible. Many times when I cried a lot, it was as if I dissociated and could see a body crying alone, but my consciousness had nothing to do with that situation, as if I were watching everything from a higher step, floating.

And above all, don't be the spark that ignites the fire; many times things happen that we don't like, but we magnify and triple their size.

Having a wellness routine helps a lot in controlling your temperament. For example, I do breathing sessions in the morning and before sleeping. I'm also practicing Qi Gong, and I try to meditate for at least a few minutes a day. Having that routine helps me stay calmer; in fact, what used to anger me now makes me laugh!
Remember that situations are neutral; we're the ones who give them the color tint that makes them one way or another. We can always act differently.

Try to see everything from other perspectives, especially from others'. When I get angry with someone, I think a lot about how my behavior might have been misinterpreted from the other person's point of view.

And most importantly, take walks in nature; seeing green really helps. I think meditation is a good option because it's the art of observing our mind, detached, which can also be done in daily life. Remember that just as you've discovered you're not your physical body, you're not your emotions or thoughts either; we're the consciousness that observes, which is pure.

Just some advice!

[EscapeVelocity]

Thank you, Tak, for such an excellent response. There are many insights in there and beautifully expressed; not much that I could add, but much I can take away for myself. Stepping outside of one's self in meditation/contemplation or even the magnitude of an OBE is one thing...not sure how well I have managed it during a bout of anger, lol...something to work towards...

We are the pure Consciousness, which observes

[Lumaza]

Thank you, Tak, for such an excellent response.


We are the pure Consciousness, which observes

I second EV's comment on your fantastic post Tak! 

 This practice in general teaches you how to be "aware". That increased sense of awareness can really help us in our daily lives. Being able to "consciously separate" ourselves from situations, allows us opportunity to see things from not only both sides, but "all" sides too.

 Mary Jo used to call this "gift", my "spider sense" because there was indeed a "tingle" to it and I will tell you one thing, it helped in many situations when we were travelling around the country vending at Renaissance Faires. It still does today.