Dancing in the Flames. . .a path to Mastery.

[Michael_E]

this is from the kundalini support network yahoo group. i thought it was something well said about anger that yall might like reading:

I, likeyou, and like many other women, face a real dilemma when a spiritual path seems to indicate that releasing anger is necessary, especially when the spiritual work itself seems to be bringing the anger to the surface! I am wary of recommending to anyone that they let go of anger before they have really had a chance to have it and honor it. But i know. too. that i can get attached to anger precisely because it feels so good. In my closest relationships the question is always should i say something or let it go. Different answers every time. S lately ive been praying evert time i get angry aqnd this helps-- if i do choose to say something it comes from a less personally wounded place and sometimes my words are even constructive.

This is an ongoing, unfinished and extremely important project for me and I'm really glad you brought it up. ***

Dear ****, *, *** and the other private posters,

I agree. Setting up safety zones/boundaries/rules before beginning to dive into anger is paramount. I bet Angelique has some very cogent words to say about trust in potentially dangerous situations. There must be absolute trust between the facilitator and a person rediscovering their anger. I say rediscover because babes are natural at expressing raw anger. Adults, uncomfortable with anger teach children in many different ways to stifle it.

Some people will be able to begin walking the path alone. Most wont. In my own experience, my anger was trapped under something very calloused. After wearing away the callous, the anger underneath was pretty raw and I was like a kid with a new toy, cause yes, it does feel good when it is coming out.

I have had my own definite healing experiences from doing my own anger path. After one session, I walked by a mirror and stood transfixed as I stared at myself. My eyes had become very clear and bright. Since then, a lot of bodily aches and pains have left. I no longer have high blood pressure.

IMO, mastering the energy of energy is just like learning to ride a bike. It takes practice, People will fall down, have accidents, but they gotta keep gettin back up on the bike. Be circumspect in using anger as a tool of desturction ( a valid use IMO). i think this is because anger calls people into action. Anger in and of itself is not the problem. Its what people decide to do with it is.

Being irresponsible in _expression of anger is inexcusable. Such a powerful emotion can be a channel for good and for transformation. I have discovered I am never angry for the reason I think. And other people aren't angry at me for what I did. It's not my fault that they get mad. I can't make other people angry unless they hand me the power to do so. What triggers the anger is not the what appears on the surface. Normally, I feel angry when I feel afraid of loss. I feel small and helpless, or I feel less than. How dare they make me feel that way!!!!!!! Generally, anger arises out of a fear I have found. People who are angry are telling me they feel unloved in some core way. This includes me. Adults are just wounded children in that respect.

It's hard for me to get a good 'mad' going for longer than 10 minutes these days. I have to work really hard to make it last a half hour. I have become too adept at self examination and discover the core of  the anger very quickly now. THe anger is diffused almost  automatically.

THe anger burns away the old fears and reveals more of my true essence. THe anger remains until the fuel (the fears) are gone.. . until the next fear is discovered. Will I still have anger when there is nothing to fear? I think so cause this is a powerful emotion of creation.  

Don't beat yourself up for being angry. That doesn't help. If other people are offended by your emotion/energy... too bad. Don't apologize for how you feel. If they react to the energy its because they have a problem with that energy.

Again, act responsibly with this powerful energy. It's possible to be very angry and hurt no one including yourself in any way. I have seen some anger that was truly terrifying (particularly from men) and its awesome. We are powerful beings. These expressions of anger were done in a safe place with particular rules.

I learned to stand in the current of the anger and let the energy  flow around me. Its possible if I stand in nonresistance. I choose instead to become fascinated by this awesome creative/destructive power.

It feels like a hot, desert wind.

Yes, it does take practice to not be overwhelmed by the energy...like a runaway horse. Ride on top of it (surf it) and be one with and feel and respect its power until it dissipates. It does dissapte if allowed to express itself. As I have said before, it comes, its here, it goes.

In my experience, the problems and dangers come when I don't let it go. Stay on for the ride and get off when its over.
In beginning to express your anger, my first suggestions would be to discover your motivations for not getting angry in the first place.  It usually is to please someone or some credo. Ask yourself what really makes you mad. Decide what you are going to do about it. Journaling helps...screaming into the wind helps, talking with  trusted friends who love me helps. What comes up may suprise you. When I began to walk the anger path. . . the only thing I could think of that makes me mad was I didn't know how to be mad. And I couldn't say it out loud very convincingly either. I was really pathetic. So there is a lot of ground here. Put me in a room with a group of people and we could go lot further along the path than just read about it.

IMHO having awakened K is big advantage.

This path can feel very scary at first. Like riding a horse at a dead run with no reins and no saddle (been there, done that) Trust your body wisdom and your higher self to place you in an experience where there is only room for victory.

My favorite mantras for this kind of work when the Tidal waves begin to crash over me.... I *feel* afraid and I *am* safe... Remember to breathe. Holding your breath blocks the release of energy.

Hope this helps.

Susan

[daem0n]

hmmm, very useful i admit, reminded me of one unfinished buisness, thx
hold breath= tense muscles = energy blocks
however when you are relaxed it is impossible to feel angry
i can't hold anger when i become conscious of it, because i ask question why  am i angry and *puff*, thank you
however there are situations when i know why i am angry and i have right to feel anger, and this motivates me (but doesn't mean struggling with reality), when someone tries to interfere with me without my fault to be exact, and in deep ways
funny but this isn't emotion per se, but rather cold ruthless power, that rather empowers will then distracts, the thing is highlighted from the background
i test it with kundalini right away, it's been some time since i've been angry