new girl, very frightened plz help!

[kelsie900]

Hi i need some help please. I have always had lucid dreams and there great and fun and all that but lately i've been suffering from sleep paralysis, i've researched and i think thats what it is. I wake up in the night paralyseD but perfectly awake, then i see and hear things, and its very scary.

3 nights ago i had this happen 4 times in a row, i manage to fight it everytime and wake myself up but after an anxious sleepless night at about 7am i fell asleep (kind OF) then was rudely awakened by something pulling my arm out of the bed, quickly my whole body was just dragged out of my bed, i was terrified as this was something else, i couldn't see this invisible force so i was pulled out into the hall , felt like i was floating in mid air and then i was left there on the floor, i didn;t know what to do, nothing happened for a minute then i found some kind of strength and i actually floated down the stairs on my own ( nothing dragging me ) . I then awoke if u call it that. I can't quite believe what happened, is this an obe? this was not a lucid dream as i had no control and i was terrified.Please help   

and this only happens at my boyfriends house, never at my mums where i spend equal nights there. wtf

[Fourthdimension]

Hey kelsie,

I think maybe i have a connection as to what could be making you project in a spontaneous way because i have experienced the same thing.

but i find it akward to explain as you might be younger than 18 and i dont wanna sound weird but anyways here is my explanation.......

when i first met my girlfriend now ex girlfriend i use to travel quite far to see her and thus not have much sleep and then i use to stay in a hotel with her and of course have alot of intercourse since i only use to see her once a week

because of this realease of sexual energy , i assume, this is the reason that i always use to have more Spontaneous out of body experiences whilst with her.

i might be wrong but thats the connection i made.

So if you do have alot of intercourse with him then this could be the reason you project so maybe if you just stop for a while your situation with projection might improve

sorry if this sounded or was inappropriate

[NoY]

Welcome to the Pulse 


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[kelsie900]

Hiya! thankyou for the quick reply!

I'm at my boyfriends about 4 nights every week, and he works long long hours and has been very stressed from work so we haven't had much naughty time lately lol .The particular night i referred to earlier , i could of been a bit stressed myself so maybe that had something to do with it :/  i'm 26 XD so i'm open to any explanations...

[Xanth]

Hi kelsie900

Welcome aboard on the train that is the Astral Pulse.  CHOO CHOO!!  >_>

Oh man, that was corny... hehe

[CFTraveler]

Hi Kelsie.
I have a "less mysterious" explanation for what may be happening with you, and it has nothing to do with sex but everything to do with intimacy-

When we sleep we inhabit a 'personal' space that is private and protected, by your expectation of privacy.  When you are at home with mom you expect your privacy to be respected, and the idea of anyone coming to your room would be not a concern, because you trust your mom implicitly, and chances are that you have your own 'space', be it your room, or some other 'private' space.

When you are in your bf's house and you sleep together you are sharing private space, so you do not expect your space to be completely private- so I think what is happening is that:
a)first, when you sleep with someone you are slightly less comfortable than alone, because the other person makes noises, may move, or just is there.  So right off the bat you are a little less comfortable.  This can get better or worse, depending on the circumstance- being with him and then away is not ideal, because you don't get enough time to 'settle in' before it's time to go somewhere else.  So the feeling of 'being at home' is just not happening completely.
b)Then, because your private space is also someone else's private space, you are having two astral (or etheric) bodies occupying the same space, and they influence each other.  So the other one doing this or that can be his unconscious projected double interacting with you, and the SP can just be good old-fashioned discomfort.

A combination of things, IMO.
A few solutions would mean either moving in with him or simply becoming aware of how it is when you're with him, and doing things to make it more 'peaceful' when you sleep, like using earplugs or darkening the room more- whatever it takes.

Another thing is that when you go to sleep with him, agree that you want to sleep peacefully, and don't give him (his projected double) permission to invade your astral space, if he is open to this type of thing.
If he isn't, affirm it mentally, his Higher Self will get the picture.  Or so I think.

[Pauli2]

It could be a guide pulling you out to get an astral lecture.

[Timandra]

Hi Kelsie, welcome to the Astral Pulse! 

[Jarrod]

Man I wish I was a natural lucid dreamer.  I think anything that disrupts or changes your natural sleeping habits increases the chances of having astral experiences just because you're more likely to be conscious at any given moment because of the discomfort and/or alertness that a new situation brings.

[kelsie900]

HI.. Thankyou i didn't expect to get this much response so quick.
It is true i am less comfortable when i stay with my bf even though i prefere to be with him than switching all the time :S problem is he only has a 1 bedroom house and his young daughter from a previous relationship stays with him twice a week , so has to share his bed them nights. Its not ideal but hopefully we can afford to move out together one day soon.

I always find its always very hot in my boyfriends house ( he doesen't agree) where as at home i sleep near a window which is always slightly open. I also often go to bed the same time as my bf when i'm with him which is usually quite a bit earlier than when i'm at home because are working hours are so different, he gets up very early for work and i work in a pub so my hours are all over the place ( i don't have to get up early) so sometimes i try and force myself to go to sleep, not good i guess. Plus he's very stressed at the moment, do you think this is being transferred to me to? sometimes he gets irratated that i can't sleep and this upsets me to so i guess thats not good going to sleep a bit anxious. 

I'll try all those things definately. I actually managed to tell my dad yesterday and he said that sometimes when he falls asleep he wakes up to find he can't breath :/ i think this is probabally a similar thing


Thanks again, much appreciated XD