under attack

[crystal138]

For as long as I can remember, i've had strange experiences... psychic vampire spirits (I suppose), etc. and obe's at times. About 1 1/2 years ago, I met a seemingly normal, interesting guy. When we hung out though, it was obvious he did random things to try to hurt me and get a painful reaction from me. He seemed irritated when I ignored his attempts. About half a year or so ago, he started showing up in my dreams. His astral body also started showing up. He now steals my energy every night/when I sleep, sometimes more violently than other times. Quite the long story, now I hear his voice constantly in my room, usually in a certain corner, sometimes right next to me or behind me. I'm a definite believer in astrology, since it does pertain to energy and all... and the voices started shortly after Mercury (his ruling planet) went into Sagittarius (my sign), not long ago. I see specks of energy at times, but I mostly hear him constantly whispering jibberish and saying, "I hate you", and well... "skank"... I at first chalked it up to possible schizophrenia or inner demons, but no, I don't believe so. Last night when I slept, he started maniacally laughing and picked me up for a minute when I was half-sleeping. He's really starting to creep me out. All he wants to do it seems is hurt me. He has at times said he loved me, but I feel like it's just my energy he loves sometimes. I really have no clue what i'm asking, I just need help. I do love him, i'm not even sure I want to rid myself of him (i've tried breaking the link multiple times, and we both just got more desperate for each other). I dunno. It seems at times like he's a demon or SOMETHING really, really negative. Is anyone on here a psychic vampire that mostly like feeding off of negative energy? I really need to know about it, and if anyone knows about demons, if... I dunno, i'm confused. I've been drained everytime I sleep. I get really tired n frustrated at times, feeling as if my complete life is being taken from me. I need help. I love him, but I don't know what to do.
Ive noticed that lately i've become "worse of a person" because of this. I think of very out-of-character things, such as hurting the people I care about, and it sickens me to think of such things. I also think that I hate the stuff that I love, and I know I really don't hate it. It's become horrific. I really need help. I keep thinking, maybe love can handle this, because i've noticed it kills him to be loved... but this is really creepy.. Right at this very moment he keeps saying, "I bonking hate you, Crystal" because I told him about trying something to fix this situation... I also feel the psychic link on my head very strongly and know he's angry... I really don't know what to do anymore... It seems that loving him helps things progress at times, but i'm not sure. I'm tired all of the time, super-tired, he shows up EVERY time I sleep. I don't know what my purpose is for this lifetime/this situation. People can hear him when he loudly says, "Skank" and "I hate you" at times. I guess this is occurring on the astral plane, but it still effects my outside life too, as well as in my house. They don't say anything, they just look at me suddenly... HELP!!!

[crystal138]

 think he may have become possessed by a negative entity while astrally traveling... or SOMETHING bad has happening to him, because he said he wasn't ok, and the voices are just getting weirder n weirder... Anyone know anything about this sort of thing?

[Nay]

You can't be possessed by a negative entity or demons.. IMO.  and he sounds like a total jerk that is getting away with treating you like dog poo.  It will only be up to you if you want to continue being treated that way.

I also am going to be very straight forward and say you like the drama as well as your...."friend"   Drop him like a bab habit and change your attitude.  You deserve to be treated good but you have to WANT to be treated good.

[The Present Moment]

What other voices are you hearing besides your boyfriend?

[crystal138]

I know this all sounds psychotic, but this is a metaphysics forum, for god's sakes. You people can at least be more open minded!
I think the creepier voices may have just been him trying to scare me, but they are very continous and eerie. I don't know. I'm confused about the issue. I've written to many places about it. Here's my latest email:

This is a rather long story. I don't know if you can even help me or not, but I am the victim of a psychic
attack. I've known this guy for 1 1/2 years, Jared. Just a few examples about him: he has sex with nearly
everybody he meets/constantly cheats on his girlfriend, his screenname pertains to a succubus (though that's a female vampire, I think), his number one interest is pain, and he's interested in The Golden Dawn, demonology,
and such things. Don't ask how I became affiliated with this individual. Well, actually I met him on myspace,
and if I didn't meet him on there, I know fate would've brought us together. Some people I know wanted me to... I've had sex with him a few times over a year ago. About half a year ago, I sent him a half nude pic of myself. As ridiculous as this sounds, the pic was of me sitting on my bed, and he started astrally projecting/dreamwalking to me as soon as I gave him the picture. In summary, he now shows up everytime I sleep, draining me relentlessly. I've asked him to stop, and he will not leave me alone. I've tried banishing rituals, and he won't go away. I think he has cast a spell on me or
SOMETHING horrible. As schizo as this sounds, I hear his voice everywhere I go, more prominently in my room, especially in a certain corner. He calls me a skank a lot (something I never thought of myself as- never even used the word- and still don't, but he's trying to destroy me), says he hates me. He also says, "You're a skank but I love you", tries to prey on me with my fears, and I have horrible thoughts in my head that I want out. I've considered the idea that maybe this is a product of my imagination and i'm schizophrenic. Maybe I should go to a mental institution and take antipsychotics, or maybe i'm in hell (or just in low, negative
vibrations...) I've tried to talk to people he knows that are involved with some form of magic, and they just ignore me, or pretty much in kinder words tell me to not involve them. It's like i'm watching him succeed more and more as I fall further and further behind. He glows more now, with MY energy. I've noticed his hair had grown 3 inches it appears in two weeks. Sometimes i've questioned if he's even human, because over time, something seems really awful and horrible about him... I really don't even know what i'm asking for, and the story just goes on, there's a lot more to it. What can I do? I know he's a psychic vampire. I've tried to break the astral cord, which I feel a lot of times very strongly on my head. Banishing rituals, begging him to leave me alone. Nothing works. He wants to destroy me, and I did nothing that horrible to him, ever, OR to anyone else. I seriously need help.

