Advice please

[pyro4571]

ok im not gonna lie to you guys. i am an energy vampire. but unlike most of us, i have found a way to control it so i dont do it anymore. but anyway i am also pretty suceptible to being vamped by my friends, some of whome are vamps as well. i think that the best thing to do is to turn off your empathy, or at least shield it. put up a shield around yourself, make it keep  your energy within you. i have to do it all the time.  turning off your empathy may seem impossible, but its not. just make a shield and visualise all of peoples emotions bouncing off of it

Ps: ya know we are not all really agressive. im not unless i get angry.

-and the crazy Pyro says PEACE!!

[roni]

thank you for answering pyro! please describe how to make the shiled.

yes, you're right, I know some vamps who are not aggressive and one who is so loveable and peaceful that I would genuinly like to help her. The ones that freak me out the most are those who attack others verbally and literally try to scare them (my ex boss was like that) or those who flirt with you and then suddenly leave you there shuddering with cold. Creepy people.

[volcomstone]

It's the conflict of being nice, and being protected.

in order for a connection to people occurs you must first let them in.

some people are followers others are leaders. some people have the uncanny ability to control others via feelings of guilt, necessity etc.  

despite what you might read on these psychic self defence ( no offence to bruce, but this forum in particular is very damaging, despite his good intentions I only see the spread of misinformation and violence)

psychic vampires don't suck energy from you, they give it away readily.  they are trying to read you from the inside, trying to get in your head, simply to increase thier own ego.

the best way to do this is give them either
1. what they want, open yourself fully to them.
or
2. fight back, there are many ways to turn around a converstation in which a person you suspect is simply trying to mess you up.

i.e.-  
"psychic vampire" (sociopath)-- hey man isn't that boss of ours a real dweeb? what do you think? this coffee is so horrible I can't believe you're drinking it. I got a better joke than the one you sent via inter-office memo.

you --  I don't know he's always been nice to me, the other day he gave me a new pack of pens and a closer parking spot.  The coffee is free, get over it.  does the joke have anything to do with you're face? or that tie?    there's probally a mathematical reason whay that tie is so ugly.

[Rastus]

Roni:

There are many ways to shield.  I think Shielding is underused and misunderstood to some degree.  I've been dabbling in Metaphysics for over 25 years.  I'm new to this site, but I noticed an interesting lack of defense/shielding subjects (or sticky posts).  I haven't finished reading though all the downloads yet (there's a lot there to digest), so i could have simply missed it.

My early studies were vintage Wiccan.  I am not a wiccan, I'm actually an Engineer of sorts.  Joys of being pre-Internet is that your choice of reading material is what you can dig up at interesting used book stores []

You can make some very powerful physchic shields with a modicum of effort.  Personalized shields are orders of magnitude better than general items.  You can also simple do your shields via thought, but they aren't as effasive.  Are they good enough, well I guess that depends on who you have ticked off [B)]  Certain substances aid in shielding, and can hold energy for you.  Some can amplify shielding energies.  Of course the converse and inverse is true (some items can weaken your shielding, and some items can aid in attacks).

What discipline you use isn't as important as the thought/energy/understanding behind it.  Wiccan/Reiki/Metaphysics/Zen/Kaballa/Yoga can all achieve the same results.  It's like cooking, what matters in the end is how good does it taste?

[Nita]

Hello Roni
  I have an article on how to shield in the Magic section of this website. Robert Bruce mentions them in his countermeasures and also core image removal which may also help you.
  I have a website with articles on it also but they are mostly the same as on this website. The URL is www.astralhealer.com
  There was a thread here called why not shield but it was quite a while ago.
  Nita

[roni]

Hi everyone! Thanks again for all the advice. I've read Slate's and Harbour's book and I have made a shield and bought some cool new hematite jewelery. It seems to work.

Unfortunately, the site you recommended, Nita (http://www.astralhealer.com/) won't load.

[roni]

I am open to psychic attacks from living aggressive people who use my life energy to fill their own deficits. I know I open myself to them via empathy. I am quite empathic and almost automatically switch to empathy when I communicate with people. It's really good when the others are okay and not psychically aggressive but when I come across someone who is I really give up lots of energy and quite fast too. First I start feeling cold around my heart, then in my entitre body, and then I get depressed for several days of weeks. Through meditation and self-healing I always recover but it's a dangerous way of life. Not very convenient either: recently I had to quit a well paid job to get away from a strongly energy draining place. Escape seems to be my only self-defense.

Please advise me something which is less auto-destructive. There is an energy vampire in my new workplace and as much as I try to avoid him our paths cross sometimes. I don't want to run away - I enjoy my job most of the time and most of the people I meet there are nice and peaceful.