Overcoming fears

[rufus48433]

Hello everyone!  I was wondering how to get over my fears!  I mean, I just watched the twilight zone and I couldn't help but be scared of it!  Oh, my gosh I'm such a wimp!  Well I wanna get over these fears.  I'm also afraid of the dark, only when I'm just sitting there.  I'm not afraid of the dark when I'm about to fall asleep though.  I also feel as though in the dark that something is really close to my back and is about to get me!  Please give some advice on how to overcome these fears.  I know i have to overcome it to astral project or OBE.  I've been trying to OBE for a year now, but maybe fear is holding me back.

[Leo Volont]

Hello everyone!  I was wondering how to get over my fears!  I mean, I just watched the twilight zone and I couldn't help but be scared of it!  Oh, my gosh I'm such a wimp!  Well I wanna get over these fears.  I'm also afraid of the dark, only when I'm just sitting there.  I'm not afraid of the dark when I'm about to fall asleep though.  I also feel as though in the dark that something is really close to my back and is about to get me!  Please give some advice on how to overcome these fears.  I know i have to overcome it to astral project or OBE.  I've been trying to OBE for a year now, but maybe fear is holding me back.

Do you ever have one of those dreams in which you are trying to run from something terrifying but you can't seem to move your legs, or they seem as though they are made of lead?   Well, it is these dreams which are tailor made for getting over your fears.  But the paradox is that you have to, in some measure, get over you fears enough to get over your fears.  You have to turn, in your dream, on the very thing that terrifies you.  You can either fight it and win, or be killed by it, which would not signify anyway, since you cannot die in a dream.  It would not matter whether you win or lose.  The important thing is to turn and face the Fear.

But if you are a much too dedicated whimp, I can't imagine what you shall do.

[rufus48433]

Do you ever have one of those dreams in which you are trying to run from something terrifying but you can't seem to move your legs, or they seem as though they are made of lead?   Well, it is these dreams which are tailor made for getting over your fears.  But the paradox is that you have to, in some measure, get over you fears enough to get over your fears.  You have to turn, in your dream, on the very thing that terrifies you.  You can either fight it and win, or be killed by it, which would not signify anyway, since you cannot die in a dream.  It would not matter whether you win or lose.  The important thing is to turn and face the Fear.

But if you are a much too dedicated whimp, I can't imagine what you shall do.

Thanks for the advice but I've never had one of those dreams before.  Should I confront the darkness when I'm alone?  Should I charge at it and assure myself that nothing can hurt me?  Maybe i should learn to make a shield around my self.

[Jeff_Mash]

In my opinion, when you say confront the dark, I don't know if that necessarily means locking yourself in a pitch black room until you get over the hyper ventilating feeling.

I mean, if you're not scared to dream and fall asleep, then technically, you can devlop your OBE skills without ever having to be in the dark.  After all, it's completely possible to project into the astral realms in broad daylight.

Now, concerning your fears, these are something you will eventually have to confront.  I'll give you a little example of a fear I had (but one I didn't know about).

In the beginning, when I would OBE, I would find myself outside the body in this dark void.....a big black nothing.  That itself is scary to some people, but the thing which terrified me was when I would start to fly at light speed, in the dark, with no sense of direction.  I would be going millions of miles per hour straight up, turn a few different ways, and then fly straight down.

This scared the blue tinkle out of me, because I started to fear that I would smack right into a big solid wall or something!

I can't tell you how many experiences were ruined because of this fear.  I would become too excited and force myself back into the body because of it.

So after getting fed up of always ruining potentially great projections, I told myself that the next time I felt this way, I would simply "GO WITH IT."

Far out concept, but I was determined.  Anyway, the next time it happened, I felt that familiar grip of fear overtake me, and I said mentally to myself, "No!  I am going to relax and go with it."

And you know what happened?  It became a very pleasant experience!  The terror no longer gripped me, and I found myself eventually to be lowered onto the ground, where the blackness faded away and an astral scene opened up before my eyes.

So sometimes, in order to confront these fears, you have to just tell yourself to TRUST in yourself, and that NOTHING bad can happen to you.  Once you do that, and once you succeed the first time, then you will have that ammunition to fight against your other fears, since now you'll know that everything is going to be alright.