How to heal lost love / broken heart ?

[Sourzu]

I passed by this forum yesterday and was reading a few threads.
Then I started to think now, if it works to heal yourself (and possible someone else) if you/them have lost the love or got their heart 'broken'.
Example if you love someone really much, you're like addicted to the person etc. But then suddenly it changes and this person is like pushing you away or something. Just stopping to love you or something.
Then you might think about the person loads and nothing in the normal life really works out.

I just wonder how that would be healed? If there's any techniques that might help?
Meditation I've read about, and that might help aswell? but is that inside this healing ?..

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Does it work to "turn off" those feelings, like just pushing a button and you got those emotions away?

[Mattoid]

I've experienced heartbreak a couple of times, the first time it happened I couldn't eat or sleep for days and everything would remind me of that person especially visiting places we previously went together. Switching off was the first thing i tried, worked for a little while i guess but it didn't last and eventually hit me like a ton of bricks. I also tried meditation, but couldn't focus and I'd just sit shaking, hah. As the days went by I learned to cope and it got easier so I'd definitely say it was time that healed my wounds.

The second time it happened I felt equipped to deal with it in a healthier way, instead of avoiding places and songs that reminded me of her I took the pre-cognitive approach and went out of my way to expose myself to these things. Instead of focusing on the fact I'd been cheated on, I examined the part i played in the failure of the relationship and discovered a lot about myself in the process. I felt new and improved not two weeks later, so my advice would be to embrace the experience to the fullest, it'll make you a way better person.  That was my healing anyway.

[Astral316]

I think when we get too attached to the physical we let our desires run rampant on us... love being a major one.

[astraladdict]

I think when we get too attached to the physical we let our desires run rampant on us... love being a major one.

Love and hate are the only two "real" emotions, as for the broken heart situation, just do other things to keep your mind occupied and away from the person. Eventually you'll start feeling a lot better. Hang in there buddy 

[Shamus]

I think we get hurted because we must learn some valuable lessons.
If we love and want to control our lover - he will be taken from us. Some time ago I desperately felt in love with girl in my high school. We have several randevu's and one day she lost somewhere. I called to hospitals and she was there. With broken leg, arm, broken tooths. After that she gone to her city far away from me. It was the lesson that i cannot control other people. The prayer will help to heal the heart. We must learn equally love everyone.
It is not our heart broken, but our ego. Our heart is pure, there is no attachement in heart, just love. When we are attached to someone we are creating artificial heart and saying that it can be broken. Your heart is pure love, light, just dig deeper and let go bad feelings.
Try chant this mantra:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lqcWl6VAB_M&feature=related

[Lizelle]

Well, being recently separated, I can somewhat relate. I would start by forgiving yourself for your shortcomings. In my spiritual practice I have learned to acknowledge my own faults and mistakes. For example, I am realizing (often years later) how I have hurt others. Rather than deny or try to justify it, I accept the fact and then I can start to think about making amends. After which the emotional baggage doesn't bother me much.

I had certain insights about my marriage made rather obvious when my husband was attacking me and I was about to pass out. I saw my role in the whole thing. And after taking care of immediate tasks like calling the police, I found myself in a new frame of mind and was able to let go. His karma is now his business.

I don't know if this is helpful. I think you'll know what's healthy and what's not. Good luck.