Soul Mate

[heter]

What is it exactly to have a soul mate? Why would they be your soul mate? What sets them apart from any other soul?

[Legend]

What is it exactly to have a soul mate? Why would they be your soul mate? What sets them apart from any other soul?

You may want to get a second opinion on this, but from my beliefs and understanding, a soul mate is historically described as a mate (husband/wife) but for the soul instead of you physical body.

I personally don't believe that we are "paired" like that at the soul level.  We are regrouped by soul groups, that I agree with, but not the fact that a single soul is destined to spend eternity with you.  You could also interpret soul mate as your higher/lower self (twin flame).  Some people tend to do that, but it's the same you (soul) so it really doesn't make much sense in the end.

The physical has this duality (male, female, yin, yan, ...) but the higher levels do not have this concept of male/female, higher self and lower self.  It's really just one, so to me soul mate really has little logic.  Unless of course you give it another definition.

[Leo Volont]

The whole "Soul Mate" thing is romantic fiction intended to rope in women and silly romantics.

It feeds into the selling of sex appeal.

When you think about it for a second, the Soul Mate thing conflicts with having a more inclusive and collective Love, doesn't it?

If you have a Perfect, Complete, and Powerful Love, then you will love whatever it is that has your attention from moment to moment.  As any one of my Cats.

[Wells]

I think a soul mate may be somebody that you share a strong spiritual connection with, possibly through past lives.  Either that, or somebody that is simply at the same stage of spiritual development as you, so that you connect more strongly with them than others.

This is just pure guess work though.

[Innerfocus]

I think a soul mate may be somebody that you share a strong spiritual connection with, possibly through past lives.  Either that, or somebody that is simply at the same stage of spiritual development as you, so that you connect more strongly with them than others.

This is just pure guess work though.

I agree with this!  There are souls that have been together for many many lives.  Sometimes through past life regression you can find out why you feel drawn to certain people.

[Legend]

I think a soul mate may be somebody that you share a strong spiritual connection with, possibly through past lives.  Either that, or somebody that is simply at the same stage of spiritual development as you, so that you connect more strongly with them than others.

This is just pure guess work though.

I agree with this!  There are souls that have been together for many many lives.  Sometimes through past life regression you can find out why you feel drawn to certain people.

This would be your soul group; I'm not too sure I would call this a soul *mate*

[WalkerInTheWoods]

The whole "Soul Mate" thing is romantic fiction intended to rope in women and silly romantics.

It feeds into the selling of sex appeal.

When you think about it for a second, the Soul Mate thing conflicts with having a more inclusive and collective Love, doesn't it?

If you have a Perfect, Complete, and Powerful Love, then you will love whatever it is that has your attention from moment to moment.  As any one of my Cats.

Something we agree on.    I agree that the wide spread accepted term "soul mate" is merely a romantic notion, and a dangerous one that. Dangerous because it makes people think that they are incomplete and that they should seek outside themself to find someone that will make them complete and have a happily ever after once this person is found. The truth is you are perfect and complete as you are and only you can make yourself happy. I don't believe in "soul mates" but I do believe people can bond on a spiritual level and this is interpreted as soul mates.

[Graelwyn]

I simply seek someone with whom I will have a powerful bond on a spiritual level..I have met one person with whom I had that, and I can safely say it was the most intense love I have ever felt.

I do believe in soul mates and soul groups, but they can be dangerous when people will accept only 'The One'!

Kate x

[Rastus]

My wife and I are soulmates.  That means we've been together before.  Husband/Wife, Wife/Husband, Brother/Sister, Sister/Sister, Brother/Brother, and other relationships.  What does that imply?  It means that we love each other enough to do a whole incarnation just so the otehr can learn a lesson that will help us evolve spiritually.  Well, it will let us become better at the game of life.  And life truly is a game, an illusion.  But the ultimate prize of the game is worth the challenge, I mean what else do you do when your immortal?

[Legend]

My wife and I are soulmates.  That means we've been together before.  Husband/Wife, Wife/Husband, Brother/Sister, Sister/Sister, Brother/Brother, and other relationships.  What does that imply?  It means that we love each other enough to do a whole incarnation just so the otehr can learn a lesson that will help us evolve spiritually.  Well, it will let us become better at the game of life.  And life truly is a game, an illusion.  But the ultimate prize of the game is worth the challenge, I mean what else do you do when your immortal?

