ok, what the heck is going on with me

[Trancer1]

sorry everyone but i do really need some assistance.

i don't know whats going on with me but on the job (meaning at work) i have a problem when making eye contact with my other  workers.

i sometimes seem to emit an energy, or something and effect others and cause them to have the same problem when in my presents..

what happens is i get self conscious when breaking eye contact and at this instance its VERY difficult to do so.

whats going on with me.

this started about 2 years ago.. and i am a little mentally unstable. but still quite ok, if this makes sense.. heh

casual conversation i seem have no issues.

please help if you can..

God Bless

[Stookie]

I think you somewhat answered your own question:

what happens is i get self conscious...

I believe (to an extent) that the way we feel about ourselves is emitted out to the world. Others, especially those that are empathetic, pick up on it immediately and we become aware of our self consciousness, making it worse.

The only way I know around this is confidence. And building confidence is different for everyone. For me, meditation, looking inward, and finding out more about myself helped immensely, albeit slowly over time. As you gain confidence, you stop analyzing yourself during the situation. I'm still far from being a master of social situations, but having more confidence definitely helps.