A Question

[pyro4571]

bard probobly the best hing for u to do to break away from him would be to see him once, then explain your situation to him, and then go your seperate ways. it has worked for my friends in the past, and may help you in getting over him. i hope everything works out for you.[][]

[The Bard]

I have talked to him about it. I have talked with my husband about it as well. I am not the sort to hide how I feel from anyone.

He once told me he never lets a person go once they have trespassed on him psychically. He disappeared for two years when I did not talk with him for three days after he made advances on me. Now he lives near me and I write to him on holidays and his birthday. Sometimes he visits us. We have been struggling with our connection for 7 years now. I have been with my husband for twelve years and I've been married for three years.

[kakkarot]

there are techniques for cutting psychic connections between people. i suggest you find one.

if you still feel a longing for him after the connection is cut, try meditating and finding out why you feel that way for him. but i know from personal experience that sometimes psychic connections can make a person feel something for someone just because the two people are sharing that connection (and sharing a part of themselves due to the connection).

and, in my books at least, feeling something for someone because of a psychic connection is not a very good reason to hook up with them. in fact, i think it's probably a bad one. if there were more to your "relationship" with the guy beyond the mere psychic connection, then there might be good grounds for considering hooking up, but a psychic connection to a person can mess with your perception of them (especially so if the other person is purposefully manipulating that connection) and can cause a person to have illusions of caring about someone they don't even know.

so, as i said, i suggest that your first step be in finding a way to cut the connection and then rethink the situation after that is done ^_^ .

~kakkarot

[The Bard]

quote:Originally posted by kakkarot

there are techniques for cutting psychic connections between people. i suggest you find one.

if you still feel a longing for him after the connection is cut, try meditating and finding out why you feel that way for him. but i know from personal experience that sometimes psychic connections can make a person feel something for someone just because the two people are sharing that connection (and sharing a part of themselves due to the connection).

and, in my books at least, feeling something for someone because of a psychic connection is not a very good reason to hook up with them. in fact, i think it's probably a bad one. if there were more to your "relationship" with the guy beyond the mere psychic connection, then there might be good grounds for considering hooking up, but a psychic connection to a person can mess with your perception of them (especially so if the other person is purposefully manipulating that connection) and can cause a person to have illusions of caring about someone they don't even know.

so, as i said, i suggest that your first step be in finding a way to cut the connection and then rethink the situation after that is done ^_^ .

~kakkarot

That's great advice. Actually I don't plan to hook up with him. The reason I chose my husband over him is I didn't like the way he treated my daughter when he lived with us. He and she don't like each other. My husband is the better man of the two and I trust him more.

I just need to figure out how to sever the connection. He gave me a crystal shell. Maybe if I return the necklace I made out of it that would help sever the bond.

[kakkarot]

well, if you know anyone that is metaphysically sensitive, you could take the crystal shell to them and see if there is anything "strange" about it and if there isn't then it wouldn't hurt (psychicly) to keep it around (or if you are sensitive to energy flows, you could try checking it yourself).

as for the severing of the connection, well, there is a thread regarding using metal knives/swords to cut attachments, you could try looking in that thread (http://www.astralpulse.com/forums/topic.asp?TOPIC_ID=9283). as well, there try going WAY back to the very beginning of the psychic self-defense forum (http://www.astralpulse.com/forums/forum.asp?FORUM_ID=15&sortfield=lastpost&sortorder=desc&whichpage=40) and try to find some threads that might help (although, that is a long read, but if you have time then it's definately worthwhile []).

~kakkarot

[The Bard]

Thanks for the links Kakkarot.

I buried the shell from dark to full of the moon before I turned it into a necklace. I also smudged it. I just so happen to have a picture of it.



I decided it wouldn't be appropriate to return it. He might get the wrong idea from it. I still might find a new home for it. It has good energy.

I have danced with swords. They don't seem to work for me like they do other people. I'll try a simple stainless steal knife and see if that makes a differance.

[boydster]

I have observed others who have got themselves into this situation and have felt the results myself too. Before you can succeed at cutting the ropes of attachment that you both have built up over the years, you have got to:

1. Decide once and for all that the relationship is NOT going to happen and that you have joyfully and willingly chosen your husband, NOT the other guy. See the other guy in your mind as moving away from the circle of oneness of your real family. See him in your mind as unable to penetrate that circle and fading away. You've got to be firm and relentless in this.

2. STOP thinking of him. Use the techniques that people teach for gaining power of concentration. These usually entail gently removing ones attention from the undesirable object and firmly placing it on something else. Your attention is feeding energy to the ropes binding you to him. You've got to starve these ties of energy and it's going to take some time and some determination.  

In my experience, this type of relationship is seldom a good thing. And it does steal and waste your precious life energy.

[shedt]

great advice boydster !

It reminds me sort of falling in love when your in high-school. if things don't work out your heart gets broken. you think about it alot. but if you find someone else whom you fancy, and you start thinking about them, you'll forget oh so quickly about the other one.

but everyone here must have gone through something similar

[The Bard]

quote:Originally posted by shedt

great advice boydster !

It reminds me sort of falling in love when your in high-school. if things don't work out your heart gets broken. you think about it alot. but if you find someone else whom you fancy, and you start thinking about them, you'll forget oh so quickly about the other one.

but everyone here must have gone through something similar

Funny you should mention High-School crushes. I went to the same High-School as this guy. I've known him and his family longer than I've known my husband. I had no feelings at all for him until he moved in with us.

It is nothing like a High-School crush really. I am 40 years old and had my share of heartaches and hurt a few hearts myself. He clings tight to my spirit with his and won't let go and I've never really experienced anything like it before. I try not to think of him but he is good at breaking through my barriers. He isn't the only astral friendly in my life but everyday I feel him reach for me with his mind.

[The Bard]

I have often heard things you can do to protect yourself against psychic attack. I also read the attacker isn't always aware they are doing it. I now would like to know how do you prevent yourself from astral vampirism if you aren't aware you are doing it?

I have a situation with a man (whom I dearly love) who has a strong psychic connection with me. We have never been lovers but we both have a strong desire to be but my being married, monogamous, and having children prevents us from being together.[B)]

There is much grief involved between both of us and we feel each other daily. In a way we are both self destructing. My health is bad from weight gain, His health is also bad from self destructive behavior. I feel him in me a lot. He feels me in him. We are both draining each others energy with this unhealthy attachment. How can we detach without causing each other more pain? We haven't seen each other for a year but we still feel each other daily.