Is it unhealthy to controll emotions to a...

[rhinegirl]

Nice essay Mustard. Would you expand on it please? You have very good points here.

Jessica

quote:Originally posted by mustard

Is it unhealthy if you're too much in controll of yourself and you don't make mistakes with arguing or confusing yourself with emotions that you find ridiculous causes for such as anger or jealousy or even happiness, they can turn you personality completely around and you end up being a different character with temporary views so is okay to controll your emotions to a degree where you are aware of your temporary views and you don't let them affect you that much so you might not have to deal with consequences of unhealthy actions or is it better to accept you mood and let it take controll of you which I see hapends to almost everyone around me but sometimes it gets out of controll and pople end up doing stupid things.

Are you being human by controlling... or are you ignoring the laws of the universal balance?

[Kuhl]

Periods or commas would have been nice.  It requires to much effort to try and interept that fully, but...

It is good to be aware of your emotions, but impossible to be in complete control.

[mustard]

[]Sorry for giving you inconvenience in interpreting what I wrote, let me clear it up[|)].
Is it unhealthy if you're too much in controll of yourself and you don't make mistakes such as arguing and confusing yourself with emotions brought upon things that you find ridiculous to argue over but since those things have already taken affect on you and changed your views temporarily](meaning you are in any emotional stage and you can't think properly so you just act blindly instead of thinking through.
example-doing something stupid that you will regret later but too much anger or frustration clouds your ability to do the right thing so you just take it out and do something stupid

Is it okay to controll your emotions to a degree where you are aware of your temporary views(your clouded judgement caused by things that affect your emotions, deeply)  
and also is it okay if you don't let them affect you that much so you might not have to deal with consequences of unhealthy actions(that may occur in the emotional stage) or is it better to accept you mood(current temporary view)
and let it take controll of you which I see hapends to almost
everyone(they loose the ability to make reasonable decisions from too much disorientation caused by sudden certain act that deeply affects one's emotions)
 around me but sometimes it gets out of controll and pople end up doing stupid things.

Are you being human by controlling your emotions in this way or are you ignoring the natural responce or behavior which is a portion of what being human is all about?

I hope that made some sence[8D].

[Tayesin]

Hi Mustard,
Our emotions are an important part of being human, we will always feel them no matter what we do.

We have no power of control over our emotions, only how we deal with them and how we will behave.  The most effective thing we could do for ourselves would be to allow the opportunity to feel each new emotion fully and completely as they arise.  In this way we don't force them to be stored in various levels of our mind and body until they cause deeper problems for us in the long-term.

So feeling them when they arise allows us to move through it then and there, so that we can move on from it.

Love Always.[]

[mustard]

You're right about that, I guess we have to feel them in order to get rid of them, hmmm, it all eventually balances out no matter what we do we endup on the same track again since we have emotions to guide us.[|)]

[James S]

Hi Mustard,

I agree with Tayesin that we can't really control our emotions - to do so would require suppressing them. Suppressing emotions does one of two things - either it bottles them up to the point where you end up exploding under the pressure, or you become removed from them - 'cold hearted' and unable to feel anything.

Learn to recognise emotions for what they are and what effect they have on you. Again, as Tayesin mentioned, they're part of us, and you can't be rid of them.

What you can do though is learn to harness, encourage, and 'nurture' (for want of a better way of putting it) the emotions that have a good effect, and serve to raise your natural energy levels. In doing so you'll naturally bring about a tendancy not so much to resist the darker emotions, but be less affected by them. They will have less power to cloud your perspective or affect your descision making abilities.

Regards,
James.

[Jon_88]

I would say controlling emotions is hard , the only way i found escaping unwanted emotions without taking anything or supressing it, is to go to sleep.

However you can control in greater degree what triggers emotions , like if you go and look downward with clenched shoulders and thinking what a rotten life(and ignoring the good aspects) , its a sure way to get depressed . If you however are feeling depressed/foul mood and remember what you act and think like when you have good days(and ignoring the things that made you feel bad).  
then you will tilt to a more positive stance within the hour. (assuming no more bad mood sources influence you further).

Also one can use suggestions to escape locked patterns of thoughts and feelings (whatever they may be) , a visual one i use is imagine a sun/stove (something that consumes/destroy) and send/(get sucked out of) the things you want to get rid off into it.  
Verbal suggestions also work good ,just pick what you think is best for you.
Suggestions take some time to work and generally you gotta use atleast as much time on it as you use on the thoughtpattern, feeling you want to get rid (so to get rid off phobias and realy worked in recurring thoughts is gonna be much work,with this method alone).
Also it works best when relativly calm and relaxed.

And you dont have to perform actions based on how you feel , but generally i do unless its a spesial circumstance ,since if you take action chances are good you work them out of the system then and there. But off course if you have some emotions you found you make poor judgement with...Train to not take action right away then you can train make better judgment when feeling it.  

