New reason to project

[Tisha]

Spencer, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad's pain and suffering.  Please accept my condolences!

I have a friend who has had mixed success with OBEs to visit the recently departed.  Only when he was able to DETACH himself could he succeed at it.  Once his friend was murdered and he tried to contact her to find the whereabouts of her killer (he suspects it was/is her ex).  However, he was so distraught and distracted that he was never able to do it properly.

So, my advice to you is to come to terms with your relationship with your father as soon as you can, while he's still "himself" enough, and still more than likely easy to find.  Forgive him, and know that you are forgiven.  Let all the guilt and anger and wishful thinking go.  

You should probably write a letter to him, then burn it, knowing that the sentiment WILL reach him on the Astral.  My boyfriend did this and it really helped a lot.

Here is a trick I use before doing energy work:  Take a bath in salt water. Let all your sadness and regrets and fears and anger flow out of your hands (and feet if you want)  into the water.  Stand up.  Watch it all go down the drain.

Here is another method that is crude but effective, and heaven knows you have multiple opportunities to do it:  the next time you go to the loo, let all the negativity flow out of you.  THEN FLUSH!

Only when you have closure will you be able to manage your OBE experience well enough to find your father.  I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors, let us know how it goes.  Know that a "dream" about your father MIGHT be your brain interpreting an OBE for you.


Tisha

"As Above, So Below"

[Tisha]

One more thing I forgot to mention:  You will probably need to do the exercises multiple times before you are "clear," and the exercises might involve a lot of tears/crying/sadness on your part, as you focus on your sadness.  THIS IS RIGHT AND PROPER!   In fact, if you don't cry when you do these exercises, they are probably not working.  

In other words, expect an emotional reponse from this energy work.  Give yourself time afterwards to recuperate - - - don't do it right before leaving for work, for instance!

Again, my thoughts are with you, let us know how you are doing.


Tisha

"As Above, So Below"

[michael]

Hi Spastral..I am sorry to read of your loss..your loved one will be trying to get in touch with folks here for a few weeks after death..no doubt about it...i can only sympathise with the difficulty someotimes..I wrote a piece on robert's site "Suicide and OBE" which describes how I met my son ..but it was alas..so so momentary due to my emotional lack of control....and i suspect thisfragmentary nature of contact is the usual thing..for al sorts of reasons..but try..it is worth it...Robert has writtne about his contact with his son in AD...alos..rudolf steiner has a few good books on life after death and how to approach oru dead..especially "The dead are With us"..good luck

[SPASTRAL]

Thanks for your replies.  I dream of my dad every night.  I will continue my efforts and who knows? maybe I now have a new reason to travel at night.  I think desire is a big factor and the chance to see him and say what I want to say will help greatly.

[SPASTRAL]

Thanks for your reply DEBerryJr, I will try it.

Spencer

[SPASTRAL]

Hi all,

It has been a while since I visited the site.  My dad's been ill for a while.  He went into hospital with low blood pressure and deteriorated badly whilst in there.  He lives 200 miles away from me so when he first went in, I spoke to him by phone.

I was quite angry with him because he has given my mum a really hard time (verbally) over the years, and he was using all his poweres of emotional blackmail to make her feel guilty for not staying at the hospital 24 hours a day.  I phoned him and he started on me, so I had a go back etc etc.

Anyway, it turned out he had chronic leukemia, his kidneys then completely failed, he then developed pneumonia and died.

I did go up for the last 3 weeks, but never really got the chance to talk to him properly, or to say sorry for being harsh on him.  I was with him when he died.  It was very hard to handle for me and especially my mum.

Since then, he has been in my dreams all the time and I have had trouble sleeping.

My attempts at projection have fallen by the wayside over the past few months due to personal stuff, but I now more than ever want to get back on track and master the art.

Does anyone know if there is a specific means of projection that would in time allow me to see him One  last time.  This would really help me.

Regards,
Spencer