I'm not challenging you here, I'm merely trying to make sense of a word which I'm not even sure is well defined anywhere.  Wouldn't your definition imply that you could have multiple "Soul Mates"?  Which to me somewhat defeats the "traditional" view of it.  I don't believe in the traditional view of "Soul Mate" as life companion, but I'm thinking more of it like a "myth" if you will.  I know that my immediate family came together from previous lives, but I'm not sure I would be ready to call them all my "Soul Mates" although some name should be associated to that.

[You]

Oh! Can there be more than one soulmate? I know a person who thought she had one but now she's all into some chick who doesn't like her, it's really frustrating to watch. Should stick with the original, seems like the theories of past lives and soul mates were all romantic hooey.

[Leo Volont]

I simply seek someone with whom I will have a powerful bond on a spiritual level..I have met one person with whom I had that, and I can safely say it was the most intense love I have ever felt.

I do believe in soul mates and soul groups, but they can be dangerous when people will accept only 'The One'!

Kate x

There can be plenty of love without having recourse to The Spiritual. The greatest love is parent for child, but even a glance at the shelves of Romantic Fiction will show that the Urge for Sexual Bonding creates at times an intensity of attraction that verges on insanity.  But I hardly need to remind you that wanting so desparately to have sex can scarcely be classified as anything 'Spiritual'.   Yet, most of the time, this very dynamic is what accounts for so many references to "Soul Mate".  When has any young woman's 'Soul Mate' ever been some short fat bolding frumpy Old Man?  

"Soul Mate" is some euphemistic way of dressing up Lust for respectability.  I should hope the reasonable and mature people are not fooled by the term and see through it to what is really happening.

As for Group Affections... they also need not rest upon Spirituality.  Human Beings are indeed Social Animals.  Even Barbarians who live to destroy everything Civilized, even they travel in Bands.   The Military, in order to optimize their killing potential, organizes its regiments to maximize the Group Bonding Phenomena -- people too sensible, or perhaps too inert to kill and be killed for 'patriotic' reasons, are willing to be murderous or martyred in order to keep up with their Platoon.  Nothing 'Spiritual' about that.  Corporations also wish to capatalize on the phenomena by stressing Team Work -- while the CEO's would not lift a finger for anything less than kingly Economic Rewards, the rank and file are expected to give up their meaningful lives for the sake of The Team.  That is the plan, anyway, but I largely suspect that Workers have grown cynnical concerning the self-serving propagandas that descend from the Upper Floors and do only enough to keep their jobs.  If there is any group dynamic involved, it is in the conspiracy of the Workers to protect each other from the Life Deadening Encroachments of Upper Management.  Perhaps THAT qualifies as being Spiritual, but only because I believe strongly in the motives.

[Graelwyn]

I always believed you had quite a few soulmates, but only one twin flame/twin soul...people seem to sometimes have it the other way round for some reason. As far as I know, soul mates are those you have known in previous incarnations and are not necessarily friends...they can be enemies if there is past life karma to work out. That is what I was taught anyway. Twin flame is meant to be your exact mirror, and will sometimes even look similar to you in appearance, if such a thing exists. When you meet your twin flame, it is meant to be the most amazing experience and the love you feel for one another is unconditional. Personally, I dont believe anyone meets their twin soul until they are at a reasonable level spiritually, as they are usually bought together to carry out spiritual work for mankind.

Kate xxx

[Graelwyn]

"There can be plenty of love without having recourse to The Spiritual. The greatest love is parent for child, but even a glance at the shelves of Romantic Fiction will show that the Urge for Sexual Bonding creates at times an intensity of attraction that verges on insanity. But I hardly need to remind you that wanting so desparately to have sex can scarcely be classified as anything 'Spiritual'. Yet, most of the time, this very dynamic is what accounts for so many references to "Soul Mate". When has any young woman's 'Soul Mate' ever been some short fat bolding frumpy Old Man?"


You assume too much, Leo. You assume I have an interest in sex, which I do not. Whoever mentioned sexual bonding? I dont give a monkeys about what the person I love looks like. Let me tell you this, until things went wrong his end of the world, I was in love with a 42 year old man with emphysema and no money to his name...I dont care about possessions...had things not gone as they had, I would have been willing to sacrifice all I had for the love I felt for this man.  I find what you say rather insulting and judgemental actually!!! It is wrong to plant all young women into one box!!!And I am not that young anyway.

Kate

[You]

The greatest love is parent for child, but even a glance at the shelves of Romantic Fiction will show that the Urge for Sexual Bonding creates at times an intensity of attraction that verges on insanity.

What KIND of love?