Talking to others about OB experiences

[goro13]

Hey everybody out there.  I'm having some trouble relating my OB revelations to anyone I know.  I have two friends who understand but everyone else regard me with total closed mindedness or give me an attitude where I'm to scared to tell them for fear of what they'll think (mostly my family who are very Christian oriented people).  My girlfriend especially is closed minded and forms an opinion before thinking about anything I try and tell her.  I really want her to understand because we're close and this is like the only thing we don't agree on.  She basically believes in Christian values *without ever really looking into it* and thinks that when you die you either go to heaven or hell.  She seems afraid to think about anything that is "way out there" or not accepted by everyday society which comes down to her being afraid of change (I think).  

Does anyone out there know a good way that I could relate to these people and try and show them how I feel?  OB has changed my life so much and I want others to know that without thinking I'm crazy or just stupid.  I know people out there feel the way I feel and relating to anyone could make a world of difference.

[Selski]

I have two friends who understand

Hi goro13

Stick with your two friends for the time being.  I know what it feels like when you have your first OBE - it's like becoming a Christian or losing your virginity - you simply want to tell the world about it  

Does anyone out there know a good way that I could relate to these people and try and show them how I feel?  OB has changed my life so much and I want others to know that without thinking I'm crazy or just stupid.  I know people out there feel the way I feel and relating to anyone could make a world of difference.

One way I have found really good is to start a conversation about dreams.  Everyone is interested in dreams.  Say something like, "I had a really interesting/strange/memorable dream last night" and see how that pans out...

If they are receptive, you can follow up, but be sensitive - most people haven't a clue what you are talking about - and start getting twitchy when you mention out-of-body stuff - it is basically outside of their little lives that they live in.  Little being the operative word.  

Sarah

[Kazbadan]

Good advice Selski..i do the same. Start speaking about dreams. If the person its very receptive i will "jump" to sleep paralysys or Lucid Dreams, whatever. If they are really receptive ("just interested" its bad..i will stop)

only them i will speak about obes and only if the person it is really really interested.

Until now i only spoke about that (online people that you find ocasionaly do not count..speaking about real people) with 2 people.
I spoke with more about dreams, LD, SP, etc but only with 2...well, not exactly 2, maybe 1:
the 1st one was a friend of mine that it is very recptive to ideas like TK and the like, but he doesnt believe that much on obes.

thats an weird thing to him and he think that what i do its very starnge. anyway he accepts that very well.

the other one was a psychologist in my work (i work in a shcool).
onw day we were speaking about a case that we need to study (a student that i have) better...nothing special, just some problems in the school with that student. Well, suddenly we were speaking about mental disorders and then i was speaking about hypnagogic hallucinations and asking if that its dangerous. She said that it  is not and then we start speaking about other stuff and about paranormal stuff. I get surprised when she said that she believes at some degree on reeicarnation and she even did some past hypnotic regressions.

we contined the conversation and i was about to tell my "secret" about obes when someone knocked at the door...until now i never got any more occasion to speak about that (really lots of work and we work at different times of the day).

My family dont even imagine that crazy stuff (obes) that i try to learn. They know about my dreams, that i dream a lot and the so and my cousin knows about my SP (sleep paralysis) but i thinks that such thing its a case for a doc. (even if i explain that it is not). My brother knows taht i llove paranormal stuff but he dont cares about that and he may laugh a little if he reads some of the things that i read. Just that.

In my country people dont like to much about paranormal stuff...i dont care about that really. I am ok the way i am.

[goro13]

thanks Selski and Kazbadan for your advice.  Does anyone know a way that I could relate this to my girlfriend though?  She is what you would call a classic skeptic.... But what is strange is that she loves fantasy books like Harry Potter and LOTR....  I duno.. I just want her to understand instead of thinking I'm an idiot or that I'm dreaming.