Maoli's Message

[Patty]

Losing one's child is truly one of life's greatest challenges. We lost our first child in 1995; she lived only 11 days.

Her death has shaped my life more than any other event. I could list the fruit of this experience, in the end all the fruits are a result of the greater compassion that such an experience brings. The fruits continue to this day.

One of the most astonishing things I have learned through losing my daughter, is that my relationship with her continues even in her absence.  Our bereavement has been such a challenging road, thankfully there are insights along the way. My love and compassion to the parents of Maoli Chan. You are not alone, and you are loved.

Patty

[Blossom]

At the moment all I can say is 'peace' to Ericko and Koji.

[iweisberg]

A child has led us.  She led us down a path of love, healing and service, and taught us with all she had.  She has touched us and will always be with us.  In this way, she has shown us the way to immortality.
The two year interval of her life, here, was the passing of one Martian year.  Mars is the ruler of violence, fever and the head.  It is the planet of war and of warriors.  We have known a brave warrior, whose stoic example is there for anyone with which to compare their own paltry mundane struggles.
Ave atque vale.
Sayonara, Maoli-SAN!
-Irwin

[Adrian]

It is very sad when any child has to leave the physical world,  and absolutely devasting for the parents and loved ones remaining.

Although little Maoli was unable to ultimately respond fully with her frail little body to all of the great healing and prayers that everyone kindly sent over these difficult weeks with great dedication, you can be sure that your prayers and healing will surely have been felt by Maoli, and will have deeply touched her very soul. Maoli will be take these blessings with her to the inner spheres where she will now be resting, and I am sure in excellent care, and while preparing for the next step along her own eternal path.

Maoli has left a powerful legacy of love and caring, and those, among other powerful messages, were what she came here to deliver, and has indeed succeeded in delivering so bravely and so completely.

Please now turn your thoughts, healing and prayers to her parents Koji and Eriko, and all who were close to her and loved her, because they will need all this love you can offer at this most difficult time.

[Julia]

Thank you Koji and Eriko for allowing us the wonderful privilege of having Maoli touch our lives.  We are all the richer for it.

May Divine Providence give you the love and strength needed to bear her loss.

Warm regards,
Julia

[SPASTRAL]

I can't begin to imagine the sense of loss that the parents are feeling now.  I can only say that Maoli is in a better place and will be shining love on her parents from heaven.

It's the ones who are left behind who suffer the most and I hope that with time, Maoli's parents pain will be eased, but not forgotten

Please accept my sincere condolences, and hope that you may come to terms with such a tragic loss.

God bless

Spencer Payne

[Lysear]

Its always tragic to lose someone I recently lost a relative and I can relate to the pain that maoli's parents must be going through. All my prayers are with them.
                          Joe

[Blossom]

This is so difficult to understand this, at least for me as I am just beginning to understand many things on many levels.  My heart goes out to you Koji and Eriko.  It really does.  No matter what any of our own personal beliefs are, this has got to absolutely devastating to you guys, the parents.  Reading Adrians message has been very helpful to me in realizing that efforts are not wasted, even with death.  And is also similiar to something Tom told me yesterday.. It all fits together now.  

Maoli taught me alot about myself during this process of her illness.  I have learned about compassion, caring and healing of others and without her parents allowing her to be included in this healing forum, those things might not have happened quite this way.. I am forever grateful to have had the opportunity to learn this way and I extend my heartfelt thanks to the parents for this.  Maoli was instrumental in my own development and acceptance of many things in my own life.  Where-ever you are Maoli, I will always think of you as a beginning and I thank you also!  And like I said once before, I will never never forget you.

She was peaceful to the end according to Doc. That is probably the greatest consolation of all.  I had been reading about this very subject for a couple of days now.  I have read that "You have to die in order to learn how to live"..  That is what Maoli is doing right now.  She is learning for her future and whatever that might be..

