Setbacks in helping a departed one...

[Twilightfirefly]

Greetings everybody.  I wish to thank all of you in advance that have taken the time to read my post and for any information that you can give me that could prove of use, as no matter how hard I've looked, nowhere have I been able to find the answers to my particular questions.

A friend of mine died 3 years ago in a car crash that I was involved in.  Since that time, I have used my wiccan resources to try to get a bead on how he is doing and have gotten limited results.

The first two years since then, I had gotten indications that he didn't realize that he had died, and that the best way I could possibly help him was to leave him be to his own devices.  Now, however, the situation has changed drastically.

From the best my sources have been able to turn up, he followed in my footsteps and became a wiccan himself.  He had always had an interest in the occult while he was alive, so I wasn't too surprised to hear of this.  But in addition, I've been told that he's in a great deal of pain right now.  Ever since he started using magick, none of his spells work for him no matter how hard he tries.  Even worse, he developed his psychic senses so that he could talk with the spirit realm, but his reality keeps changing on him every couple of weeks.  The laws that govern his realm are in a state of constant flux, which only seems to be getting worse over time.  Doesn't magick *normally* work for the departed?

Now... I do have it on good merit that he had bad karma in his lifetime.  He hurt a bunch of animals when he was a child, which might explain some of this, but I have a complete lack of understanding as to what the process is for something like that.  Could somebody please try to tell me what's going on here?  Or what they see in the situation?  I want to help him, but I'm at a loss as to what he needs right now.  Where exactly is he right now in his journey?  I've read Monroe's books, so I have a basic understanding of the belief system territories and belief exchanges that you enter into once you die if that helps.  Thank you so much, everybody.  I really appreciate this.

[Nay]

I don't think any of us will really know what goes on behind the vail...

Perhaps you are not meant to help him?  And don't take offense to this but I'm thinking he has other things to take care of instead of practicing magick...that just sounds like a strange thing to be doing after your death.

I had a best friend that died in a car wreck as well.  I was suppose to go with him that night, but I didn't.  I thought for sure he would come to me right away, yet months turned into a few years.   Finally I had a lucid dream where I driving down a long deserted highway on a sunny day.  I see this figure down the road.  Yep, you guessed it, it was my friend.  I pulled over, he opened the door, leaned in and didn't say a word but smiled his fantastic smile that I had missed soooo much.  I jerked awake and knew right then that he was absolutely fine.  

I think the best thing you can do for your friend is to wait patiently and let him work it out.  I'm sure he'll be just fine.

Take Care,
Nay

[Twilightfirefly]

You're probably right, Nay.  Thank you for your thoughts and input.  I just feel so helpless at times like these, you know?

I'll leave well enough alone.  Thank you again.