How To Fight Hate

[Soulfire]

Thank you for that uplifting message.  []

--Soulfire

[Squeek]

"Treat hate with kindness, and you will have won the fight."

Some guy said that.  I don't know who.  Just listen to it -.-;

~Squeek

[wisp]

Excellent take on hate, Reason. Hate is an emotion. This emotion can also manifest in your realm of reality. Your observation and understanding is correct. However, you should take counter measures for hate directed at you.
A person with ill intent toward you can succeed, would you want this? Their lesson and your lesson are two different things. Sure, you are aware of what drives this person or persons. Don't you have an obligation to learn more about this? Hate is a result of someone seeing in you what they don't like in themself. By overcoming it in yourself or accepting that part of yourself is not good enough for the one who would like your downfall for it. So, what do you do about it? To allow an authority figure to take care of it may not be the total answer. You are assuming the authority figure is wise and just, and this is not the case oftentimes.
Jealousy is a big cause for a person to take negative action against you. You are a mirror to that person who is after you. You must evaluate something about yourself that this person(s) is seeing in you. It may not be the same thing being focusing on by this person.  If it's a no win situation, are you may be being prompted by a higher power to move on from where you are? Or, can you hold out with patients, and try to perfect that aspect the enemy is seeing in you? Perfectionists are the most difficult to accept a challenge with. Endurance is good, but it must lead to something other than more of the same. What lesson do you have to learn? I had a fairly recent encounter with hatred and actions to bring me and some others down. We chose the stay-put and endure for awhile. In the meantime, we all made alternative plans to go elsewhere.
Before we had time to change jobs, the "hate-force" was met with opposition in their own personal lives. They no longer had the strength to carry on with their original intentions of destroying us. The residual from all of this remains. Nothing we can do now will ever be "good enough". Should we be satified with this, or as mentioned before, move on?   It seems to basically come down to that. The enemy is no longer the enemy. It's now the employer who is in question. They seem to lack the ability of discernment. Would it be any better anywhere else? I doubt it. The same problem will arise again most likely.
The only answer I see is to remain as independent as possible. Self suffiency is the way to go. Because this is such a good move I truly believe a higher power (my own or God) has caused changes in my work environment toward my benefit. This is no accident. If something better comes along I will surely know it now. In the meantime, I have it pretty good. All I have to do is stay sharp. This I can do.
Now, if I can only figure out how this works in my personal life. []

[Reason]

Disclaimer:This is something I wrote for myself a year ago.  I was feeling blue and I meditated on the reason people say the things they do sometimes.  It has helped me, and maybe it will help you.  It puts things in perspective.

How To Fight Hate

Whenever you are hurt by something that someone says or does to you, you mustn't fight with hate.  In fact, you mustn't fight at all.  Fighting creates impurities in the heart, which could in turn make your heart bad.  Horrible things in history have happened because people were fueled by hate and made evil decisions.  When you are wronged you shouldn't answer with physical violence, or even hateful words because it will make you impure.  And when you have an impure heart you can't be truly happy.  You shouldn't fight someone's hate against you even in your mind with hate.  Even if what you say could be half-true, or fully true, you shouldn't.  In your heart and mind you are devaluing them.  Remember that above all else, they are human beings too, with worth you will never know.  You will be a better person yourself by not fighting hate with hate.  Do not put yourself above others, because that would also be something bad. Remember, even if fighting hate with hate quenches your hearts despair, it is not right, because you will never be fully true to yourself, you will always use hate to justify yourself, which will turn you away from happiness.  You could say that you are further on the path to true happiness then others though.

Since we can't fight hate with hate, what should we do?  First, actually try to think of why someone would do or say such a thing.  Don't use reasoning such as "he/she is an moron".  That is not the true reason, because I don't believe that anyone at the core is an moron.  Maybe they were having a bad day.  Maybe they have to resort to hate to feel better about themselves.  You have to truly try and make the connection in your mind of why they would say such a thing.  You could say that you have to detach yourself to make sense of what they do.  It could hurt your feelings, but try to not let that affect you just yet.  Maybe in their minds they devalue someone for a certain thing, so they don't care if they are mean to you or not.  They could be thinking that you aren't good looking, or smart.  But why would someone try to devalue someone else?  Remember that they do this because they have to make themselves feel better by doing it.  They are incomplete in some area of their life, so they have to make up for it in some way.  Maybe they have to bring you down to their happiness level to make themselves feel better. Maybe in their minds you are on your high horse of happiness, and they are jealous.  Finally it may be a shortcoming that you have (we all have them) that they see in themselves.  It is a lot easier to be angry at someone else then yourself.  Invariably it is one of these maybe reasons I have written down, or a combination of them.  Don't let it hurt you, just think about this line, don't just say it, actually try to believe it, not because I said so, but because its true.  "I don't need to make others feel bad to fill a gap in my heart, I am further on the road to true happiness because I am complete enough in heart, that I don't need to pull others down to me.  I will not fight hateful words/actions/thoughts with hateful words/actions/thoughts.  This will make my heart impure, and put more distance between myself and true happiness.  I do not exalt myself from other people just because I am happier, I actually am a person with a pure heart, or purer than the person who is hurting me.  And for that I should be happy, not mad."

So what do you do about the person who has wronged you?  It depends on the person.  Some people will simply not listen to you at all, even if you are speaking from the heart.  If you believe they will actually listen to you, and not ridicule you, then you should speak to them, and try to tell them how you feel, and that you hope they would stop what they are doing.  The people who will actually still listen to you after being mean to you are few.  So what to do about the others, who will not listen to you, and exalt themselves before you in their actions/words/thoughts?  You should simply ignore them, and remember those lines from the previous paragraph.  If they are regularly mean to you, then you should tell them to stop, and if not you will be well served by telling someone with authority above him/her.  Remember, the worst they could do is keep trying to pull you down, but if you tell someone who has authority there is a chance that they will stop.