Sincerely and with love always, Jenn

[Windameir]

Koji and Eriko
While Maoli was ill my heart cried for her, Now she will never have to feel pain again, she is in a better place where peace love and health can embrace her. My son waits there too he strugled with brain cancer for 8 years before he lost his battle. Now my heart crys for you Koji and Eriko I know your pain. I know that the pain will never go away for you, but know that over time it will become easier to bare.
Someday our time to cross over will come and we can be together with all that we love.
Sincerest Condolences
David / Windameir

[wierdzly]

I'm sure everyone did the best that they could do at this time. Used every available method they were aware of.  I hope the best for the parents.

WEIRDZLY!

[glowworm]

Sorry to hear of your loss Koji and Eriko.

Please accept my condolences.  I will say a prayer and light a candle.

Glowworm

[Jacara]

Although I never knew Maoli-chan, I still feel like I connected with her in some small way while she was here, just from reading about her treatment and seeing those pictures.  I looked at those pictures often and prayed as well as I could for her.
I've cried a few times since I heard the news, as I'm sure most everyone else reading this has.  We all feel the loss, and we probably all wonder if we could've changed the outcome if we'd just prayed harder or more often, or sent more energy, or whatever.
But at the same time, I know she's in a better place now.  This past year was surely no fun for her (not talking because of the trach tube, not being able to run around like all toddlers do, etc), and to some extent she's better off where she is.  Those who watch John Edward will know he often talks about how those who have passed don't miss us, because to miss someone means you don't have them, and since they can still see us and be part of our lives, they don't feel that.  We, however, miss them terribly.

I will continue to pray for Maoli as she gets aquainted with her new home, and I'll pray for the comfort of those of her family left behind, as they continue to live their lives for whatever purposes God has for them here.

[wisp]

Though I'm new to this forum I have looked over Maoli's pictures a couple of times. My thoughts and prayer will be on her when I go to sleep tonight.

I hope and pray her parents have an enlightening and strengthening time while working through this sad time. A beginning of a new era,  Maoli is in a new realm now.

[Tia]

I'm sure I'm supposed to learn something from this, dont quite know what it is at the moment but I am greatful for the opportunity to have been involved in Maoli's short life, even from a distance.  Thankyou Dr T for your efforts in keeping us all in touch with the situation.

[Julia]

Dear Koji and Eriko,

It never ceases to amaze me how many lives Maoli has touched.  How could she do that?  How could she get so many people concerned about one other even though she was so far away?  How did she generate so many personal thoughts about people's meaning of compassion and caring and connection with others, no matter how far away they are, and no matter what their culture is?  Maybe Maoli's circumstances were an unexpected chance, but that little cutie mananged to turn it into a meaningful learning experience for so many.  

I read a little poem today by Edwin Markham that touched my heart:

"There is a destiny that makes us brothers:
 None goes his way alone;
All that we send into the lives of others
 Comes back into our own."

Maoli is ok.  It's you as parents I'm worried about.  Just absorb the love that is being sent to you both, and know that you will most certainly meet Maoli again.

Be strong, with love,
Julia

[n/a]

My deepest condolences to Maoli's family at their sad loss after their long and painful vigil. God's speed to Maoli on her journey, and may we be privileged to meet her again in happier circumstances.

sapien

[Dr. T]

