making oneself more loveable

[kakkarot]

show love and happiness. people love people who are like that.

you become strange to them (because it's just so different from them) but you become loved because eventually they'll realize that you aren't just acting, you really are being loving and happy (if you really do exude it at all times, even the bad times).

~kakkarot

[James S]

Kakkarot's idea is probably the most straight forward and most achievable. To take it a step further (and slightly more complicated), spend some time working on opening your heart chakra which is the seat of true love in our energy body.

Whether they can see it or not, a lot of people are sensitive to your aura - particularly your emotional states and emminations. Getting a good ammount of energy comming off your heart chakra produces a very positive, loving "colour" to your aura, and people will often feel happier, more relaxed, warmer, around someone who has a very active heart chakra.

James.

[Lighthouse]

Xander,

A Course in Miracles states, "To have all, give all."  This may seem simplistic, however, in my life, I have found it to be a universal truth.  If you want love, be that love to someone else, express your love to people who need to be loved. Visit an old folks home and spend time talking to someone who is lonely, become a "big brother" volunteer at the YMCA or start a program for disadvantaged kids, Go to the hospital and visit patients who are captive yet have no visitors... there are many ways you can express love to others.  This works in all areas, which is why people promote the virtues of tithing.  When people tithe, they are giving money to a wotthwhile cause in their hearts (this is not limited to churches, it can be any organization you believe in)  The more you extend yourself in the area you desire to enhance, the more your effort will be rewarded.  Give a little and you will get a little.  Give until you feel you can give no more, and you will feel like the most loved person on the face of the planet.  I am not well versed in the bible, however, there is a verse in there that says something likr, (and I'm paraphrasing here... I'm sure someone in these forums can name this verse)

Whatever you want, give that thing to others, by the measure in which you give, you will then receive, shaken down, stirred, multiplied and poured forth unto you. (or something like that)


--Lighthouse

[Tony M.]

First off it is very important that you love and respect yourself.
Do something about your bad qualities and also really know that your truth is as far or as close from the real truth as anyones other truth. This is what respecting yourself is all about.

After this you should start sending out positive energy which will attract even more positive energy to you, which will feed you and make you send out even more positive energy. And don't let fears, doubts, worries and other people's hateful remarks bring you of your path. Just be patient.

I've been working on myself for almost a year now and I can really tell it's working. What I think is very important is that you want to be more loveable for yourself. Don't change because others want you to. You really have to want to change yourself to make yourself feel happier. And when you are truly happy you will radiate this to the people around you and you have become more loveable.

If you really want to know more you should start reading some books.

[The AlphaOmega]

Give and you shall recieve!

[xander]

how does one do this?

Xander