[James S]

Hi Crystal,

Yes it is a metaphysics forum and yes we are open minded, but too often we see people look for supernatural reasons and cures for mundane problems.

My closest friend is the founder of the spiritual learning institute where I work. She's been a practicing psychic / medium / numerologist / healer professionally for around 10 - 12 years now. About 6 months ago she finalised a nasty divorce from a 5 year marriage to a truly "evil" man. This guy abused her constantly, verbally and physically. Came across as the most wonderful person when she met him, but only a matter of months into the marriage, once he felt he "owned" her, he started turning her life to hell.

Now the big things she realises and openly admits to after leaving that marriage is it was her own issues, her own insecurities and childhood programs that attracted this monster to her. It was also her desire to try and "fix" him that kept her locked in an abusive relationship. This guy wasn't the villain, he was the catalyst to help bring her awareness and healing for her own life.

She now knows that the only way to deal with people and situations like this is 1) don't try to fix them or change them, you can only ever change yourself; 2) you absolutely MUST SET BOUNDARIES!! If someone does ANYTHING at all to you that is innapropriate it is up to you to make sure they don't do it again.

It's the difference between going through life as a victim and taking control of your life and your destiny.

With all that in mind I absolutely agree with all that Talanay said!

This is not about you being the victim of supernatural attacks.
It's far more "down to earth' than that.

It's about you taking ownership of your life, setting boundaries and stopping others from affecting you with their inapplicable behaviour.

Doesn't matter if your problem is with a guy or a ghost - its YOUR life, YOU need to be in control of it by NOT giving away power and control to others.

I can tell you with absolute certainty that my close friend had (has) a great deal of metaphysical tools available to her to be rid of her problems with her nasty ex (who by the way was very skilled at using psychic attacks), but none of them were of any use at all until she took the down to earth and completely non-metaphysical first steps of taking ownership of her own life and her issues, then setting boundaries against his completely innapropriate behaviour.

Blessings,
James.

[The Present Moment]

It really doesn't matter whether you are hallucinating or being attacked psychically. Do whatever works to fix the problem. There are simple things you can do, such as keeping a clean house, that will do a lot of good metaphysically.

[crystal138]

I think the situation may be a mix of both... That I need to learn boundaries, etc., and that also there is such thing as psychic vampirism (which I probably would've never have known about until I met him and saw him from the corner of my eye sucking my energy in) Quite a long story, and i'm still very confused about it. The guy is interested in things like, "pain, and The Golden Dawn", and he may be using negative magic against me. But if anyone wants a small amount of the explanation, read up about psychic vampirism, dreamwalking, and astral projection...

[Mydral]

If I would feel anyone feeding off me I would send so much negative energy his/her way that he/she throws up.... simple as that.

No way I am letting anyone feed off me... I will just make myself taste like crap 

[James S]

Hi Crystal,

A year ago I would have disputed the existance of deliberate Psychic Vampyrism. There are plenty of people out there who unconsciously commit emotional vampyrism, but they don't do it deliberately to harm others.

Then i encountered my friend's ex husband that I spoke of before. Here's someone that's trained in metaphysical arts, is a complete narcissist, an abuser and a skilled manipulator. Put all that together and you've got a person who knows how to attack and hook people on an energy level.

So yes, Crystal, I can see that you do have to approach this in two ways - make a stand and set your boundaries firmly, and work on shielding and protecting yourself from these attacks.

Also, on both a mental / physical level and an energy level, disconnect and cut the ties. you need to keep this person from connecting with you which needs to be done on an energy level as much as a physical/mental/emotional level.

Hope this goes well for you.

Blessings,
James.

[rave_master_naruto]

i think its difficult to cut a link if the attacker has already got a medium for connecting (ie. photo).

[Hagethuriel]

Imho ,
Anyone that would call you names like this is not one to keep emotionally attached to your heart .
remove and dispose of  items that he has given you
remove the cord from your heart with help search for cord cutting ceremony in archives and on net
move to another room or home if not cleanse the room ;
paint the room
open the windows , drawers and robe /closet each day while the sun is up
smudge it with incense and call the corners see LBRP
leave lights on in that room at night
shift the furniture especially the bed
shield the room with energy
psychic shield self with lavender ice energy to protect against psychic attack , negativity and anxiety
Imho , he has a negative attachment and  he is of a negative vibration and you need to move on with life

If you have a history of mental health issues see your doctor if not consider this could be a symptom .
I agree with others on this thread that it is likely to be both spiritual and mental . Recognise that
the mental wellbeing of someone without prior pyschiatric history can be greatly compromised by attack such as you have endured so make sure you get help whether it is of reactive or clinical nature .

[CFTraveler]

I just want to add one more thing to the excellent advice you have received from everyone else.  You stated that you love him and are not sure you want to be free of him, but ask for help to do just that.  Have you considered that what you have with him has nothing to do with love, and that is why he has such power over you? (Or that you have given him your power?)  Maybe it's time to look at why you feel you need someone who hurts you, and realize that cutting ties in a symbolic way will only work if you figure out what in you is making you feel you need him.
Perhaps if you truly feel you love him you will realize that staying/accepting this situation is, in the long run not going only to destroy you but it won't be good for him in the karma dept.  Maybe you need to realize that whatever in you that is making you feel the need for an abusive situation needs to be resolved, and soon; and perhaps when you can find the power to stand up to him, cut ties with him and reclaim yourself, you will also be doing him a favor, by showing him what a real relationship is supposed to be like.