Re: Maoli    This is Evonne, who had the pleasure and the saddness, of being with Maoli, Koji and Eriko, the last five weeks of Maoli's life. I live in Hawaii, and have been friends with the family for several years.I would like to say, that Maoli brought joy to all of us, and even though her life was a short one, she was here for a purpose. My life will never be the same, having gone through the good days, and the bad days, of Maoli's life. She was a child that brought love and blessings, to anyone that was around her.We wanted a miracle, and for her to live, and as a Christian, we all prayed for that.There were several weeks, when I was there with her, that I thought we would have that miracle. Now I know, that miracle is that Maoli will live inside us forever, and that she is in heaven with God. I would like to add, that Koji and Eriko were the most devoted parents that I have ever seen, and never left the side of Maoli, that entire year, and were there with her, as she passed into heaven. I would like everyone to know, what wonderful and devoted parents they were, and how much I myself, learned from them, watching there faith and courage, as they lost there only child.However, she is not lost, she is in heaven, and they will see her one day again, well, happy and strong.Lets all learn a leason, to love each other, our family and friends, on this earth too. To Koji and Eriko, I thank you both for letting me share this past five weeks with you, for letting me take the photos of our precious Maoli, and for letting me be part of her last time on this earth.Those days and weeks, will stay forever in my heart. I loved Maoli, with all my heart and soul, and I love you both, dear Eriko and Koji. I pray that God will give you peace, knowing that Maoli is in a safe place now, where there is no pain or suffering. She will certainly become the favorite of God's angels, as she was one of the most precious souls on this earth. I love you Eriko and Koji,  Evonne

[shorty]

Hi everyone. I'm greatly sadddened to hear of Maoli's departure. She meant so much to me, even though I never saw her or met her. I give my heart to her parents who were there for her all the time. She was a very special child, and you both should be proud of her, and yourselvs for everything.

Michael

[Dr. T]

This is Paul Tallett, from Hilo Hawaii

It has been  just over a week since being with you three.  Since returning home, from my month stay there in Japan, with Maoli, Koji and Eriko, my life has changed. The experience of being with you three, and seeing Maoli go on to heaven, will be something that I will never forget.  I thank you Koji and Eriko, for allowing me to spend this time with Maoli and you two. I admire the strength and courage you had, and  the care you gave to Maoli. To spend one year, day and night with her, always by her bedside, has shown me what real love is all about. Maoli could not of chosen better parents. I will play ukelele for her one day in heaven.

May God's peace be with you both.  My love to you , Paul

[Leyla]

I'm sorry, I know it's not a very enlightened thing to do to blame myself but I can't help but feel as if I didn't concentrate hard enough, or for long enough, or maybe I didn't light enough candels. I get the suspicion that somehow if I'd done something different the outcome would have been different.

I'm trying to think about the lesson that Maoli meant for us to get.

The preciousness of life.
How small we are, and how helpless, in the face of the natural cycles of life.
How you never know when your last day might be with a loved one.

I'm sorry. I can't write anymore.

[Blossom]

oh Leyla, I feel the same way.. I do feel I know my lesson however.  Maoli brought spirituality in my life which it was needed desperately [and I didn't know it].. But I also feel the same way that you do that maybe I should have prayed or tried tha extra 5 minutes and maybe the outcome would have been different.  But I know that is only the human side of my thinking and reasoning.  Maoli went because it was her time and many people have grown because of the prayer they offered her. In ways they probably cannot fathom.  I know I have grown and am still growing... and I wish you peace of heart Leyla.

I extend once again my compassion to Koji and Ericko and to everyone who loved this little girl in their time of grief..

With love always, Jenn

[Dr. T]

Maoli's Message

October 29, 2002

    Many of you have read my thoughts before on Maoli chan. I did not see her suffer during this ordeal and I wondered what the message might be. I feel she came to experience events of her choice, but hepatoblastoma was not one of them. I believe that in addition to the several pre-programmed exit points, there may be a bonus point established for children. Then again, she may have chosen a two-year time on Earth and opted not to take one of several other exit points that may have presented themselves along the way (i.e. initial hepatic surgery followed by pulmonary surgery x 2 and several intensive courses of chemotherapy). I have no idea of the actual situation at this point.

For me, I will distill the events of the past year as follows:

                       Inch Time Foot Gem

    A lord asked Takuan, a Zen teacher, to suggest how he might pass the time. He felt his days very long attending his office and sitting stiffly to receive the homage of others.
    Takuan wrote eight Chinese characters and gave them to the man:

   Not twice this day
   Inch time foot gem.

   This day will not come again.
   Each minute is worth a priceless gem.



Dr. T