So , to sum up . Dont supress your emotions. If you burn your hand you never imagine it didnt happen(unless its something exotic your training for).Remove yourself from the cause or eliminate it (skip this if its a person []) to the best of your abilitys.
If you still cant handle the emotions well go to sleep(works wonders for sea/motion sickness).
Then deal with the psycological effects it had on you.(or physical if you realy did burn your hand![])

[findtruth]

Sometimes, I find it necessary to control emotions.  Though I have to say that I overdid it (how long ago was it?) maybe, for two years ending last June(probably because of summer[]).  I still can't feel emotions too well, I dunno why exactly.  I think I automatically suppress them somehow.  Anyway, now it takes LOTS of effort to get angry.  And it is rarely that I feel true joy.  The same goes for fear or sadness.  Somehow, when I went on an emotion-controlling campaign, I did some lasting damage, and now, I have to try really hard to feel any extremes in emotion. I'm getting better, though[]
Who would've thought that I'd have to learn to feel anger?  But it does have it's advantages to be less emotional than other people.  And as I'm getting my emotions back, I'm learning to control myself,(not them) so it's all good[|)]

[Adinaut]

I'm not here (on earth, hehe) to separate from my
emotions, nor to be controlled by them.

I've met a lot of ppl on my path that have tried
to control me with guilt. I've learnt to control
that feeling, instead of the other way around.
When that doesn't work, some will try to frighthen
me (fear), or pick up the cross of victimhood ('oh,
poor me'). Manipulation through emotion.

Another example. If I couldn't control my temper,
I think my life would be a lot different than it
is today. As a child, when somebody ticked me
off, I could end up in a physical fight with that
someone. Now I can use emotion to put power into
my words instead. Basically, I've learnt to
control my temper through experience.

One step further. Look at how the Iraqi-invasion
was made possible. 'Here a terrorist, there a
terrorist, everywhere a terrorist.' When in fear,
you don't control your emotions, and you give up
your power to someone 'to make it go away'.

At the end of the day, in my experience, emotions
CAN be controlled, without supressing them. For me
it's about self-control. The only form of control
of I fancy.

Excellent quote from the film 'Little Buddha' : "If
the instrument is strung too tightly, it will break;
if it is strung too loosely, it cannot play."

[Jon_88]

Seems to me that you lead a balanced life Findtruth , how often do you realy come into extreme situations that warrants intence feelings?

As to why you find it hard to feel emotions I off course cannot say . But ask yourself what would it take for you to realy feel something . Then do it. If you cant feel the emotion after successfully completing the task. Perhaps its something wrong.

As for anger , how often do people around you ,make wrong on you?
Not feeling Anger when getting wronged will generally conjure up another emotion like frustration and beeing victim of some sort.
Another reason for not feeling Anger when beeing wronged is that you know exactly how to deal with it or get even.

Anger as i know it is a emotion that arises when your being wronged of some sort and do not Know exactly how to deal with the situation , and you either is gonna damn sure they know you didnt like it so it doesnt arise again OR you intend to find out how to get "even++"

[findtruth]

I try to lead a balanced life, but I'm not sure that I can answer your question

[Jon_88]

That doesnt matter cause i did not ask to know the answer( i have my own answers regarding this) . I was just thinking the questions could be important to be able to answer for yourself (Well it was to me).

I once thought i was getting little emotion , But i realised it wasnt any thing wrong with me , i just have a little dull life thats all (cause i made overkill setting up a more stressfree life), guess i gonna remedy it in a year or 2(even relative dull life has interesting moments and you can study much).

[aleshah]

I'm sure emotions and toughts are the same thing.
It is a strange 'feeling' to know that all things around you are toughts.I believe that every thoght is already made.
We just transform/filter higher reality
of toughts to a lower reality.

[Kenshi]

quote:Originally posted by mustard

Is it unhealthy if you're too much in controll of yourself and you don't make mistakes with arguing or confusing yourself with emotions that you find ridiculous causes for such as anger or jealousy or even happiness, they can turn you personality completely around and you end up being a different character with temporary views so is okay to controll your emotions to a degree where you are aware of your temporary views and you don't let them affect you that much so you might not have to deal with consequences of unhealthy actions or is it better to accept you mood and let it take controll of you which I see hapends to almost everyone around me but sometimes it gets out of controll and pople end up doing stupid things.

Are you being human by controlling... or are you ignoring the laws of the universal balance?

Human you will always be. Try not to control, nor suppress your emotions. Let them be, just don't identify with them, as if they are someone else's. The fire will die, because it will have no air to feed on.

[wendi]

Everyone has a different way of dealing with their emotions, control them if you don't need them, use them if you do.  I also like Kenshi's approach.




Feed on me.--Judas Priest

[mustard]

Is it unhealthy if you're too much in controll of yourself and you don't make mistakes with arguing or confusing yourself with emotions that you find ridiculous causes for such as anger or jealousy or even happiness, they can turn you personality completely around and you end up being a different character with temporary views so is okay to controll your emotions to a degree where you are aware of your temporary views and you don't let them affect you that much so you might not have to deal with consequences of unhealthy actions or is it better to accept you mood and let it take controll of you which I see hapends to almost everyone around me but sometimes it gets out of controll and pople end up doing stupid things.

Are you being human by controlling... or are you ignoring the laws of the universal balance?